Lockdown (almost) over and frugalling continues!

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New thread. All welcome

Wolf honestly wth is wrong with your ex. Has he no pride?
He's made of real class .... Not but then you don't need me to tell you that 🤐👺👿😠😡😤

Em you were very restrained I think. Can he not take any responsibility for his own actions at all. I'd have but the bucket over his head

Em the Dh's are just hopeless sometimes. Then other times they are wonderful. Hope you had a nap and are feeling ok now. Beautiful pictures of your DC ♥️❤️ Em & 2Princes

Tayto love your Peacock pic it's darling well done on the sorting.
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Unescorted l was wondering wth Colin was & how did you and Life know him because l didn't think you lived near each other............ then it clicked 😂😂

love that is amazing you have your dress ! 👰 10 weeks! Get your skates on missy 😍😁🤗💐AHH it's lovely to hear good news for a change 😁

Sorry please ignore my previous post, I meant to say one thing to Wolf and something else to Love but got all mixed up and accidentally posted it. I have asked for it to be removed.

What I meant to say was that it's exciting about the wedding dress and date! How lovely to have it to look forward to.

Sorry ex is being a twat Wolf, he sounds hopeless.
Sorry your dh had such a reaction too Em.

We have had a very outdoorsy weekend which has been lovely but I am absolutely shattered!

Girlfriend Your dog is gorgeous , lovely picture glad you had a lovely day

no problem mrs! Hope u like it and it does u good I especially luv the receipts section cuz I’m always losing them at Xmas. Thank u about the pics❤️ I hope u had a njce day at ur mum and bobs x

Ur dogs so cute girlie

I did send a moody email about the holiday last night and the first booking place refunded first thing - phew!

Been working much of the day (basically when not cooking). Am sooooo tired, off to bed now. Tomorrow is going to be a struggle! Done 2.5 papers, need some numbers from my finance guy to do the rest. Not sure I’m going to hit my midday deadline, argh.

Bit of all the nice outdoorsy weekends - but I’m going to take the dc to the beach this weekend and I’m really excited! I’m also going to make sure I take my non-working day off on Friday and spend it with DS. The poor boy is starved of attention, really he is.

Still Haven’t properly caught up 🙄. NSD though.

That's a relief sea.
I forecast to be lush next weekend. Gonna try our new camping stuff for one night

Don't know how you do it Sea. Hope you do meet your deadline.
Cricket's back so that was ds for the weekend! He seems to be pleased with how it went, but by last night the fatigue had well & truly caught up with him. Dd has her last day in school today. She enjoyed spending some time with my mum on Saturday & I had some lovely time here on my own.

Ha. Third paper not done - I went through the finances with my finance manager and it needs more work and a run through with my boss. I hope he doesn’t mind.

It wasn’t an nsd yesterday - I remembered that I actually bought 2x portable DVD players for the DC for our holiday (holiday house doesn’t have one and good for the car too). They don’t have tablets and also DS can’t cope with things being taken off iPlayer /streaming services so we tend to stick to DVDs old skool . I was looking at them in the morning and then miraculously they were on their flash sales thingies by he afternoon so I pounced.

I feel okay now but will probably crash later. Am still sticking to the diet and am starving right now - early lunch is in order!

Spends today: £32 on garden centre on citronella candles, a cute flowerpot for my makeup brushes (#lockdownbedroommakeoverinspiration) and a beach blanket.

Annoyingly while paying I knocked a candle holder - glass which I was buying over on the tiled counter. The lady said I could swap it but I’d have to pay for the breakage. It fell as she tried to take another item to scan and I jumped in to catch it then it slipped from
My hands.

I said no. Because she instigated the breakage - by not being careful. Apparently it’s policy. I asked for the policy. Apparently signs up all over the shop. I asked her to show them to me. Point out one or two. There was one right at the enterance (stuck to the bottom of the door which had been propped open) and one at the exit at the same place. Oh and one near cushions. None near anything easily breakable.

I said to leave the whole lot as I wasn’t paying for something I wasn’t going to use. She told
Me I’d have to. I asked to speak to the manager. Pointed out that I didn’t have to. That the breakage wouldn’t have happened if she hadn’t knocked it. And if they were that desperate for £1 to call the police and have me arrested.

Also suggested they put signs in a more visible place.

I’m not usually that arsey. But dh still in a mood. So am in a bit of a “fuck you all I’m standing up for myself” mood today.

