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My son has covid and my partner is annoyed

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mummytotwoboys0600 · 27/01/2022 19:07

Okay so... my 6 year old tested positive for covid this morning. We live with my partner (his step dad) and our son who is 13 months old and I'm currently 6 months pregnant.
He has completely thrown his toys out of the pram and is refusing to come home because my son has it. I've been keeping him away as much as possible, disinfecting everything, wearing a mask around him. Obviously I don't want to catch it either.
He's in a real strop with me over it all and is like it's all my fault he can't come home. He reckons he is sleeping in his car for the next 5 days. I mean seriously 😳
I'm literally left to look after two children, a baby and a sick child all whilst being pregnant. He has the next 3 days off work. He's refusing to take our child out any day case he has caught it.
Am I being unreasonable to feel completely upset by this whole situation. I feel abandoned.

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BakewellGin1 · 27/01/2022 20:01

He sounds crazy. I mean would he expect you to react that way if he caught it... I mean there is a chance he will at some point... Do you get to lose it then too

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mummytotwoboys0600 · 27/01/2022 20:06

@mixum

Have you visual or other proof that he is actually sleeping in his car? Hmmm.
Is this a necessary reply? I can literally see him through the window in the car right now!
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timeisnotaline · 27/01/2022 20:06

Wow. That would be hard to get past, if you even could. I’m pregnant, I’d tell the whole world I was on my own while healthy dh looked after number one and abandoned his pregnant partner and dc. But that would never happen.
If you do let him back op you still need to do some thinking. This is a man who has let you down when you really needed help, because the only person he’s looking after is himself. Not his child, not his pregnant partner. How are your finances? If you’re unmarried and about to be dependent on him I’d be working out how to make sure that’s temporary and making sure he contributes for his child and for you to look after his baby when it’s born.

I hope your child isn’t too unwell and you get through the next few days ok. Don’t answer the phone to him, ask some friends to help drop things off and look after yourself as much as you can. Have you enough money to move to a hotel for a few days after and sleep, tell him you will be back once he’s tidied the house, washed the sheets etc, you are going to catch up on some sleep and looking after you and baby?

MrsTrumpton · 27/01/2022 20:07

I can literally see him through the window in the car right now!

He's sat outside the house? What a numpty. I'd just pull the curtains and let him crack on.

Twinklights · 27/01/2022 20:08

Your husbands an idiot.

Don’t wear a mask around your 6 year old child in his home. He’s 6 and he needs his mum. You likely already have it if your going to and he needs his mummy properly, if you get it, it’ll likely be mild.

NerrSnerr · 27/01/2022 20:09

Do not look after him if he's outside the house. Don't bring him food, clothes etc. it is entirely his doing and you have enough to do.

LIZS · 27/01/2022 20:11

What an excuse of a father and how vile. Text him a shopping list for a week's worth of food, nappies etc, if he is not coming home he can spend his time usefully. Bet he keys himself in to pee and shower.

mixum · 27/01/2022 20:12

OP, you did not say that you could see him in his car.

Your neighbours might assume you have already kicked him out now!

I would be so embarrassed by his antics I think I would hide.

GiantSpider · 27/01/2022 20:12

Surely he won't stick this out for five nights??

GiantSpider · 27/01/2022 20:14

Totally agree with not supporting this ridiculous behaviour in any way (eg taking him food or clean pants).

IncompleteSenten · 27/01/2022 20:17

You need to find out if he would be behaving like this if it was his child that had it
You might not want to see it but there is a possibility that there is an issue here that could affect your son.

QuestionsorComments · 27/01/2022 20:18

He can't claim to be an adult and dessert his children and vulnerable wife because someone's ill.

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mummytotwoboys0600 · 27/01/2022 20:19

Of course he's going to cave. It's far too cold and he will need to pee and get changed and brush his teeth etc, he's just completely thrown his toys out of the pram.

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Spacecadetagain · 27/01/2022 20:21

Op- your partner is a taunt of the highest order , how upsetting for your DS to see his step dad behaving like an overgrown man child because your DS has a virus , aside from the fact that the first person he has thought of himself .. not his partner or unborn baby . A decent man would have been looking after you and your other children. He is showing his true colours ,this is not a man to build a life with

Bananarama21 · 27/01/2022 20:21

Any decent mother wouldn't allow her child to be treated like this by her partner how are you not embrassed?

Spacecadetagain · 27/01/2022 20:22

Autocorrect! I meant twunt and that was being kind !

Liz1tummypain · 27/01/2022 20:22

Yes, your partner is a waste of space. Or at least not very nice. Can one of your parents help out with the toddler for a few days? Good luck.

Santahasjoinedww · 27/01/2022 20:24

Tell him ss are taking your ds away until he tests negative.. His reply will tell you all you need to know to Ltb.

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mummytotwoboys0600 · 27/01/2022 20:27

@Bananarama21

Any decent mother wouldn't allow her child to be treated like this by her partner how are you not embrassed?
What's wrong is your comment. My son has no idea and as a good mum I will keep that from him. My partner works shifts and is often out when we are home so it's no different! Why are there always some people who can turn it around 🙄
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Sparkletastic · 27/01/2022 20:30

Lock the doors and leave the keys in the locks.

timeisnotaline · 27/01/2022 20:31

@mummytotwoboys0600

Of course he's going to cave. It's far too cold and he will need to pee and get changed and brush his teeth etc, he's just completely thrown his toys out of the pram.
I’d put the key in the door tbh or chain/deadlock it if you can. He doesn’t get to cave until mid morning at the earliest, he can fucking lump it.
sunnyhoneybumblebee · 27/01/2022 20:32

He sounds like a twat. Change the locks whilst he's out there. Silly man child.

Bananarama21 · 27/01/2022 20:32

Hes a dickhead who is treating your son like sub human he's a child for godsake it's up to you to protect him. You know its appalling behaviour and not remotely the same as being out on shift otherwise you wouldn't have started a thread on it. I'd put my child before some bully.

Thatsplentyjack · 27/01/2022 20:33

He wouldn't be getting back into my house. I'd have the key in the lock and the chains on. He can freeze out there in his car.

AlistairCamel · 27/01/2022 20:33

Your partner is completely unreasonable. Maybe your son caught it from him.