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Potentially ruined Christmas.

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FrenchyQ · 17/12/2021 08:25

Dd22 phoned last night to tell us her boss tested positive for covid yesterday ( they even went into work after doing the PCR test). She's supposed to be coming home for Christmas on Tuesday (, she's at uni 100 miles away). She's being hesitant about getting a PCR herself as she knows if it's positive she's gonna have to self isolate.Weve booked her one for this afternoon anyway.
I just feel panicky now about her coming home,myself DH and ds all had covid a month ago and I really don't want it in the house again (as it may be Omicron so we could get it again ).
Leaving her to self isolate down there will be worrysome anyway as she has history of self harming/suicide attempts and if she's alone over Christmas that'll heighten her feelings for that.
I know alot of this is what ifs until she tests positive/negative but it's sending my anxiety through the roof!

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Frazzled2207 · 17/12/2021 10:50

I'd go get her. If you've just had it you have a good chance of avoiding, even if she has it which she may not.
My DS just had it and I didn't.
I'd probably be getting the food in this weekend just in case though,

Drywhitefruitycidergin · 17/12/2021 10:52

Get her home. Do PCR from home. At least if she has to isolate there are people around.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 17/12/2021 10:55

Stick to the original plan I guess!

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FrenchyQ · 17/12/2021 10:55

@Frazzled2207

I'd go get her. If you've just had it you have a good chance of avoiding, even if she has it which she may not. My DS just had it and I didn't. I'd probably be getting the food in this weekend just in case though,
I'm just making a shopping list now
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PurpleDaisies · 17/12/2021 10:56

@Drywhitefruitycidergin

Get her home. Do PCR from home. At least if she has to isolate there are people around.
How? The daughter isn’t answering the phone.

For all those who have clearly missed it…
She is refusing to come home as she has work tonight and tomorrow night and is more interested in the money than the well being of her family.
I'm not drip feeding on purpose here but we have history of violence against myself when she doesn't get her own way (we got thrown off a flight and escorted out of an airport due to her punching me as she wasn't getting her own way), so if we try and force the situation of her coming home earlier than she wants it will probably not end well for me.

BlackCatz · 17/12/2021 10:59

Is anyone actually even bothering to read the updates 🙄

LindaEllen · 17/12/2021 10:59

Why would you even think about letting her spend Christmas Day alone?

DickeryDock · 17/12/2021 10:59

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Squeezita · 17/12/2021 11:00

@BlackCatz

Is anyone actually even bothering to read the updates 🙄
Nope, they're happy having too much with the Mumsnet 'Get her. Now' cliche.
PurpleDaisies · 17/12/2021 11:02

@DickeryDock

Get your child home and support her now
How????????? The daughter does not want to come home, isn’t answering the phone and has been violent to the op in the past.

Still think the op should go get her now?

DickeryDock · 17/12/2021 11:03

Sorry OP I have asked for my comment to be removed as I obviously hadn’t read your full posts

Squeezita · 17/12/2021 11:03

@PurpleDaisies they're like zombies, repeating the same line.

IAAP · 17/12/2021 11:05

@WheelieBinPrincess

Jesus wept. I can’t believe you’d even hesitate to go and get her.
This.
BlackCatz · 17/12/2021 11:05

[quote Squeezita]@PurpleDaisies they're like zombies, repeating the same line.[/quote]
Get. Her. Home.

PurpleDaisies · 17/12/2021 11:05

Read the updates @IAAP?

DickeryDock · 17/12/2021 11:07

I have asked for my comment to be removed as I stupidly posted before reading further. Lesson learned!

IAAP · 17/12/2021 11:07

OP you didn't give all the information in your first post -hence people like me saying get her.

So she can get her train to her boyfriend?
She can get a train to you then especially as she wants to work and INCREASE her chance of getting covid.

Squeezita · 17/12/2021 11:07

Get. Her. Home.

Grin

More like Get. To. Specsavers Wink

chocolatesaltyballs22 · 17/12/2021 11:08

My daughter is still in her uni town and has been a close contact for two separate positive cases. She is still testing negative but is due to work at a busy pub this weekend, and then come home on Monday. I don't care if she tests positive, I will still be driving up to get her. No way am I leaving her to have Christmas on her own in her uni halls. Go and get your daughter.

PurpleDaisies · 17/12/2021 11:09

@IAAP

OP you didn't give all the information in your first post -hence people like me saying get her.

So she can get her train to her boyfriend?
She can get a train to you then especially as she wants to work and INCREASE her chance of getting covid.

Read the bloody thread then.

All the information is there now.

IamGusFring · 17/12/2021 11:09

Your daughter obviously has issues but they don't seem to stop her being at Uni , having a BF and working in a social place . I would stop stressing about her given her past relationship with you and leave her to it for now . See what she says in a few days .

Derbee · 17/12/2021 11:09

@BlackCatz

Is anyone actually even bothering to read the updates 🙄
What, like the updates that OP’s DD works in a nightclub, and so the “not answering the phone” is probably due to being asleep? Or the updates that OP’s DD doesn’t want to come home early, and miss work? Other threads would have posters frothing at the mouth if someone’s uni age child wasn’t working, or was skiving off work.
IAAP · 17/12/2021 11:10

@PurpleDaisies

Read the updates *@IAAP*?
hang on -all the information was NOT given in the original OP. Maybe the OP should have considered that. Any parent -would probably say 'go get your daughter if you've all had covid and been in contact and is going to elf isolate over Christmas' -however she is violent, demanding (getting the train to boyfriend but not parents), working in a night club etc - maybe the OP needed on reflection to provide more detail!

7 pages or more to read.............lots of people made the same jump that I did -we don't always have time to read pages!

AnyFucker · 17/12/2021 11:10

Have read the updates. Op, be guided by your dd. Good luck x

PurpleDaisies · 17/12/2021 11:12

7 pages or more to read.............lots of people made the same jump that I did -we don't always have time to read pages!

Posting isn’t compulsory.

If you can’t be bothered to even read the op’s post, you’ll run the risk of looking silly.

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