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I feel like crying I've had enough

235 replies

LifesTooShortYOLO · 11/12/2021 14:36

I made a conscious decision to try and switch off from the media stories and coronavirus news and just try and get in with our lives.
I had been feeling mentally a lot better and almost forgot about covid in the sense of not seeing it in your face every where you turn on social media etc.
Now it's everywhere again 'Plans for plan c' 'lockdown imminent' 'data suggests this wave will be the worst one yet' 'modelling shows new strain could cause 75,000 feather in 5 months'
Are just some of the headlines I've seen today and I just feel so fed up.
Why are we still talking about lockdowns 2 years on?
I'm just so done with it all, it feels like there never will be a normal again, just when we start to get back to doing normal things you get taken back to square one again and told we may have to lockdown or have further restrictions brought back in. It's just so draining 😩

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bluegreybananas · 11/12/2021 16:23

The government really does need to be clearer that getting from the starting point of a pandemic to the point where it is endemic and tumbling in the background as something people get but doesn't disrupt society isn't something that will be quick. Not a season, not a year - probably more like 5 years.

Whilst it's a blow, at least it would manage people's expectations more / allow people to grieve / plan accordingly.

This lack of honesty and 'freedom day' pretence is abhorrent.

Wideawakeandconfused · 11/12/2021 16:23

I hardly swear but honestly Chloemol, I think you need to crawl back under your f-img rock. Show some bloody empathy or bore off. If people want to vent after everything we had to deal with, let them. It’s been a hard two years for lots of people. How dare you imply we have no backbone. You’re a very cruel person.

Waitwhatwhy · 11/12/2021 16:24

My dh is in a rehab centre after 6 months in hospital. Today it’s announced homes are restricted to 3 named visitors. How do I choose which of me and our teenage children don’t get to see him for the foreseeable future? But nightclubs etc can have hundreds of people crammed in. I’ve had enough.

LuluBlakey1 · 11/12/2021 16:25

I've seen no difference at all today in terms of numbers of people in places. Seen more masks but not lots.

It's not the end of civilization to wear a mask for a few weeks in crowded places.

I can't get worked up about it all.

SpanielsAreMyLife · 11/12/2021 16:25

It is shit, OP. We've barely survived with our business, and I just don't honestly know if I've got the energy to go through another lockdown. I'm sick of masks, sick of media crap that people take as gospel truth, and if someone burned the SAGE department to the ground overnight, I'd open a bottle of champagne.

And I'm really sad for those people who are embracing Omicrom like a long lost friend because it carries vindication for their health anxiety.

Waitwhatwhy · 11/12/2021 16:25

@Derbee

The media LOVES doom mongering.

I think there’s good news though!

What I’ve read about the studies in South Africa is that the Omicron variant is much more spreadable, but very much milder and less deadly than Delta. This means that the dangerous Delta is being killed off and replaced by the new mild Omicron mutation. So with vaccines/boosters/infection and antibodies, infections will be high for a while, but lockdowns defeat the point of a careful spread of milder infection.

This.

Why are we being stopped seeing our loved ones when this variant is good news?

SivvyPlath · 11/12/2021 16:27

It's not the end of civilization to wear a mask for a few weeks in crowded places

Do you really think that's all that's bothering people?

Guacamole001 · 11/12/2021 16:28

I thought Bill Gates predicted covid would be over by 2021? How can he be so wrong. I am still hoping omicron is the beginning of the end of the pandemic however ..

Whathefisgoingon · 11/12/2021 16:28

What always surprises me most about these threads is that the fear being felt is for more lockdowns and restrictions, and never fear for what covid could to to you as a person, physically.

My partners business will not survive closing again, business is the worst it’s ever been even now, so I am concerned for those who struggle in all those others ways but truthfully I care far more about my toddler and family being safe and alive than I do any lockdown or restrictions. If they are needed to keep us safe, I am ok with that.

Waitwhatwhy · 11/12/2021 16:31

@Whathefisgoingon

What always surprises me most about these threads is that the fear being felt is for more lockdowns and restrictions, and never fear for what covid could to to you as a person, physically.

My partners business will not survive closing again, business is the worst it’s ever been even now, so I am concerned for those who struggle in all those others ways but truthfully I care far more about my toddler and family being safe and alive than I do any lockdown or restrictions. If they are needed to keep us safe, I am ok with that.

Unless your toddler has a health condition why wouldn’t they be safe?
LadyLazarus40 · 11/12/2021 16:32

I know what you mean OP - I think I’ve reached the end of the road, I genuinely don’t feel I can keep doing this.

EveningOverRooftops · 11/12/2021 16:34

I’m done but for different reasons.

I was 35 and starting to want to date again but 2 yrs down I’m now accepting that no more kids for me. It’s Been a difficult year to get my head around it all and I am still not there. Sadness is something that’s ever shifting.

I can’t do any of this anymore. I am tired of crappy birthdays (have been for a long time) and really want to change my social circle and have people in it who will make me a priority not an after thought. This shitshow is making it all so so much harder to change.

