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Phew...

Sorted two bags for charity shop and have kept some
Of ds clothes.

Cheers Wolf!

Table looked brilliant, btw.

No eme - not the ginger one. The Captain America one.

I am too much of a republican to have watched any of the wedding, although I did have a peek at her dress and whilst she looked lovely it was not to my taste, too boring and plain in my personal opinion . Plus I hate big veils. Well. I hate all veils, I didn't wear one at all.

We have had a horrid day, our plans didn't work out as we temporarily ended up stranded in an unfamiliar town with DH's bag lost. He got it back thankfully but it was all just horrid and I had a huge panic attack which I haven't had one for months. We are both just sad and tired and stressed today but we will watch some comedy on Netflix later to cheer us up and eat some lemon cake. DH has lost his wallet 4 times in the 6 years we have been together, this time it was his entire backpack. How is that possible?! I don't know how he can be so careless. He has been so lucky getting it back every single time! We also spent like £30 or so on travel only to end up coming home and not doing what we were meant to because of all the palaver. So my whole day was gone as that took hours and I have been so exhausted ever since the panic attack so haven't done any of our household jobs. We are struggling with stress and anxiety both of us at the moment and I don't know how we are going to cope when the baby comes if we can't cope now .

Deep breaths...

meadow sorry you had such a rubbish day. Enjoy your lemon cake. You will cope when the baby comes. Promise.

I wasn’t sure I’d be able to cope either at points. But I have done. Some days when I was on leave dh would come home and my only comment about our day was that everyone was still alive and two of the three of us (catface ds and me) had eaten. Usually not me!

Meadow it might be worth getting some little gps tracking tags for belongings for dh. I was considering g getting some for h as he often lost things

Sorry you had a rubbish day meadow. Anxiety is a bitch and you will cope and you will be a good mum as you know this about yourself and people can watch you.

meadow you will be a brilliant mum.

My do nothing day turned frantic, as our littlest ferret went from normal to having a swollen neck bigger than her head within 24 hours. It was clearly full of fluid, but was visibly growing. So, an hour ago we took her to the vets. Abscess from a bite lanced. Crikey it ponged. One out of hours consult, an antibiotic injection and a wee bottle of antibiotic drops. About £100 I recon. I'll find out on monday. Sigh. But the kids were so very glad she came back alive. She's in the spare cage in the conservatory with the dogs tonight. So they're whining about the new smell.

Other spends, about £12 on food, £13 in b&m on netting and potato sacks, and £26 in b&q, 2 tomatoes, another cuecumber, 125l of compost (very heavy) a hacksaw and some pipe fittings.

I'm going to try not to spend next week. Like just not go shopping. It's worth a try. I have £9 on my co-op card which I can use for milk.

Aw Meadow that sounds shit... and your anxiety will be heightened anyway because of the big changes ahead of you, and hormones... Try not to beat yourself up about feeling you can’t cope. Tbh you will have days like this as a parent too because we ALL do. Could be some proper tricky scenario, or it could just be a baby who won’t sleep /eat/stop crying for no obvious reason. It happens to all of us. It really does. I don’t believe there’s any parent on this thread who hasn’t just sat and cried and cried, or screamed into the pillow, or panicked at some point. Maybe that isn’t a very comforting thought (!) but please don’t think that just because you will have days like that's you are not going to do a good job. Nobody is a perfect parent. You will be great.

Sigh. My helper for the 2 days next week that DH reeeeeeaaaaallly needs to go to work has fallen through. So I have to find someone ASAP or make the choice of making DH miss his important meetings (think annual reviews where he has an active role) or manage the kids on my own for those days. I’m slowly becoming more mobile but am very scared about having a relapse and particularly when unavoidably lifting DD. Especially if I am alone with the kids. Eek.

TMI alert: I also have rampant thrush. Talk about kicking a woman when she’s down!

Anyway, onwards and upwards. I’ve just scoffed a mini magnum. It was delish. I’m peed off with the nightmare logistics (e.g. I have 5 (!) different helpers just to get through Tuesday) and am fed up of not being independent but I’m still feeling okay underneath it all. I’m lucky to be pretty resilient mentally. Hopefully my body will catch up 😬😁

One good thing: I have resolved with my mum what we are going to do about the not-a-eulogy at dad’s funeral. I will speak, not a traditional eulogy but something about dad that mum’s really pleased with. I just have to find a quiet moment to write it. DH is going to be my understudy and will step in and read it if I fall apart.

Sea glad ye have come to a decision on your fathers funeral mass, hope it goes well for you

Spent the day at a holy communion celebration today, just home & in my pjs now. Dc had a fantastic time, barely saw them from 1pm to 8pm. I took them home & made them supper and left H to it to mind them then while I returned to the pub.
I've spent €40. €5 on a charity raffle €4.25 on a southern fried chicken burger and remainder on soda waters & lime for me and numerous juices and fizzy drinks for dc, so much money and nothing to show for it, but enjoyable day.
Checked on dc and they're panned out. I suggested a pj day tomo and it's obviously been too long as ds said a day that you stay in your pjs all day & not get dressed with a quizzical voice and look

Drank way too much yesterday. Pimms, gin and a shot of bacon vodka (was as gross as it sounds!) then dh was being a twat and wouldn't pick us up so the dc and I had to stay at a friends over night. We're all knackered today. Just went to McDonald's for breakfast which was £11.

Glad you have things sorted Sea that sounds lovely
With regard to your back,could you childproof and create a one room "microenvironment" or rather could DH ?
I had no help other than DH but granted both DC at the time NT and eldest was very willing easily manipulated as a 3 year old and would fetch stuff/do as I saidthat didnt last
DH made lunch/flasks and I lay there like ladymuck .Plenty of books and Pingu got us through !
Gardening and baking today .Its lovely here.

