The Friendly Frugaleers- Autumn is on its way !

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Hi Frugaleers
Sorry lame thread title

Morning guys.

I've got a Boden voucher code for £10 off that I won't use. Needs using by 1st September.

First REGULAR to pm me, gets it.

One, two, three.....GO

JAM That jam your dh likes is 70p off on green jinn & on offer £2 in Waitrose.

It doesn't feel any worse today but will def see a dr tomos, I think I'm going to get told off for not doing what they told me in the first place (nurses make the worst patients! !)

I'm taking the drugs and resting so can't do anymore really, did you have a slipped disc seacow? What helped in the end?

Dd is going off with some family today so that's good really as she is getting bored and I can rest!!

Oh poo. As soon as I post ds and dd3 come downstairs. Looks like I'll have company!

Why cant you just go out Lonely ?
Essential to have a bit of alone time every now and then.

Girlie if you have Naproxen and are being gentle with yourself, then seeing GP tomorrow is fine .Obviously as an RN you would know to seek medical attention if any numbness/tingling or if pain gets much worse.
It sucks
Plans for today -cleaning henhouse and run
They get all excited when the fresh bedding goes in.
Other than that NO CHORES to do
No DC are here and its so clean and tidy .
I could get used to this

Feeling a bit overwhelmed this morning, have a massive pile of ironing, feel like I should do something special with ds becUse it’s the end of the holidays and my mother thinks this is essential so family pressure but I am knackered and sore and I have big horrible workstuff looming which I can’t get out of my head! What I really fancy doing is going for a walk at the nature reserve which he will hate but which may help loosen off my hip. I’m going to hide upstairs with the ironing until he gets bored of Lego

Voucher gone!

Hope you’re okay girlie. Try not to catastrophise if you possibly can. Hard, I know. Dr Google probably isn’t your friend. Doctors tomorrow though! X

wolf I figure that if it is "essential" according to my Mum then it is anything but. If your DS is going back to school it is probably more important to have him and you ready so it isn't a stress fest on the first day. Look at it as buying yourself time in the future.... I do things like scrape up all the washing, cook a couple of freezer meals, make sandwich fillers for the first couple of days. That way I get an easy first week back. Happy me = no shouty Mummeeeee. Win for us all. If ironing does it for you go for it... personally I think that is weird but ..😋

Em it sounds as if your dh has come back to the land of the living. Long may it last.

Lonely just go without them. Why make a dull chore any more difficult by having to baby wrangle past the chocolate aisle?

I am virtual spending today. Am I the only person who finds Amazon really annoying...or maybe it is just shopping. I like to have things but cannot be arsed trying to find them. In RL or online.

Wolf
Trying to have an amazing "last day of the hols" creates way too much pressure on everyone when a nice quiet day and ensuring everything is ready plus a nice walk later is much easier on everyone.
The inevitable "new school year" anxiety causes a meltdown and everyone feels shit as its "the last day of the hols,it must be perfect"
Veteran of this and learnt the hard way !
Being prepared and then hot bath/early bed is the way forward

That's great to go and ask again Girlie. Will you tell them how tired (and/or actually sleeping during the day) you've been too? It doesn't seem like you and I keep wondering if that is a significant thing for someone to know about.

FWIW I'm feeling positively sparkly at the moment. I've had a good holiday that shook out a whole lot of stress and I have the good eating and have had lots of nice outings, which is very good. I'm always surprised how big an effect it has when we just drive 20 minutes down the road and live in a different house for a few days our house is not that bad, honestly

I recognise that scenario completely Quite. Ironically it’s not even the last last day. Dm feels the whole last week should be special but of course I am working .....
Have made a dent in the ironing whilst reading my book, can’t attest to quality of the ironing! Ds is still building Lego in his pjs.

Now that Im out the other side WolfI feel very cynical about all the "making it special" "memories/ faaaamily time" shite peddled all the time .
Way too much pressure and guess what all that pressure to be perfect/to make every moment "precious" is aimed at women.
Bullshit I say
Its actually best to let DC have some quiet time before a new school year ,they are bound to have that feeling of excitement vs anxiety .
Making evrrything "special" makes it the exact opposite.
Enjoy your ironing and hope DS enjoys his lego

Nah wolf, rest up, do your ironing and potter about. That's our plan today and the DC are loving it. We are in the same situation today. Don't feel pressured, the best memories are made (hate this making memories shite but I know some love it) are when you don't try hard.

Today's my last day at home with dc before they start back to school & ds starts big school.

He's had a meltdown, and I sent him back to bed when he refused medicine(meltdown caused by swollen tonsils) and it went all over him & 2 cushions on the couch. He screamed it out, I got schoolbooks and school bags sorted out & uniforms ready.