Dh is meant to be paddleboarding this evening. I’m at dparents and am having dinner woth them. I have our car.

I start work at 130 as took a half day today.

Have asked dh how he’s going to get heavy paddleboard to and from the beach. He’s going to ask his mate who he’s going with if he can come out of his way to pick him up.

If he can’t dh has no other way of getting there. I’ve suggested I drive home leave the car and get Dm to pick me up in hers before 130 so he has options. Apparently I’m controlling what he does and don’t want him socialising.

I’ve pointed out that me having the car and therefore him not being able to go will be worse for me because he’ll blame me for “trapping”
Him in the house. Twat.

I’m working on my next move. Need to actually think whether I want to put up with this much longer.

The good times are great and it would really upset the kids if we split up. But is it worth it. Financially I’d be more than ok (archaic women favouring laws here would ensure that) but I also don’t want to do that to dh. Because it would destroy him.

Em I think you need to put yourself first when thinking about whether the relationship is worth salvaging, are you happy? What does being in a relationship give you? How supported do you feel?

Don't think too much about the wider impact atm.

Oh em I’m sorry you are having to even think about this stuff :(

(FYI I also agree re the breakage in the shop! She knocked it!)

brief answers girlie - but no at present i'm not happy. i don't feel supported.

would it be easier on my own? no. but i'm used to doing everything anyway (despite what Dh says).

today's fiasco has made me so angry. I've vented at dm who has said that i need to put things right because she couldn't bear it if we broke up . think of the children.

i've pointed out that surely it'd be better for the children if i was actually happy. which at present i'm not.

but hey ho. will give it some thought. need to sit down and speak to dh without getting emotional (because he hates that and i can never get my point across).

To steam in em if you do need to jump at some point, your dc will recover. They adapt to life as it is presented to them. And the younger they are when you do it the less they will remember about it. You need to think about your happiness.

I think we are about to go through the wringer with dp. His bloods have come back with high protein. He's off for more bloods tomorrow. Combined with his new headaches I'm a bit worried tbh.

I dropped dd1 at school, dd3 at my parents and went to B&M's. £48 in there, a huge tin of paint (it's so gloomy in the hall, dark purple needs to go!), a big box for recycling and all the usual add ons.

And £12.50 in Aldi as I forgot dog food and needed bread and bits. Plus I got a Costa as I passed ☕

Oh em this isn't for you to "fix" you are bending over backwards as it is. My parents rewrote my ex as a breadwinning Saint to "stay together for the kids". I couldn't, and had to be happy. 12 years on and my parents honestly admit that I did the right thing. Not the easy thing.

I've said that to DM just now. If i leave, then the dc will be ok. Apparently dm won't recover from something like this and i'll be forever thinking, but what if i had tried to make it work.

DM is of the opinion though that you get married fr life and its shameful to even think about leaving. so probably the wrong person to talk to. but there is no one else in real life at present.

I do need to talk to dh obviously. But at present there's just no talking to him. I've just told dm how unhappy i am at the moment. Apparently going out for dinner with dh will fix it. doubt it.

Sorry your mum isn’t being helpful about this em that’s really not the support you need!

Stair rail being fitted on Wednesday. Then they’re coming back a week later to check out the bathroom to see if they can do any adaptations in there.

Lonely hope DP is ok x

Your DM em

Mine has been awful today too!

for you. You are right, you can do this on own, no doubt about xx

Lonely hugs for you I hope things aren't as bad as you fear for dh

Em I'm sorry your mum isn't being supportive. You are not responsible for her happiness or dh's. You need to put you and the children first.

They will definitely get over it, especially as they are so small but practical things first would dh perhaps agree to some couples counselling. Or even some individual counselling to sort his own shit out if you gave him a red line. I did this with ex at one point in our marriage when he's done something he shouldn't (serious) I said get counselling or fuck off. He got counselling and things improved for a number of years.

Lonely fingers crossed for your DP.

em that isn't a helpful response from your Mum. Mine I am sure would give a similar response - except worded as You have made your bed..... blah blah blah.

sea good news about the holiday refund. I would have cried if I had to pay for 2 holidays.

I am trying to convince DD to make face masks with cheesy grins on... she is not convinced. Today was not a NSD.... we returned her financial declaration for uni.... estimate £65-75K for 3 years. EEEEEKKKK! It does include accommodation and food.