Potentially ruined Christmas.

[FrenchyQ]

Dd22 phoned last night to tell us her boss tested positive for covid yesterday ( they even went into work after doing the PCR test). She's supposed to be coming home for Christmas on Tuesday (, she's at uni 100 miles away). She's being hesitant about getting a PCR herself as she knows if it's positive she's gonna have to self isolate.Weve booked her one for this afternoon anyway.
I just feel panicky now about her coming home,myself DH and ds all had covid a month ago and I really don't want it in the house again (as it may be Omicron so we could get it again ).
Leaving her to self isolate down there will be worrysome anyway as she has history of self harming/suicide attempts and if she's alone over Christmas that'll heighten her feelings for that.
I know alot of this is what ifs until she tests positive/negative but it's sending my anxiety through the roof!

@Delatron

Her mental health is the most important thing here not the very slight chance you may get Covid again. She may not even have it. Of course she can’t spend Christmas alone.

This

I would go get her even if she has to isolate at yours at least she has someone to look out for her and get food / drink , chat through the door

@worriedatthemoment

I would go get her even if she has to isolate at yours at least she has someone to look out for her and get food / drink , chat through the door

@worriedatthemoment Please read all the OP's updates. Her daughter is violent and abusive to her, and has said upfront she refuses to come until the 21st. Last thing the OP needs is to force her and then get hit for it.

@ClaudiaJ1 i still don't see an option tbh and im not the only one who said it , granted i hadn't seen the latest
Its so hard and the OP is stuck between a rock and hard place

@PurpleDaisies

She's learning her lack of engagement with help from your ambivalent engagement with her.

That’s a totally unfair comment. You have no idea what the op has gone through with the daughter or how she’s tried to get her help.

It’s clear this is a really complex situation with a lot of back story. It might have been helpful to have at least hinted at that in the op.

I don't think it's unfair at all. Please note the word "ambivalent" which I'm using in the psychological sense. I'm suggesting the OP's ambivalence isn't deliberate, but part of an overall family pattern of relating.

Her tests were negative thankfully.