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My son has covid and my partner is annoyed

170 replies

mummytotwoboys0600 · 27/01/2022 19:07

Okay so... my 6 year old tested positive for covid this morning. We live with my partner (his step dad) and our son who is 13 months old and I'm currently 6 months pregnant.
He has completely thrown his toys out of the pram and is refusing to come home because my son has it. I've been keeping him away as much as possible, disinfecting everything, wearing a mask around him. Obviously I don't want to catch it either.
He's in a real strop with me over it all and is like it's all my fault he can't come home. He reckons he is sleeping in his car for the next 5 days. I mean seriously 😳
I'm literally left to look after two children, a baby and a sick child all whilst being pregnant. He has the next 3 days off work. He's refusing to take our child out any day case he has caught it.
Am I being unreasonable to feel completely upset by this whole situation. I feel abandoned.

OP posts:
Bananarama21 · 27/01/2022 20:34

What happens when he gets older and he does something to displease him. Completely disgusting behaviour.

Steelesauce · 27/01/2022 20:34

You clearly don't like the replies. This is not normal behaviour, it isn't a tantrum. He isn't a child. Stop making excuses! Its awful to treat a child this way.

CustardGoodJamGoodMeatGood · 27/01/2022 20:36

How selfish. If 2yo DD caught it, my DP would make bloody sure that he did most of the care as I'm 6 months pregnant myself, he wouldn't avoid her and just leave everything to me. What on earth is he playing at

Eightiesfan · 27/01/2022 20:36

I think OP just needed to vent and some of the replies are outrageous. She is clearly a good mum and yes her DP is being ridiculous, but some people are just so completely OTT in their anxiety about catching COVID that you can’t really reason with them. I’m sure he will come around and realise how mad his reaction to this is.

TheChip · 27/01/2022 20:36

@Steelesauce

You clearly don't like the replies. This is not normal behaviour, it isn't a tantrum. He isn't a child. Stop making excuses! Its awful to treat a child this way.
100% this
Flickflak · 27/01/2022 20:37

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Bananarama21 · 27/01/2022 20:37

Not one person has said his behaviour is acceptable he is a child he isn't an adult going out socialising going to partys, poor thing.

Original poster
mummytotwoboys0600 · 27/01/2022 20:38

@Eightiesfan

I think OP just needed to vent and some of the replies are outrageous. She is clearly a good mum and yes her DP is being ridiculous, but some people are just so completely OTT in their anxiety about catching COVID that you can’t really reason with them. I’m sure he will come around and realise how mad his reaction to this is.
Thank you
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Cherryblossoms85 · 27/01/2022 20:40

Wow love his logic. It's ok for him to avoid it and you should respect his decision? What if you wanted to avoid it? No one walks about keen to catch COVID!! But we all have obligations. Wanker.

CombatBarbie · 27/01/2022 20:41

Not being funny but he probably already has it...... So let him sleep in the car....

itispersonal · 27/01/2022 20:42

I'd just say he has infectious before he even tested positive, so there's no point staying away now.

I'd lock him out for the night, let him sleep in the car and you try and get a good nights sleep!

itispersonal · 27/01/2022 20:42

Was infectious not has

minipie · 27/01/2022 20:43

Does he have health conditions?
Is he self employed and worried about losing income if he gets it?

Not that this excuses his behaviour, at all. Just wondering what might lie behind the massive overreaction.

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 27/01/2022 20:44

When he catches it himself at some point, as most of us are likely to make him sleep in the bloody car again

TheOccupier · 27/01/2022 20:45

@Bananarama21

What does he expect you to do send your ds away. Please be a decent mum and get rid of this horrible arsehole, your deserves so much more.
Agreed. Why would you set up home with a coldhearted, selfish arsehole who clearly doesn't care about your young son, then go on to have 2 more babies in 2 years? Your poor little boy.
NerrSnerr · 27/01/2022 20:45

What's wrong is your comment. My son has no idea and as a good mum I will keep that from him. My partner works shifts and is often out when we are home so it's no different! Why are there always some people who can turn it around 🙄

Parents kid themselves that children are oblivious to issues between parents/ step parents but they're not. I'd be very surprised if this is the first time he has been selfish or acted like an arsehole to you or your son.

He would rather his pregnant partner catches covid over himself and blames a very small child. How can you come back from this?

eatyourcrustspls · 27/01/2022 20:46

What is he like with your son normally?

2pinkginsplease · 27/01/2022 20:46

What a dick!
I would have lost all respect for him, he’s left you pregnant to look after your 2 children , one who has covid.

I would be livid.He is very selfish. Not a great trait to have.

I had covid last week as did my youngest child and my dh was amazing, we just worse masks in the house but he would never have reacted like your oh. He also never caught it.

gugh · 27/01/2022 20:46

I react like that when somebody is ill. I don't think clearly but return to normal in an hour or so. I have no clue why I react like that. It doesn't happen when dc are I'll but does happen when Dh is sick. It has happened with my exs too. If I am I'll I just dose paracetamol and behave as I would be healthy. Not resting it has always been so since childhood.

WorstXmasEver · 27/01/2022 20:48

If he's vaxxed he should try catch it. I had covid & it was extremely mild & only lost sense of smell for a few days.

Everyone is going to catch it eventually anyway.

JustWonderingIfYou · 27/01/2022 20:51

What a spineless weasel!

Looking out for number 1 only!

Showing you who's important- him and only him. Not his toddler, not you nor your unborn baby. Any decent man would have offered to take the 6 year old somewhere to protect the more vulnerable of you.

WhateverHappenedToFayWray · 27/01/2022 20:51

What an absolute prick. It's probably a good thing that he is refusing to come home tbh as I wouldn't even want him around me let alone my child. I currently have covid that I have caught from my 7 year old and I would never blame her or be cross, infact I was cuddling up to her because she was shivering so badly and couldn't get warm because that's what you do when you're parent (or step parent). Vile man

SmellyOldOwls · 27/01/2022 20:51

Red flags. I'd tell him to stay away for good if he's not coming home. You don't need someone being pissed off at your son for being ill. What the fuck.

Magicandspiders · 27/01/2022 20:52

Your poor boy. Keeping him away as much as possible. He is 6 for god's sake. Your partner sounds horrid!

Mumoblue · 27/01/2022 20:54

Personally I’d be changing the bloody locks. Let him sit in his car and shiver.

I get that you are keeping this from your son, but it shows a concerning attitude towards you and your son.
I’ve admittedly got an extremely low tolerance for bullshit, but I’d be considering binning him.