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My son has covid and my partner is annoyed

170 replies

mummytotwoboys0600 · 27/01/2022 19:07

Okay so... my 6 year old tested positive for covid this morning. We live with my partner (his step dad) and our son who is 13 months old and I'm currently 6 months pregnant.
He has completely thrown his toys out of the pram and is refusing to come home because my son has it. I've been keeping him away as much as possible, disinfecting everything, wearing a mask around him. Obviously I don't want to catch it either.
He's in a real strop with me over it all and is like it's all my fault he can't come home. He reckons he is sleeping in his car for the next 5 days. I mean seriously 😳
I'm literally left to look after two children, a baby and a sick child all whilst being pregnant. He has the next 3 days off work. He's refusing to take our child out any day case he has caught it.
Am I being unreasonable to feel completely upset by this whole situation. I feel abandoned.

OP posts:
Theunamedcat · 27/01/2022 21:00

Leave the key in the lock so he can't sneak in and get his home comforts in

Nameandgamechange123 · 27/01/2022 21:00

Change the locks

WeeFae · 27/01/2022 21:04

Please protect your son from this man who clearly dislikes him.

PastMyBestBeforeDate · 27/01/2022 21:13

Once the dc are in bed, lock the door, turn off the WiFi and have an early night. Hopefully he'll come to his senses.

Unanananana · 27/01/2022 21:19

Ewww, how massively unsexy! A man who has abandoned his pregnant partner with small children because he is scared of catching covid? Is he not vaccinated? Is he CV? Why is he so scared?

He is a childish bellend who will be back in the house as soon as he realises how cold it is and he needs a wee-wee or a drinkie. I'd change the bloody locks and if I was feeling generous, put his clothes in bin bags and a piss bucket on the doorstep.

Wizzbangfizz · 27/01/2022 21:19

Wow what a catch he sounds, awful.

Wolfiefan · 27/01/2022 21:24

Kind and hands on? You’ve posted about him before. Never doing anything. Leaving you to do all chores including putting his shoes away. Confused

Bananarama21 · 27/01/2022 21:32

I recognise your name your the poster who's partner moved away from his two dds and you expected them to sleep in a Harry Potter Hallway. You expected your dp to take on your son and exclude his dd. I see you now expecting another so he will have 4 dc plus your son aswell. He was a terrible dad to his dds and didnt prove much for your dc.

oatmilk4breakfast · 27/01/2022 21:32

What an absolute test. Is he not vaccinated and all worried about catching it poor thing? (Sarcasm) what are his feelings for his child, not to mention yours? And you’re most vulnerable being pregnant. Seriously what an absolute prick. I’m sorry for you. Probably not the answer you wanted, but my husband made a comment earlier about needing to keep distance from our covid positive 7 year old and I just thought, seriously?

oatmilk4breakfast · 27/01/2022 21:33

By absolute test, I of course meant twat! My predictive text phone is just more polite than me

MananaTomorrow · 27/01/2022 21:34

He says he is a grown man and if he wants to do what he can to avoid it then I should respect it

He is also a father who has no issue with

  • leaving his own child in contact with someone with covid, thé illness he is worried to get
  • leaving his pregnant partner, who is in her 3rd trimester with a child who has covid, and therefore at risk of catching it
  • leaving his pregnant partner deal with two Dcs whilst in her 3rd trimester because he has a strop.

Where exactly is he showing that he is a grown man who knows what his responsibilities as a father and partner are??

DirtyDancing · 27/01/2022 21:35

So he has left his pregnant wife to get it / get on with it and won't support you.

I don't think I could forgive this. Ever

VioletOcean · 27/01/2022 21:44

Your son is also his as he’s stepdad, makes me wonder if he’d have reacted differently if his biological child got covid. He should feel and act the same with all the kids

LSLLM · 27/01/2022 21:54

Step dad my arse, how did he gain that title.

Any real dad would be straight over to ensure his partner and kid was supported.

GrazingSheep · 27/01/2022 22:04

He says he is a grown man and if he wants to do what he can to avoid it then I should respect it

You know he’s not a good person or a great dad.
He’s happy for you to do everything and not lift a finger to help you.

Branleuse · 27/01/2022 22:10

What a prick. Shouldnt he be more worried about you catching it?

Summersdreaming · 27/01/2022 22:44

How pathetic. I'm sure if he caught it first he'd expect you to wait on him hand and foot

MichelleScarn · 27/01/2022 22:47

So are you . I've been keeping him away as much as possible, disinfecting everything, wearing a mask around him. Obviously I don't want to catch it either. as that doesn't tally with giving lots of love and cuddles?

MichelleScarn · 27/01/2022 22:49

@Bananarama21

I recognise your name your the poster who's partner moved away from his two dds and you expected them to sleep in a Harry Potter Hallway. You expected your dp to take on your son and exclude his dd. I see you now expecting another so he will have 4 dc plus your son aswell. He was a terrible dad to his dds and didnt prove much for your dc.
Oh ffs, and.youre surprised op he's being a dick?

Poor fucking kids, so is this a you did this to my dd I'll do that to your ds play off?

ilovemyboys3 · 27/01/2022 23:14

@Bananarama21

I recognise your name your the poster who's partner moved away from his two dds and you expected them to sleep in a Harry Potter Hallway. You expected your dp to take on your son and exclude his dd. I see you now expecting another so he will have 4 dc plus your son aswell. He was a terrible dad to his dds and didnt prove much for your dc.
That's not the same person
saraclara · 27/01/2022 23:50

Does he generally have health anxiety?

TalkToTheHand123 · 28/01/2022 00:01

Seems quite convenient. Has he recently decorated his man cave?

TalkToTheHand123 · 28/01/2022 00:04

What's he doing for food and toilet?

SleepingStandingUp · 28/01/2022 00:11

Hope you locked the door so he couldn't get back in op

FrecklesMalone · 28/01/2022 00:13

He is a dick. You are the one at risk being pregnant. He should be doing everything to protect you. Selfish twat.