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I’m thinking of leaving my partner for not getting vaccine

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Newmumlake · 16/10/2021 19:54

I’m thinking of leaving my partner for not getting the covid -19 vaccine. I feel like I’m putting my child’s health at risk for staying with him.
I love my partner very much although things haven’t been easy over the years. The vaccine has recently caused a big strain in the relationship.
I can’t understand why anyone would refuse without a genuine reason. My partner refuses to discuss his reasons with me apart from stating he doesn’t want to be tracked by Bill Gates. I answered that this is complete nonsense and that he is more likely to be tracked through a mobile device - which he obviously owns.
If it was just the two of us I think I would be turning a blind eye/burying my head in the sand but I can’t stop thinking about my son. Is he at risk? Am I failing to keep him safe?

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Lbnc2021 · 16/10/2021 20:03

I wouldn’t leave a partner for not getting a vaccine but I would leave them for believing all this bill gates tracking bullshit

Sugarandtime · 16/10/2021 20:04

How does your boyfriend feel about you having had the injections? Does he mind?

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Newmumlake · 16/10/2021 20:05

Absolute nonsense isn’t it

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ComDummings · 16/10/2021 20:06

@Lbnc2021

I wouldn’t leave a partner for not getting a vaccine but I would leave them for believing all this bill gates tracking bullshit
This ^
AliceinBorderland · 16/10/2021 20:06

You're not married. Can you afford to leave him. Do you own your own property as you won't be entitled to anything he owns.

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Newmumlake · 16/10/2021 20:06

Hasn’t made any comment on it at all£

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amusedbush · 16/10/2021 20:06

I would leave him for being a crackpot, tinfoil hat conspiracy theorist. If my DH said something like that to me with a straight face, I'd never take him seriously ever again.

happytoday73 · 16/10/2021 20:08

What does he think of your child having vaccines?
No he isn't really putting your child at risk... More himself (although obviously his dad being very ill wouldn't be great)....

I too would leave him because of his conspiracy theory's... Which will likely get worse with age

Muttly · 16/10/2021 20:08

Is he your child’s dad? If so I would be more afraid of repercussions for your child from your relationship breaking down than covid.

DrDreReturns · 16/10/2021 20:10

I'd leave him. My 15 year old had the jab today. None of this anti vaxxer bullshit. I've got no respect for these people.

Sugarandtime · 16/10/2021 20:11

As he is of no greater risk to you child than you are, I think you just need to agree to disagree and get on with things as you have been.

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Newmumlake · 16/10/2021 20:12

He is - maybe I’m overthink from being so sleep deprived?

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AutumnLeaves21 · 16/10/2021 20:14

I’m 100% pro vaccine, double jabbed plus booster-but you are being unreasonable and hysterical. No you are not failing to keep your child safe Hmm I honestly can’t believe you would end the relationship with your child’s father over something so trivial.
Absolutely batshit. Covid has sent people fucking bonkers.

Yogawankonobi · 16/10/2021 20:16

Would you not let the dc see him if you split?

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Newmumlake · 16/10/2021 20:16

Our baby has had his routine vaccines - my partner hasn’t commented on these at all. Due to pandemic I’ve been going to all appointments alone and just kind of got on with it all myself…

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BonnieGoWayward · 16/10/2021 20:16

How does your boyfriend feel about you having had the injections? Does he mind?

This.

I can't imagine the relationship is good anyway if a difference of opinion would make you leave it. But there's every chance he is thinking the same as you.

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Porcupineintherough · 16/10/2021 20:18

@Lbnc2021

I wouldn’t leave a partner for not getting a vaccine but I would leave them for believing all this bill gates tracking bullshit
^^Another who thinks this. I can neither love nor respect conspiracy theorists.
LJAKS · 16/10/2021 20:18

He'd still be entitled to see his child though? So wouldn't be any more risk than he currently is. Unless it's just a catalyst that's made you realise you are incompatible and cannot come back from it...

Imonlydoingwhatican · 16/10/2021 20:19

Going through similar. But he is full on into the bs. So much so he is refusing the children having any normal vax inculding the routine flu sprays, which he himself has had in the past. Weighing up options as we speak

FreshFreesias · 16/10/2021 20:19

Perhaps you need some help with your health anxiety OP.

XenoBitch · 16/10/2021 20:19

I don't believe that anyone out there truly thinks that the vaccine is a way to be tracked by Bill Gates. You say yourself that your partner wont discuss why he wont have the vaccine. It might be that he is simply too anxious about it, and does not want to be harassed about. Using the Bill Gates myth may just be a way to get you to stop talking about it.

GoldChick · 16/10/2021 20:21

You can leave him at any time for any reason.

Scirocco · 16/10/2021 20:21

If someone said that to me, I'd be concerned about a fundamental mismatch of our views. I wouldn't necessarily end a relationship with someone because they didn't get vaccinated, but I might well if they had reasons which were incompatible with my own views and values.

You can end a relationship for whatever reason you want, so if this is the breaking point for you then you have every right to end things.

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Newmumlake · 16/10/2021 20:22

It’s a horrible situation to be in. Am I batshit mad or right to feel I need to keep my child as safe as possible

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