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Nearly crying in theatre

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4pmwinetimebebeh · 12/12/2021 17:51

We went to the theatre today with our 3 young kids to watch a Christmas show. It was so lovely, so well done, kids all loved it. At the end as it was wrapping up and the kids were all clapping and cheering and joining in I was just overcome with this huge wave of sadness. That we are all sitting in masks, that we couldn’t do this last year and overwhelmingly that this might be the last time we could do this in a while as things seem to be going to shit again. I had a huge lump in my throat and tears in my eyes and had to really control myself so I didn’t burst into tears.

I don’t want this to trigger anyone but I think we are all just really struggling with the uncertainty and potential for further restrictions again. I was so excited for Christmas and now the potential for another lockdown etc in the New Years has just ruined any good mood I had and I feel sad, anxious and on the verge of tears.

Just a shout out in case anyone is the same. It’s shit.

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4pmwinetimebebeh · 12/12/2021 20:12

@bloodywhitecat I’m so sorry so hoping your DH is ok and gets home for Christmas.

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Amberflames · 12/12/2021 20:14

@bloodywhitecat hoping you can get your DH home. Flowers

Amberflames · 12/12/2021 20:14

@bloodywhitecat hoping you can get your DH home. Flowers

lollipoprainbow · 12/12/2021 20:15

I've been feeling incredibly low, can't get in the Christmas mood whatsoever. Worried sick about my nephew who is refusing the vaccine. Feel a huge sense of forboding.

Laurel1 · 12/12/2021 20:16

My husband works in theatre and I did too for nearly 20 years. Its been a massive effort to get theatre back this year. Like crazy. And for panto- 80 hour weeks, all nighters, because everything takes so much longer with restrictions backstage to try to limit the chance of anyone going down with covid. They are running on absolute empty. They are exhausted but they are desperate for it to be okay.

And then I see on the theatres Facebook pages loads of absolute knobs belittling, slagging off, shouting about their rights because the theatre is asking for fave masks and either a negative lateral flow or covid pass for over 18s. And has done since it reopened in July.

If you are going to panto this season, and I really hope you do and continue to offer support to the industry that went to it's knees during lockdown, please don't have a go at the staff. They are doing their best. Please do your best for them. Thank you xxx

BiddyPop · 12/12/2021 20:17

Having not been able to get it theatre for over 2 years here (couldn't get tickets I wanted for Christmas 2019, all closed 2020, and now panto booked for 2021 has been cancelled so I last got into a theatre in summer 2019), at least you got there.

All music events had only just been getting going again and now back to not happening again (and work has been too busy so I couldn't go in those 6-8 weeks or so).

And I have barely seen my own family members in 22 months, not been out for dinner in all that time, and fed up if it all.

But I also recognise the need to look out for myself and others against what is a serious illness for many, and that we will get back to normal, or a new normal that looks better than currently, at some point. Globally, we have got over serious pandemics of all sorts, wars, natural disasters, and economic catastrophe in the past and will again. It just takes time and effort.

Piccalino3 · 12/12/2021 20:18

I totally understand this. I took my kids to the cinema to see Paw Patrol in the summer. I sat there and cried and cried. Part relief that we could do something like that again, part tiredness from parenting and schooling through lockdowns and part sadness at how much my children have missed. These days I just feel a bit tired and numb to it all. I think it's probably had a bigger impact on us all than we perhaps realise and I've been very fortunate though all of this. I don't know how many people have coped.

HeronLanyon · 12/12/2021 20:18

I used to go the the royal idea house a lot. Not been since March 2020. Live close by. When they did a live stream I think in October which I watched it was a bit overwhelming to think they were there live on stage (with specially invited nhs audience). I was teary. Know exactly how you feel. Quite a bit of magic has been dimmed and we need it back.

FakeFruitShoot · 12/12/2021 20:18

I am in bits at the drop of the hat at the moment. I am so angry, and sad, but grateful too. Trying to do what I can while we're allowed but balance that with being sensible if things are going to shit again.

lollipoprainbow · 12/12/2021 20:18

Today the Christmas song Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas made me sob - the line about all being together if the fates allow, and until then having to muddle through somehow

That song has always made me emotional long before covid, we have had family losses and it's so poignant.

OverByYer · 12/12/2021 20:19

I've just come back from watching a ballet and felt the exact same at the end. The applause seemed so much more than a normal applause, like everyone really wanted it to last in case we might have to go back to lockdown soon. Very emotional.

