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My son has covid and my partner is annoyed

170 replies

mummytotwoboys0600 · 27/01/2022 19:07

Okay so... my 6 year old tested positive for covid this morning. We live with my partner (his step dad) and our son who is 13 months old and I'm currently 6 months pregnant.
He has completely thrown his toys out of the pram and is refusing to come home because my son has it. I've been keeping him away as much as possible, disinfecting everything, wearing a mask around him. Obviously I don't want to catch it either.
He's in a real strop with me over it all and is like it's all my fault he can't come home. He reckons he is sleeping in his car for the next 5 days. I mean seriously 😳
I'm literally left to look after two children, a baby and a sick child all whilst being pregnant. He has the next 3 days off work. He's refusing to take our child out any day case he has caught it.
Am I being unreasonable to feel completely upset by this whole situation. I feel abandoned.

OP posts:
MooSakah · 27/01/2022 19:08

He sounds nasty.

TheChip · 27/01/2022 19:08

No yanbu. He is being a dick.

treeflowercat · 27/01/2022 19:11

Covid really has turned some people loopy... I'm sorry your partner is being as pathetic as he's being ridiculous. Is he usually so thoroughly unreasonable.

AlDanvers · 27/01/2022 19:12

Yanbu he is a dick. But honestly I just wouldn't want him back.

YellowLemonz · 27/01/2022 19:13

He needs to grow up

lunar1 · 27/01/2022 19:13

Do you really want him back after this?

Indecisivelurcher · 27/01/2022 19:13

What a twat. I also think yabu for wearing a mask around your 6yo, i think that's mean to them and won't protect you in any case, sorry.

Sideswiped · 27/01/2022 19:14

Tell him not to bother coming back.

sadpapercourtesan · 27/01/2022 19:15

Pack his shit into binbags and dump it on the roadside for him?

I'm so sorry, you must be so upset and shaken Flowers but I think you should look at this as a turning point, honestly. This man is treating you and your children abominably. Can you really face years of it, bringing up the children with his selfish irrational crap going on every day?

MsMeNz · 27/01/2022 19:16

He would have been infectious for a few days before symptoms showing. If you guys are going to get it it's too late already 🤷 no need for masks or avioding him at this point.

Bagelsandbrie · 27/01/2022 19:16

What?!! Why is he being like this? Is he particularly vulnerable or something? He sounds vile.

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mummytotwoboys0600 · 27/01/2022 19:16

He's never usually unreasonable. Always has a sensible head on etc and is always kind and hands on. His reaction has completely blown my mind. Maybe he will calm down but I feel like now I'm left to do everything and that really is pushing my buttons. He says he is a grown man and if he wants to do what he can to avoid it then I should respect it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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GiantSpider · 27/01/2022 19:16

Tell him to ask his friends and colleagues if any of their DC have had Covid and if they slept in their car for 5 nights. Tell him you'll bet any amount of money that none of them say yes!

Is he a good step dad generally?

dementedpixie · 27/01/2022 19:18

What a complete arsehole. Does he just think he can opt out of parenting his own children?

Theunamedcat · 27/01/2022 19:18

Whose name is the house in and do you have your own source of money

Seriously I would be making plans

Ijustneedtosleep21 · 27/01/2022 19:19

He's a twat. Let him sleep in the car then change the locks!

Dillydollydingdong · 27/01/2022 19:20

I wouldn't be upset. I'd be furious! Is it your fault that your ds has tested positive? Your dp is selfish, thoughtless and terminally stupid. I bet he can't last five nights in the car! Where is he planning on showering and using the loo?

TheChip · 27/01/2022 19:20

I wonder what would happen if it was his child who was poorly with it.
I hope your ds is not aware of the reasons why he is not coming home.

NerrSnerr · 27/01/2022 19:23

Your partner is an arsehole and I would be considering my relationship in your shoes.

Please don't keep away from your 6 year old though- especially if his step dad is less than brilliant with him (which is what the OP suggests). He needs as much love and stability as possible.

arethereanyleftatall · 27/01/2022 19:24

This makes no sense op, literally none.

Is it your fault your son caught it?

Isn't it more important that his partner who is pregnant with his child and his other baby doesn't catch it rather than him.

A good man would be looking after your 6 yo ds whilst you take your toddler elsewhere to try not to get it.

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 27/01/2022 19:27

What an idiot. I'd tell him he can stay sleeping in his car. Some people have totally lost the plot

GrazingSheep · 27/01/2022 19:28

What a nut job.

Lollipop858 · 27/01/2022 19:29

@arethereanyleftatall

This makes no sense op, literally none.

Is it your fault your son caught it?

Isn't it more important that his partner who is pregnant with his child and his other baby doesn't catch it rather than him.

A good man would be looking after your 6 yo ds whilst you take your toddler elsewhere to try not to get it.

This. You’re pregnant with a toddler and a sick child and he’s just left you to it. What if you catch it and are sick in bed? Is he just going to leave you to struggle? What an arsehole!
Redhotspicywine · 27/01/2022 19:29

What a nasty man

Santahasjoinedww · 27/01/2022 19:31

Does he resent your ds any other times?

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