Made pancakes for the memories and an easy life

Dd is in the bath, ds eating his cold pancakes in front of tv, I've washed & put conditioner in my hair to leave in for the day, going to dress now, shower ds, then lunch and after that they both have friends over to play & my shopping delivery will come. Depending on how well they're playing together, I'll either batch cook or referee!

wolf have you asked ds what he would like to do? It might be that he would be happy with a duvet and film day? Or get some board games out, dd loves cluedo and monopoly atm. Absolutely you do not have to force yourself out if you don't want to! You also do not have to iron!! I don't iron anything, seriously life is too short. If you fold stuff when it's dry it doesn't really get creased anyway 😉

Dd has gone off so I'm back on the sofa, I'm wondering if it's the naproxen that's making me feel a bit spaced out and tired? My back is a bit twingy but the arm is my main worry, that pain is still constant. Am trying not to catastrophise jam but am a natural worrier unfortunately! !

My mum picked up the school shoes I ordered dd to try and I have ordered a child's size 6 back to square one then!!

Will read through but before I forget, can anybody recommend a reward chart for kids?

I hope you feel better soon @Girliefriendlikesflowers; pain is so exhausting and debilitating. It probably is the meds too though that's wearing you out.
It's feeling very autumnal today; I think it's time To start making soup; sweet potato and chorizo today I think.

Dd was delighted when a package arrived for her thanks jam

Thatsnotmybook the food medic had an Instagram pic of sweet potato & peanut butter soup I got some red peppers on Aldi super six & some tomatoes from a old work colleague last week so I'm thinking roast pepper & tomato soup

Totally agree quite social meeja makes it worse too I think. Kids don't need a series of "rainbow days" it's the day to day stuff that matters.

Our food spend last week was horrific. I have gone back to Shopandscan (they let me suspend the account while we were moving) and this time I'm determined to submit the receipt photos as well as the barcodes. As well as extra points it is easy to add up at the end of the week. Normally the receipts just get crumpled up and shoved in the changing bag or a pocket somewhere.

Trying to work out when to fit in a full day of batch cooking to get the new term off to a more organised start.

Girlie obviously I'm biased, but as far as I'm concerned, you need assessment asap by an experienced MSK physio either via your GP or Occ health. Some areas are starting "first contact" physio services where I think advanced physios are placed in GP practices and take the patients with GP appointments for MSK problems. It makes complete sense.
Quite and life I'm totally with you on all of the current "making memories" tosh. Way too much pressure on parents and that pressure, rightly or wrongly, tends to be felt more by mums. I have to say, I wasn't aware of the last day/week of the holidays being a thing. It certainly never has been here and the dc don't seem to hold it against me! What I would say is that it's interesting to talk to the dc now at the age they are and find out what they remember of their young childhood and it tends to be not what you would hope or expect it to be!!

Hope everyone is having good days. girlie good that you’re getting seen to. Sorry that you’re in pain.

wolf I too work on the basis that if Dm thinks it’s essential it probably isn’t. Eg she irons underwear and towels. I do not do this. It’s a time waster. Dh irons his and my shirts. And I iron bedding. That’s it.

We’ve had a lsd so far. Went to the country fair. Free entry as we have membership (people moaning about the enterance cost -£8.90 per adult, free for kids under 12). Loads of people there though. Ds met a shire horse. He was super friendly. He was eating his hay and having a break from work. The lady holding him let ds pat him. She asked if he wanted to (I wouldn’t have asked her as not my horse) I watned her that ds isn’t the gentlest and she pointed out horse was 18 hands and about a ton of muscle so ds giving him a good pat wouldn’t bother him. Ds loved patting him. Horse obliged and let him pat his nose too.

We then hung around and watched the apple crushing (horse hooked up to a massive stone wheel and walked around crushing apples in the crusher - I’ve never seen This before). And tried some of the juice which will eventually be turned into cider.

Ds also liked the man on massive stilts who was blowing bubbles. And enjoyed a go on the carousel with me. Yay!!!

Home for lunch and dh went to the shop for bread and milk. So probably around £3 spent. Blt’s for lunch. Mmm

Last day of our school holidays when I was a kid was a very much everyone fend for themselves and get your own stuff ready. Apart from ironing.

Dm would iron uniforms etc. And we’d have to make sure our school bags and gym kits etc were ready to go.

I'm so glad mammy, few more than you probably expected but better they get put to good use

I did wonder whether I should mention that a physio might be a good port of call Girlie, GP's, I didn't know that specific surgeries could facilitate this.

I also wondered if it was worth getting your iron levels checked perhaps?

And pain is incredibly wearing. Seriously so, I had going on 7 years with my back. The first 3 were exhausting. It's tiring for the body and affects your mood.

I agree that this making memories shit is rubbish, social meeja (great word cag) gone mad. The best memories are the spontaneous ones.

Sainsbury's and Tesco done with DS. Need to separate university spends and my own and then I'll post.

fluffy he's on Lidl jam at the minute!

Right go home - I'm in a Tesco car park.

I actually swallowed parental anxiety myself last night and let DD come home from Leeds Fest by herself as she decided to stay longer. She rolled in at about 1am. She got a taxi and was fine.

Ds eventually got dressed at about 12.30. We’ve eaten yummy independent fried chicken in a country lay-by, he is having a phone call with h and then he’s making buns. After that apparently it’s penguins of Madagascar for the 90billionth time.

I don’t think I’ve ever checked a bag of flour for weevils Quite do carefully in my lie