XenoBitch · 11/12/2021 16:35

@Whathefisgoingon

What always surprises me most about these threads is that the fear being felt is for more lockdowns and restrictions, and never fear for what covid could to to you as a person, physically.

My partners business will not survive closing again, business is the worst it’s ever been even now, so I am concerned for those who struggle in all those others ways but truthfully I care far more about my toddler and family being safe and alive than I do any lockdown or restrictions. If they are needed to keep us safe, I am ok with that.

I am friends with a family who have all had Covid. They had it mildly, and are all fully recovered. The lockdowns had a huge impact on their teen, who now has severe MH problems as a result. So yes, they are scared about another lockdown, and I don't blame them.
TatianaBis · 11/12/2021 16:36

The data from S.Africa does not support the idea that this wave will be the worst yet, on the contrary it suggests this is a milder variant.

However it was rather naive not to expect there to be some form of restrictions over the Christmas period given that it’s flu season.

maddiemookins16mum · 11/12/2021 16:37

I think it’s because in 2020 when this started and at this point last year, we (well me at least) were pinning our hopes on the vaccines. Then we started getting jabbed, spring came, summer began, 2nd jabs etc. Things seemed almost normal again. Even within the last 2 months I’ve been to the Theatre and a live concert.

Now, it just seems we’re in a dark place again, I’ve had my booster but DP hasn’t (it was cancelled and is booked for next week) but DP is pretty unwell this weekend - negative LFT but the worst cough ever.

Silverswirl · 11/12/2021 16:37

@Waitwhatwhy why wouldn’t you or your toddler be safe?

megustalacerveza · 11/12/2021 16:40

@bluegreybananas

The government really does need to be clearer that getting from the starting point of a pandemic to the point where it is endemic and tumbling in the background as something people get but doesn't disrupt society isn't something that will be quick. Not a season, not a year - probably more like 5 years.

Whilst it's a blow, at least it would manage people's expectations more / allow people to grieve / plan accordingly.

This lack of honesty and 'freedom day' pretence is abhorrent.

But imagine having been told in March 2020 that this would go on for five years? I'm not sure people would have coped at all.

There's a middle ground between giving false hope and making promises you can't keep and announcing the worst case scenario. It's just hard to know exactly where it is.

Waitwhatwhy · 11/12/2021 16:40

[quote Silverswirl]@Waitwhatwhy why wouldn’t you or your toddler be safe?[/quote]
That’s what I was asking @ Whathefisgoingon Silver, they posted about keeping themselves and toddler safe

megustalacerveza · 11/12/2021 16:42

@EveningOverRooftops

I’m done but for different reasons.

I was 35 and starting to want to date again but 2 yrs down I’m now accepting that no more kids for me. It’s Been a difficult year to get my head around it all and I am still not there. Sadness is something that’s ever shifting.

I can’t do any of this anymore. I am tired of crappy birthdays (have been for a long time) and really want to change my social circle and have people in it who will make me a priority not an after thought. This shitshow is making it all so so much harder to change.

Imagine not having any kids at all and being in that position. That's where I am. It's hard when people who are already happily settled act as if it's frivolous for wanting to date, when for a lot of women in their thirties, they could well be missing out on their chance to ever have a family. It's really hard.
HopefulHetty · 11/12/2021 16:43

I succumbed and watched news too op.
I'm going back to ignoring it for sanity's sake.

Twoweekcruise · 11/12/2021 16:43

I am totally with you op. My mental health wasn’t great before the pandemic but now I am literally at breaking point, I am seeing a psychotherapist but it’s not helping at all.
I was petrified of catching the Delta variant and equally petrified of the vaccine but eventually plucked up the courage to have my second jab last weekend and honestly thought I had turned a corner and there was some light in the horizon but this week with the news on Omicron and today’s headlines that we will all get this new variant in the following weeks ‘unless you live like a hermit’ (how I wish I was, right now!), my anxiety is literally suffocating me.
My mum has Alzheimer’s and the chances are she won’t recognise us all in a years’ time, I do not want another lockdown Christmas, I want this one with my family and I’ve just found out that from Wednesday only 3 people can visit care home residents so I can’t go and see my friend who is 93 and miserable that her nephew has stuck her in a home.
It’s all a mess.

HesterShaw1 · 11/12/2021 16:45

I hear you OP 💐

Jabbinell · 11/12/2021 16:45

I can’t believe people saying “stiff upper lip” and “you’re lucky you have a house” blah blah blah. FUCK OFF!

onewayandday · 11/12/2021 16:45

@Toadsinholes

I swear there are some people on there who actually DON’T feel like this & want another lockdown 😩 OP I am with you. My business is on its knees (one more closure will kill it off), I have no money left, my kids can’t cope with any more homeschooling, and my mental health is destroyed from it all. Any fucker who says we need to lock down again can kiss my poor, ‘selfish’ ass (& give me the 20 grand I need to keep going)

Exactly this.
I know a lady who is constantly screaming lockdown.
The thing is lockdown doesn't affect her; she has a secure job, never socialises in normal times, doesn't go to the gym, has no children.
If pisses me right off.

MarshaBradyo · 11/12/2021 16:47

Op we haven’t even passed plan B yet

Hang in there Flowers