Bob's Dd
Hi
Sure your aware that father has taken your mum to his place during corona virus. Not sure what is going on as he had been avoiding me for weeks. Telling me he had been going shopping . Now says you have been getting his shopping.
He is fully aware he has to stay at home during these difficult times.
Wondering who is looking after your mum whilst she is up here. As a friend he is unable to help with her personal hygiene. ?? How is she getting up stairs safely.
Would appreciate if you could let me know what is going on as father is talking total rubbish. Saying terrible things about mother, which are untrue. He did this after coming out of hospital. Accusing her of having affairs with the neighbours.
Me
Yes l do know she's gone to stay at your Mum and Dad's. I did tell your Dad to sort it out with you before she came up and he told me you were surprised . It was your Dad's decision nothing to do with me .We were a bit apprehensive about it but they didn't want to be alone for months on end . My Mum's hygiene/medication needs are looked after by my Daughter and myself who are her official carers .We are permitted to travel to see to my Mum. We have P. P.E to wear when we go there. Mask gloves gel aprons so don't worry about her in that way . Mum is sleeping on the sofa pull out bed, if it doesn't work out we can take her home. I think when Boris Johnson said it was not advisable to go out they both knew they would be terribly lonely on their own. It was either your Dad come to stay at my Mum and Dad's or vice versa. Your Dad didn't want to stay at my parents so Mum had to go to your parents house if they were going to be together. I have been doing the shopping for your Dad for about 2/3 weeks. He paid me the first week and Mum has paid this week. There is nothing for you to worry about honestly. My Mum would not let your Dad speak badly of your Mum, my Mum liked your Mum very much. If you think about it, they can keep each other company. My Mum is still very sharp mentally. Your Dad is great physically. They will eat their food ,together watch telly together and sit on the patio in the good weather. This is a purely temporary measure. They will keep each other company and my Daughter is taking groceries for them both. It is far kinder for them to stay together than to be apart if you think about it. I hope this has put your mind at rest . Mum will be coming home asap. It is a temporary arrangement. Love
Bob's Dd
Not happy with the way he has been telling me lies. My daughter had taken meals down for him and he hasn't been there. But that I will sort with him. Have rung to see what shopping he needs and been told he has already been . He only told me yesterday when I rang that your mum is staying there.
I must be honest and say how irresponsible I feel his decision is. He is fully aware of restrictions and continues to do as he pleases.
These are all issues I will discuss with him.
Appalled at his behaviour.
Me
I don't know what has happened with you and your Dad. Mum nor l know of anything of this . I'm sorry if this has upset you . I really am. I don't know what to say to you tbh. I feel like telling Mum and getting her from there. My Mum is totally on the level . She has no axe to grind.
Bob's Dd
Don't question anything to do with your mum. This has all come about since the last time we went shopping. I told him he should be finding other interests, not just seeing your mum everyday. Explained to him, as I said to you about their age and if something happened to one of them they would be even worse. Think I have seen him once since. Have been trying to get blocks for fire down there and he has kept putting the kids off.
I do feel really angry and upset but not with you or your mum.
Don't upset your mum.
I will have this out with him when everything goes back to normality.
Me
I don't know why he doesn't want the grandchildren to come down. That is not like him. He talks about you and your children all the time, he is very proud of you all. I don't mind doing his shopping at all . I have to get ours so it's not a problem. I only go once a week now because of this virus. I won't say anything to my Mum. She would be upset and it isn't fair on her. This is just temporary. Mum will be home asap. Take care Love especially with your COPD , you can text me whenever you want to.
Then nothing till the next night when she sent me this .
How long has mum been staying with Dad??
No hello, no thank you ,nada.
I thought it so rude and l decided to tell Mum and Bob about it because I could see there was something going on.
God knows what!