I really feel for those of you with young children , missing out on school concertsetc;

Northernsoullover · 12/12/2021 20:23

I'll eat my hat if we have another lockdown. I really don't see it. I bloody well hope not because I have plans every month. That said, my mental health really suffered (like many people) during lockdown one and two. Especially over Christmas (like many) I honestly thought I would never feel normal again. But I did, and I know if it happened again that it would end.
We don't know what is happening yet. Carry on as normal as possible unless we hear otherwise.
I've been thinking about you and your DH Bloodywhitecat I hope he gets home to you soon Flowers

CaMePlaitPas · 12/12/2021 20:24

We won't always be in masks. This will pass. It is a long road but we are on track. History has taught us that pandemics end. Keep going. It's OK to cry x

MichelleScarn · 12/12/2021 20:25

Today the Christmas song Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas made me sob - the line about all being together if the fates allow, and until then having to muddle through somehow

I watched Meet me in St Louis today and cried at that song, DH thought I was being crazy so am glad it's not just me!

CopperLily · 12/12/2021 20:26

I cried like a baby in the theatre a few months back at the end of the show. Big ugly sobs. It was because the cast looked so genuinely thrilled to have performed once again and the audience we're loving it. Or it may have been to do with the 3 large G&Ts I consumed.

Riverlee · 12/12/2021 20:26

Just watched Boris’s announcement. I felt I was in a surreal, Will Smith, Men in Black sci-fi film, not real life. Watching it brought tears to my eyes. I think, like you, one minute we were watching Strictly, nice and light-hearted, and then, boom, reality.

ChristmasDuvetDay · 12/12/2021 20:30

I cried at the Christmas Carol Concert at School, I blamed it on the wind as we were stood outside in the cold but wow, seeing all the children in her class how much they've grown and changed in 2 years, and I feel I've missed out on it.

I just feel so flat. I've overspent on Christmas because I'm worried that in January we'll be in lockdown and DD will need all these new toys because her school will be closed again.

Wiaa · 12/12/2021 20:32

I know how you feel, I get ridiculously upset over anything that affects my boys. Ds(5) is off school at the moment as they have closed the whole school he's missed his Xmas Dinner, jumper day and his school play (it was going to be live on teams) they might open for the last 3 days but it depends on the number of positive cases. To be fair the head held a teams meeting at the end of last week and told us that they are waiting for 78 pcr results from pupils and every member of staff are being tested too.

Scottishgirl85 · 12/12/2021 20:33

We were at a wonderful panto last weekend. At the end the cast dedicated the show to all children, for being superstars despite their worlds being turned upside down for almost 2 years. Not a dry eye to be seen amongst the parents (well mothers!). It was so moving.

mrshoho · 12/12/2021 20:35

[quote MichelleScarn]Today the Christmas song Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas made me sob - the line about all being together if the fates allow, and until then having to muddle through somehow

I watched Meet me in St Louis today and cried at that song, DH thought I was being crazy so am glad it's not just me!

[/quote] 😪 Thinking back to last Christmas my Mum Dad and brother couldn't come to us so I brought dinner to them and set up their table and then left them. My poor Mum is now in a nursing home with severe dementia and still trying to recover from a blood clot on her lung. My Dad has recently been diagnosed with alzheimers and has been impossible to deal with My brother is also unwell with a chronic long term illness. I do feel lockdowns have sped up their fast decline. I'm sad we will never have a family Christmas together again. My dh is CEV and my kids are great but also dealing with their own shit. I can't help but look back on the past magical Christmases. We will have fun but times have certainly changed.
WonderfulYou · 12/12/2021 20:35

Many people like to be in control and feel helpless when they’re not.
Try and do and think about things that are in your control and it will make you feel better.

MichelleScarn · 12/12/2021 20:43

@mrshoho oh bloody hell, that is a hard time for you, sending Flowers.

JayAlfredPrufrock · 12/12/2021 20:45

I sobbed my way through Bourne’s Nutcracker last week.

The sheer bloody wonder of music and dance and costumes and lights. I almost exploded.

sausagepastapot · 12/12/2021 20:57

I am in the same boat. We did panto and a few xmas lights last week, I'm now home with covid and can't wait to book every thing and everything when I'm released!

Imdreamingofapeacefulxmas · 12/12/2021 21:02

Just be glad you made the Xmas show?
Ours is Saturday, who knows what might happen between now and then?

They did see the Xmas show and got some lovely live entertainment.
I'm happy to wear a mask imagine how much flu etc would be cut down if we all had to wear masks in winter to events!
Not that I'd endorse it but just imagine!!