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My son has covid and my partner is annoyed

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mummytotwoboys0600 · 27/01/2022 19:07

Okay so... my 6 year old tested positive for covid this morning. We live with my partner (his step dad) and our son who is 13 months old and I'm currently 6 months pregnant.
He has completely thrown his toys out of the pram and is refusing to come home because my son has it. I've been keeping him away as much as possible, disinfecting everything, wearing a mask around him. Obviously I don't want to catch it either.
He's in a real strop with me over it all and is like it's all my fault he can't come home. He reckons he is sleeping in his car for the next 5 days. I mean seriously 😳
I'm literally left to look after two children, a baby and a sick child all whilst being pregnant. He has the next 3 days off work. He's refusing to take our child out any day case he has caught it.
Am I being unreasonable to feel completely upset by this whole situation. I feel abandoned.

OP posts:

treeflowercat · 28/01/2022 07:41

@Jacaranda75

Let him sleep in his car. He can park outside the house and you can take his meals out to him. He’ll soon get bored.

Why the hell would you enable his behaviour by cooking his meals in this situation? Hell no! OP, please don't be a doormat and take this terrible advice.

treeflowercat · 28/01/2022 07:58

I'm not sure where you live OP, but there was a frost here in eastern England last night... If he stayed in his car without so much as a blanket, his risk from hypothermia dwarfs any risk he may have from Covid!

Jacaranda75 · 28/01/2022 10:08

@treeflowercat sorry that didn’t come across how I meant it to. I certainly wasn’t suggesting she be a doormat, but humour his nonsense.

EvilPea · 28/01/2022 10:15

Catching it within the household seems to be more unusual than usual. I can’t remember the exact stat but it was below 25% chance.

He being a cock. But you know that

Flaxmeadow · 28/01/2022 10:19

Is your partner vaccinated?

alreadytaken · 28/01/2022 10:28

Are you both vaccinated? If not to protect you and your unborn child he should be the one minding the children and you staying away as much as possible.

He is behaving in a very irrational way, I 'd give him a blanket but I wouldnt make any meals for him or facilitate his wierdness. I would also be reassessing whether I wanted to stay with him after he put his own safety before mine and an unborn child.

whynotwhatknot · 28/01/2022 10:37

Well hes reliable isnt he-what happens when a proper crisis arises

tell himt o grow the fuck up

thewhatsit · 28/01/2022 10:45

This is really bad.
He says he is a grown man and if he wants to do what he can to avoid it then I should respect it. But he’s also a PARENT? Has he forgotten that?

When you move in with someone who has children you take on responsibilities. He also has 1 child of his own and another on the way. What the hell gives him the right to just leave his parenting duties behind?

I really couldn’t care less what kind of infectious illnesses my children have - I’m going to care for them and look after them regardless because that’s my JOB.

SmellyOldOwls · 28/01/2022 10:57

@Jacaranda75

Let him sleep in his car. He can park outside the house and you can take his meals out to him. He’ll soon get bored.

So she's got covid and she's supposed to cook and deliver his meals while he huffs in the car? JFC

FacebookPhotos · 28/01/2022 11:05

OP, does he normally consider himself an equal parent to your shared DC? Even his reaction short-lived it isn't okay when he has a child to take care of. No normal parent would even consider opting out of caring for their own child.

WonderfulYou · 28/01/2022 11:10

I hope you locked the door and didn’t let him back in.

I don’t know many people who would allow themselves to be treated like this.

T00Ts · 28/01/2022 11:20

I've been keeping him away as much as possible, disinfecting everything, wearing a mask around him

Please don’t do this. He’s six. If you’re going to get it, you’re going to get it. Poor kid.

Sorry to sound all AINU-level blunt but your partner sounds like an awful person and a worse father.

starsaligned · 28/01/2022 14:17

What a horrible man. Would he react this way if it were his own child who got covid? Does he always single out your son? My ds had it recently and there's no way my dh (his stepdad) would have reacted like this because he we are a family regardless of genetics. I would be tempted to lock the door and isolate from him permanently.

samyeagar · 28/01/2022 16:08

Unfortunately, his reaction is not exactly rare. A lot of people have been driven to extreme over the top reactions by the two years and counting of daily, relentless, drumbeat scare tactics.

Even after all of this time, there are still people who feel as if catching covid is a death sentence, people still believing they need to go to hospital just for testing positive, we still see threads here from people surprised that households have people mixing and some are positive, and some stay negative.

It really sucks having a partner so swayed in that direction by the relentless Public Relations campaign, just as it would not be pleasant having a partner going down the 5G conspiracy road.

The best you can do is hang in there

treeflowercat · 28/01/2022 18:11

@EvilPea

Catching it within the household seems to be more unusual than usual. I can’t remember the exact stat but it was below 25% chance.

He being a cock. But you know that

I think that was for the initial Covid virus... Omicron is far more contagious!

dementedpixie · 28/01/2022 18:14

Dh had covid just after Christmas and the other 3 in the household didn't catch it. I slept in the same bed and shared the same living space with him. The 2 kids avoided us a bit more but as they're teenagers they do that anyway!

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 28/01/2022 18:34

I had covid in July then again just after new year and no one in the house caught it off me either time. I couldn't be arsed being with such a pathetic man child as him. I'm sure he hasn't spent the last 2 years sat in his house away from everyone else just incase he catches it

Toty · 28/01/2022 18:47

I've been keeping him away as much as possible, disinfecting everything, wearing a mask around him. Obviously I don't want to catch it either.

Please don't do this. Parents need to stop treating their kids like biohazards. I can't imagine what it's doing to their mental health. We're going to end up with a whole generation of kids with OCD and health anxiety.
I've just been holed up with my covid positive ds for 10 days. I didn't do any of that and I didn't get covid.

Summersdreaming · 28/01/2022 18:50

I doubt the OP will update..

Cripesitsthegasman19 · 28/01/2022 19:26

@samyeagar

Unfortunately, his reaction is not exactly rare. A lot of people have been driven to extreme over the top reactions by the two years and counting of daily, relentless, drumbeat scare tactics.

It really sucks having a partner so swayed in that direction by the relentless Public Relations campaign, just as it would not be pleasant having a partner going down the 5G conspiracy road.

The best you can do is hang in there

I agree with this. We've all been beaten into submission by fear tactics. I know so many people still terrified of catching covid despite being triple vaccinated.

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