The Fantastic Frugalleers Meander into May.....

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Thought it was about time I started a new thread

Have phoned tax credits and updated my income. Wasn't too bad, presumably because you can do most things online now. Going to make veggie curry for dinner yum. With a nice crunchy side salad, naan, popadoms and mango chutney.

Em Anxiety is a difficult thing. I suffered when DH's bi-polar was at it's height. It nearly started again when we got the horse box, and started to get nervous thinking about driving it. Ipsos sums it up well, it's the fear of the fear, rather than the reality of the doing. I got beta blockers from the GP, I think I have taken maybe half a strip of them in 2 years, but they do slow your heart rate and help you think a touch more clearly.

I've lost track of the thread a little, sorry.

NSD today in cash. £30 Abel and Cole.

NSD. Going to pick my tiles up

wreck you reminded me, I punched in our numbers in revenue offline to see what my tax return for 2015 will come to and it's all systems go for dropping my second night of classes, my second job going to make the phone call on the way home from work this evening [happy]

Glad to read that yours wasn't too bad.
Will your dh eat the salad

I'm going to put it on his plate so he has to

Lsd day today. Off to Zumba in a bit. Looking under the new leaf whilst trying to decide whether to turn it over. £4 and £2 for cubs

babs, you're sidling up to turning over a new leaf - lots of luck. I need to start exercising again too, it makes me feel so much better.

Better afternoon. Had some kale chips hipster and buckets of peppermint tea. Popped into boots on the way back and bought some rescue remedy. And some valerian root stuff.

Dh is making rissotto for dinner with chillis broccoli and spinach and mackerel. He's helping by focussing on food. Completely taking the thought out of it for me. I just need to eat it. He spent his lunchtime sorting out lunches and a shopping list with me in mind. I'm still not really back "on" food I'll eat but only because I have to. Nothing I've really wanted for ages (except for Saturday's afternoon tea!!! And then the cheese on toast for the train and the nandos after). So he's at least making sure I eat properly. One less thing for me to worry about I guess

I think you're right. It's the fear of the fear. Today I felt a bit sicky (normal I've learned because of the period). And quietly freaked out that I was going to throw up. Gave myself a quiet talking to. "What's the worst that can happen Ems. So you throw up. So what? It's not like you're going to die. You may get to go home etc" and it went away. Eventually.

In other news. Our new bathroom has arrived! So soon hopefully the work starts and it'll all be fitted. I'm so looking forward to having a bath!!!!

Also read yesterday that cats are great for anxiety. So have sent Dh the article suggesting we get a cat. For medicinal purposes. 🐈🐈🐈🐱

Also £3.40 from my betfair account can be withdrawn so have popped that into my account and 3 things have sold on eBay so £19 ish in PayPal account. Yippee!

Hi all, have managed a nsd yay!

Dd went off on her London this morning, I had a little tear on the way to work. I know she will be fine and hopefully have a fantastic time but God its hard to let them go!!

Anyway Em have been there and got the t.shirt with anxiety, I found this book extremely helpful very useful book

I had an extremely bad reaction to antidepressants and they are actually made the symptoms much much worse I wonder if I actually suffer with a form of OCD whereby certain thoughts get stuck on repeat iyswim? Also found mindfulness helpful in terms of realising that thoughts are not necessarily true or real.

Anyway going to make the most of a quiet evening without dd and do some packing!

Definitely get the cat em! Pets do have amazing calming qualities! That's great that you dh is helping in a really practical way. I've completely lost my mojo for preparing meals recently - had a bowl of cereal for tea last night!

Happy packing girlie! I bet there were lots of emotional parents waving off very excitedly independent children!

Had to buy DD an emergency school dinner (first time this year!) so £2 something and dh did an emergency top up shop (although no milk for more cereal ) and he needed razor blades so close to £30.

That programme sounds good tayto.
Em sorry to hear you are having such a stressful time. I am too and I have to say the main thing that makes me feel better is having my evening sit with cat. He curls up on my lap and purrs until he falls asleep and it's really soothing. The only problem of this is that I am then stuck in one position and I daren't move!
Another long and stressful day today but it was an NSD, and I used up leftovers to make delicious bubble and squeak so at least it was a frugal day. Looking forward to watching the footie with the cat!

£1.20 on a cheese and onion pasty from Greggs. In my defence, I knew I wouldn't be eating until late, as I had Pilates. I felt too tired to go, after working all last week and today and doing all my housework and laundry yesterday, but I am so glad I made myself go.

For me, Citalopram has been a miracle for anxiety. I went on it 3 years ago for depression, but it's anxiety that it's fixed. I had extreme anxiety in my teens, which had improved to a constant low-level worry and panic, but I didn't realise how much it still affected me until I was stable on Citalopram. I am on the lowest dose of 10 mg, but I can't imagine ever coming off it.

I'm like that with sertraline creme and, actually, if it hadn't be for you lot I never would have realised I had a problem and sought help for it. I now go out and do exercise and have made more friends!

Enjoy babs
wreck
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Located the programme on rte player tayto will start watching tomo going to bed now

We're being very frugal may thread still going on June 20th!!

Made it to zumba and remained vertical -result.
Few fresh bits needed today

Well done babs!

Dh was meant to be paid yesterday and hasn't been so we are £80 pat our overdraft as our rent has come out

That's a real pain wreck. Hope he gets paid today.
Off to the supermarket in a minute with quite a short list so hopefully it won't be too expensive.

Good work babs I can never remain vertical in Zumba. I always trip over my feet...

Payday today! Balances are:

Joint ac £1054

My ac £481

Purse £11.

Todays spends £50 accupuncture session. I also need to check whether my medical insurance will reimburse me for this. They do complimentary therapies so am hoping they will just accept the reciept from the therapist and don't need a doctors note. Will call them today and see.

Sometimes you need to be a member of a particular guild etc before they pay out.

I bet his boss pays himself on time wreck

£51 on weekly shop - even better than last week!
I feel sick thinking about work even on my day off. It is short-term stress I think as it's the busiest time of the year but it's still horrible. I haven't felt this bad for a few years I think. I'm not sleeping well and my IBS has flared up. Not sure what I can do except plough through.

Fluffy!! I need your help!! I'm trying to sort out flights with Ryanair and just got hung- up on by customer services. I'd like to email the CEO (as I know you would advise!!) but can't find the email address - any ideas? I think they're purposefully elusive!

After building myself to call area manager to hand in my notice on one of my classes last night she's out of the country, she did text to know if everything was ok but I will make contact with her when she returns.

em nice healthy bank balances
I had my apple storage plan payment come out this morning 99c out of my 70c balance so I swiftly transferred 29c from joint account to avoid a €5 referral fee. Have marked date of payment on YNAB to avoid this happening in the future and set it up as a recurring transaction.

I'm trying to build up my tesco points in order to boost them to pay for a ferry crossing for holidays next year, instead of making auto payments from joint account debit card to Littlewoods and Electric Ireland I'm now going to make them by cc, have budgeted for this by increasing my weekly payment to cc.

ursula this link might help Email the boss mcafee won't let me load it here at work

babs well done on the zumba class

£1.64 on milk and bread in the shop. I am trying to avoid a big shop this week and think I'll manage it. Loads of food in the freezer and some fruit and veg to do us till next week.