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My son has covid and my partner is annoyed

170 replies

mummytotwoboys0600 · 27/01/2022 19:07

Okay so... my 6 year old tested positive for covid this morning. We live with my partner (his step dad) and our son who is 13 months old and I'm currently 6 months pregnant.
He has completely thrown his toys out of the pram and is refusing to come home because my son has it. I've been keeping him away as much as possible, disinfecting everything, wearing a mask around him. Obviously I don't want to catch it either.
He's in a real strop with me over it all and is like it's all my fault he can't come home. He reckons he is sleeping in his car for the next 5 days. I mean seriously 😳
I'm literally left to look after two children, a baby and a sick child all whilst being pregnant. He has the next 3 days off work. He's refusing to take our child out any day case he has caught it.
Am I being unreasonable to feel completely upset by this whole situation. I feel abandoned.

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Aroundtheworldin80moves · 27/01/2022 19:33

It would be Dont bother coming back ever from me too tbh. And thats from someone whose DH had to stay at work when our DDs had it (he weekly commutes. They have isolation rules for a good reason.)

Give your son a massive hug. He'll need it right now being ill.

gamerchick · 27/01/2022 19:35

Tbh it would be better he has his tantrum out of the house. Let him get on with it. Think I would see him in a different light long term though.

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mummytotwoboys0600 · 27/01/2022 19:37

I've been giving my son lots of love and cuddles so no one needs to worry about that. He's quite happy playing on his iPad at the moment but I'm sure he will get bored.
He's always really good. I think covid has sent people crazy. I'm hoping he calms down after a night in his car 🤷🏻‍♀️

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IlIlI · 27/01/2022 19:37

That sounds really bad. How is he with DS usually?

GrazingSheep · 27/01/2022 19:37

Am I being unreasonable to feel completely upset by this whole situation. I feel abandoned.

I don’t blame you - he has abandoned you and his children. Has he so little care for you that he thinks this is in any way acceptable?

Idontgiveagriffindamn · 27/01/2022 19:38

This would be the end of the relationship for me.

midsummabreak · 27/01/2022 19:38

This is horrible angry behaviour from your partner. You talk about situations calmly and organise support for your pregnant partner. Tell your partner to stay in car and keep going. I would not ever want him to come back, no matter how fantastic he supposedly is.

With your poor 6 year old boy I would continue to practice hand hygiene and keep seperate plates, cups etc but, as @Indecisivelurcher and others say, stop wearing a mask around your 6 year old. I would Let him know that the virus will pass soon with plenty of fluids, healthy food, quiet indoor games and rest. Your 6 year old will experience great sadness that his ‘stepfather’ is keeping out of house because of him

FflosFfantastig · 27/01/2022 19:39

Well he's a big help isn't he! He does realise that at some stage, unless he lives alone in a cave, he is going to catch Covid right?

My little ones class has about a quarter of the kids isolating at the minute. It's perfectly normal for 6 year olds to pick up infections in school.

Tell him to help out and stop being such a big baby.

IlIlI · 27/01/2022 19:40

Cross post, sorry. It sounded scary because a neighbour had a DP that did similar at the start and it ended really badly, but there were other things going on too.
It's still worrying though, just mad to think about what would happen if you ever got sick or where your son would be if something happened to you etc.
Hopefully he's just shocked and will get over it quickly. I know somebody who's triple jabbed, not vulnerable and usually very sensible who burst into tears when they tested positive but they got over it by the next day.

Wineat5isfine · 27/01/2022 19:43

The epitome of selfishness!!

So sorry that you are experiencing this level of wankiness.

Hope your child stays well and I hope you stay clear of Covid. 💐

Bananarama21 · 27/01/2022 19:45

Bet my house he wouldn't react this why has your son been his, appalling man how does he treat your son in general? Please don't let this man damage your child's childhood.

applesandpearz · 27/01/2022 19:48

Do you want to keep living with him after this strop? My mind boggles at the selfishness I hear of some men, and the woman that accept it. Are you actually asking if his behaviour is normal and valid (no) or if you should ask him to move out permanently?

mixum · 27/01/2022 19:52

Have you visual or other proof that he is actually sleeping in his car? Hmmm.

MrsTrumpton · 27/01/2022 19:52

Your poor DS. Not only is he ill but his step-dad is being such a dick about it he must feel like it's his fault he caught it. What a way to treat a child. I'd be telling your 'D'P not to bother moving out of his car when the isolation period is over.

Iggly · 27/01/2022 19:54

He’s showing you who he really is.

Pay attention to that.

What an absolute bell end.

Bananarama21 · 27/01/2022 19:54

What does he expect you to do send your ds away. Please be a decent mum and get rid of this horrible arsehole, your deserves so much more.

WonderfulYou · 27/01/2022 19:55

How long have you been together?

It sounds like he’s shown his true colours and I’d be telling him to not come back.
How dare he! This is not something I could forgive.

Does he not realise how many children are getting it right now?
We have almost 50% of kids and staff off at the minute.

Beseen22 · 27/01/2022 19:56

I did isolate my DH when my son and I were positive because he is higher risk. He isolated in the house, we were in separate rooms apart from the kitchen which I wiped down after use which meant I had to do everything with the kids. This was my decision to keep him safe, he in no way expected it.

To be honest I would expect your partner to want to be doing the same for you seen as you are higher risk right now, if I were him I would be trying to keep you as safe as possible and be doing the majority of the childcare not hiding in his car. He is ridiculous getting annoyed at a 6 year old child for getting an incredibly transmissible respiratory virus.

pinkyredrose · 27/01/2022 19:56

Would he be as angry if his son had it?

Bananarama21 · 27/01/2022 19:58

There's been alot of reports about abusive step parents where the children have come to harm. This is not normal behaviour, any loving step parent would not react this way and treat a child like this. Its up there with one of the most disgusting things I've heard a step parent do on here.

CambsAlways · 27/01/2022 19:59

Sorry op but he’s showing his true colours

EKGEMS · 27/01/2022 19:59

Perfectly understandable to abandon your pregnant wife, sick son and baby cause you're afraid of catching a virus! (Sarcasm)
He needs to pull his head out of his ass and come home to relieve you! 99.9% chance he's been exposed enough and will have Covid in the next week unless he's vaccinated. Parenthood isn't an a la carte menu you pick and choose from

HairyScaryMonster · 27/01/2022 19:59

We didn't bother isolating at all, virtually impossible with 7yo and 4yo. DH and 4yo didn't get it. But it's a few days of feeling rough then it's done with. Can he still work if isolating?

HandWash · 27/01/2022 20:00

It's because it's your son that is sick, it's his resentment showing itself.

SeasonFinale · 27/01/2022 20:00

@mixum

Have you visual or other proof that he is actually sleeping in his car? Hmmm.
Yes are you sure he isn't using it as a convenient excuse to play away stay elsewhere?