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Nearly crying in theatre

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4pmwinetimebebeh · 12/12/2021 17:51

We went to the theatre today with our 3 young kids to watch a Christmas show. It was so lovely, so well done, kids all loved it. At the end as it was wrapping up and the kids were all clapping and cheering and joining in I was just overcome with this huge wave of sadness. That we are all sitting in masks, that we couldn’t do this last year and overwhelmingly that this might be the last time we could do this in a while as things seem to be going to shit again. I had a huge lump in my throat and tears in my eyes and had to really control myself so I didn’t burst into tears.

I don’t want this to trigger anyone but I think we are all just really struggling with the uncertainty and potential for further restrictions again. I was so excited for Christmas and now the potential for another lockdown etc in the New Years has just ruined any good mood I had and I feel sad, anxious and on the verge of tears.

Just a shout out in case anyone is the same. It’s shit.

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HereticFanjo · 12/12/2021 17:54

🤗🤗🤗

Cornettoninja · 12/12/2021 17:55

I’ve been the same. We’ve done christingle and a panto over the last couple of weeks and both have made me teary.

I’m a soft sap anyway but a lot of these things feel very poignant right now.

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4pmwinetimebebeh · 12/12/2021 17:55

@HereticFanjo that’s a strange response 😂

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SSOYS · 12/12/2021 17:56

I know exactly what you mean. I think we’ve all been through so much- and of course some much more than others- but all of us have had to just get on with it to some extent and not think too much about it. And yet you occasionally just get hit by the scale of the loss- of people, primarily, but also the loss of experiences and freedom.

SSOYS · 12/12/2021 17:58

It’s the hug emoji.

SingingSands · 12/12/2021 17:59

Yep, I know what you mean. It hit me during the week, I had a real moment of "it shouldn't be like this" thinking of how much uncertainty there is and how much life has changed.

It ok to have these moments. We wouldn't be human if we didn't. I just let myself have a little cry about it in the shower, it's good to release the stress sometimes.

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4pmwinetimebebeh · 12/12/2021 18:00

Oh in that case thanks @HereticFanjo and thanks for the explanation @SSOYS. I always thought it was someone doing a weird ‘tadaaaa’ or jazz hands 😂

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HereticFanjo · 12/12/2021 18:00

It was supposed to be a sympathetic hug and then a thoughtful message of support ... but I got ambushed by children lol. I do sympathise genuinely I had a similar response to something last Christmas knowing things were getting bad again. I think I'm past being moved or shocked now. Glad you got out though and made the most of the freedom.

DrWankincense · 12/12/2021 18:10

I am trying to steel my nerves for the end of the week. The kids are doing a nativity outside, and DS has been singing the songs for the last couple of weeks. It's really beautiful, he's only 5.
I know if it goes ahead there is a fair chance I will actually do proper snotty, gaspy sobbing and I really have to not - if I start I'm afraid the last few years of holding it together will dissolve.
So many emotions.
Totally get you.

PlinkPlankPlunk · 12/12/2021 18:18

I was at a carol service where the choir had to sing in masks while walking up the aisle (Once in Royal) and I found myself having a little cry. The service was lovely but the fact these kids managed to sing so beautifully in masks when half the people on the train don’t wear them properly really got to me.

AllKnowingGerbil · 12/12/2021 18:24

I felt like this when my 7yo went to a class birthday party for the first time in over a year, and I watched them all run about. They looked so happy and I thought of how parties were a distant memory for them. I get teary just thinking about it x

TheVampiresWife · 12/12/2021 18:32

I get it, OP.

I had a similar moment this week. In the run up to Christmas I always (pre 2020!) take a 'day off' for myself before the madness begins. I get the bus (it's a famously scenic route) to a little market town about 20 miles away. While I'm there I have some lunch, do a bit of shopping and get the bus back as it's getting dark so I can see all the Christmas lights in the lovely little villages the bus passes through.

For some reason that annual trip became totemic last year when I couldn't go. It sort of crystallised all that was different and all that I was missing. It sounds silly but I was genuinely really, really upset by not going - but more than because of what it symbolised rather than the trip itself, iyswim.

I'm CV and had pretty much resigned myself to not going this year either, despite the fact that until about two weeks ago I was, and was so excited. The disappointment when I realised it was probably for the best to skip it again this year was crushing. But I woke up on Thursday morning, it was a beautiful clear crisp day, and I thought, fuck it. The bus is always almost empty, the town itself is sleepy, and I've already given up practically everything I love this year. So I went.

I had an absolutely gorgeous day. But on the way home it struck me that a) I was so, so grateful for being able to do it but b) it may be the last time I'd do anything else like it for months. Also how something I took so for granted in the past was now such A Thing. I was pretty overwhelmed and suddenly couldn't stop crying. On the bus. Like a twat.

So, yeah. Totally understand how you feel. It's horrible.

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Levithian · 12/12/2021 18:43

I felt the same way when I went to watch my football team playing in the summer. It's a top premiership team and the stadium is always packed so I almost didn't go, but I'm so glad I did. I got very weepy when I realized that this thing that I had taken for granted now had huge significance, and also that my DC will always have memories of a time where football was effectively banned.

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4pmwinetimebebeh · 12/12/2021 18:48

Thanks for sharing your similar moments we are all in the same boat and I suppose it does make you appreciate those moments all the more doesn’t it!

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Cam2020 · 12/12/2021 19:00

I went to the theatre back in October, so when things were OK, and it was very emotional; partly because they had been booked originally for last Christmas and partly because there was a time I doubted I'd ever be in a theatre again.

SayAaa · 12/12/2021 19:03

I completely understand and just reading this has made me well up with recognition. Today the Christmas song Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas made me sob - the line about all being together if the fates allow, and until then having to muddle through somehow. Seeing the children thinking masks are normal. Sad

HariboMaroon · 12/12/2021 19:04

It’s so sad my son is booked to see the lion king at the west end in January but god knows if that will happen now. It would have been amazing school trip 😢.

TheVampiresWife · 12/12/2021 19:08

Today the Christmas song Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas made me sob - the line about all being together if the fates allow, and until then having to muddle through somehow

The first time I heard that song on the radio last Christmas, it absolutely ruined me Sad

hartof · 12/12/2021 19:09

We went to the theatre at the start of November and all 3 of us were very tearful at the fact that we could go back. I think life is just very overwhelming at the moment with all the restrictions and knowing things can change at any moment.

Bimbabo · 12/12/2021 19:10

Last month I finally was allowed into nursery to see my wee one there. She’s 2 and only had an hour settling in before outside without any other children around. I was really emotional seeing her in her wee nursery world with friends and teachers. It’s just all so hard

godmum56 · 12/12/2021 19:10

I am not a cryer but it does seem to be hard right now even though its better than last year....I have had the odd snivel when nobody's looking

godmum56 · 12/12/2021 19:11

@TheVampiresWife

Today the Christmas song Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas made me sob - the line about all being together if the fates allow, and until then having to muddle through somehow

The first time I heard that song on the radio last Christmas, it absolutely ruined me Sad

oh this exactly. This is always a sad one for me but awful this year.
TooManyPlatesInMotion · 12/12/2021 19:14

It is understandable to feel this way. It all just feels so precarious.

mrshoho · 12/12/2021 19:14

Actually we had a family trip to a musical recently and I think we all felt a bit emotional. After so long it just felt so special to be there experiencing it. Even my grumpy teens seemed overly excited Grin

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