Morning. I like the sound of a child safe room.

Our little ferret is ok this morning, bright snd eating well. I was so scared she'd die in the night, especially as we'd rushed her to the vets!

It's grey and windy here. Going to make waffles for brunch, and rummage in the freezer for tea. I think theres a turkey leg in there.

Foggy here today. Dads just rang. Can I go round as Dm has a sick bug? Er no. (I felt awful saying no but I super duper don’t want it...) he’s thinking about taking her to out of hours but I had to tell him not to. It will pass.

Have spoken to Dm. She sounds poorly. Poor thing and is worried about not being able to have ds tomorrow. Have pointed out that bugs are contagious so probably best he doesn’t come round. Either dh or I will take a day tomorrow.

I’m bleaching everything in sight today. Just in case. Everything. Im also feeling very panicky and anxious. Dh said yesterday he felt nauseous. Hopefully he doesn’t get it.

We’re suspecting ds May be the culprit. But he hasn’t had any real symptoms other than a few “loose” (no where near diarrhoea like) nappies and one sick Tuesday. Can you pass on a tummybug with no symptoms yourself? Can you get a mild bug? So confusing.

Dh has also spoken to mil this morning. She arrives on Friday.

Usually if its viral D&V its very easily passed on -only ingesting a few virus particles can transmit.This is why 48hr exclusion is recommended and copious handwashing .
Obvs DC putting fingers in mouths etc means they are more likely to get it.
Not much point in DM going to OOH unless she has it longer than 48hrs etc
They will just give the usual advice of exclusion sips fluid etc.
Why does your DF want you to go round DONT go !!!
Yes I have emetophobia and literally have been known to leave and not come back if anyone mentions they have had a bug or nausea .

Yes em ds could well be the culprit. Doesn't mean you'll get it, you know mums have super powers? Our whole house had a sick bug about 18 months ago but I avoided it 💪🏽

em I think your DS has probably passed the bug onto your DM. Why does your dad want to take her to OOH is she feeling really unwell with it?

It’s odd though because ds hasn’t really shown any signs of it. But hey ho. Fingers crossed he doesn’t start. Or dh. (Or me!)

Ddad is just panicking I think. I’ve reminded him of the signs that are up at hospital (where out of hours is located) and at our dr’s which day in huge red letters (on the door)” fuck off will ya if you’ve got tummy bugs right?!” Paraphrasing obvs but that’s the gist.

Dsis is staying with them. She keeps sending me 🤢 faces. She’s bleaching everything in sight. That’s my job today too.

Have just emailed work and asked for a half day tomorrow. Dh can take the afternoon off so if I take the morning we should be fine. I’d take the day but need to go to the dentist and also actually have work to do!

It’s horrible juggling childcare when there’s bugs going around. Hope your mum recovers quickly and that your dad doesn’t take it. Is your DS due at nursery after Monday anyway?

Yes! Ds is at nursery usually tues-thurs. Mum and dad have him Monday’s and Fridays.

It’s tough. And I expected to have to do the work/child juggle just not yet. This is week 4 back at work....

Lonely Glad ferret is ok. I am still sad about our guinea pig sometimes especially also sad that our other pig is all alone. We have tried finding him a friend or two but to no avail, there are hardly any rescue pigs around here and we really don't want to go and just buy a baby from a pet shop. I feel so bad watching him all alone but he is basically his normal self so I know I shouldn't worry too much but they are herd animals so it's just not right.

Hope your DM is ok em. D&V is grim, DH had norovirus last winter and he was sooo ill, I don't think I've seen him that poorly before ever. I was terrified I would get it but somehow managed to escape unscathed!! Lots of bleaching and hand washing was involved! But yeah no need to attend OOH like you said, she'll just pass it on to everyone else there and they won't be able to do anything for her anyway.

Spent like £70 on Asda shop which will come Tuesday evening. Seems steep but I think about £17ish was baby formula, eek...

Lovely weather here today but I can't be fucked leaving the house, have chores to do and need to rest. My sleep is really bad atm. I feel like it's the end of my pregnancy and I'm exhausted and need to sleep before baby comes, but I can't bloody sleep properly! Does your body just get you ready for the night wakings before the baby is even here?! Plus it doesn't help I got up to pee 4 times last night . That is a new record.

Ooh I forgot to mention two small frugal wins. I ordered some stuff from Superdrug but the bottle of baby shampoo leaked in the box and went all over the stuff. I complained (nicely) on Twitter and they sent me another bottle of it which is nice. I also complained (nicely lol) on Twitter to Iceland because the last two deliveries I've had from them, some of the fruit has been going off already and/or really smushed/battered, and they gave me £10. Sweet.

Em Yes sometimes a very mild thing in one person can be nasty in another. Has your ds had his rotavirus vaccine yet? I know it's scary to deal with these things. I don't like them either. The good thing is that the messy phase usually passes quickly, and then it's just the recovery which is usually a slow business for us.

With norovirus the incubation time from exposure to symptoms is usually 12 to 24 hours and with every other kind of tummy bug we've had it's been exactly 5 days. The good thing about the 5 day sort is that just as the second person gets it, the first is starting to be okay-ish again.

sunny yes he’s had the rotavirus vaccine. He seems fine in himself though. He’s eating and drinking so that’s good. He never wasn’t.

Dsis is a teacher so she’s said there are horrible bugs going around at present. So we’re doing lots of hand washing, bleaching, staying hydrated, and keeping windows open. I figure the more fresh air we get the better...