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Parents refused the vaccine and now have covid

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ofallthedays · 05/04/2021 22:04

Even worse, they looked after my dd today as we are moving house and this has now meant we can’t see DPs parents tomorrow, on his birthday, for the first time in 6 months.
I am devastated. Worried for them (and me as I am pregnant). But most of all bloody angry and I don’t know if iabu to feel this way. But I can’t help being annoyed they didn’t have the vaccine. They have turned it down twice both from work and the GP.
I don’t even know what to say to PILs at the moment as I am embarrassed at the way my parents have handled the whole pandemic..and it has now cost PILs seeing their grandchild Sad
Not a question really, just wanted to vent. Maybe it’s my fault for letting them look after her? But didn’t feel I could blackmail them to make them have the vaccine. It’s so shit.
Any ideas to help me salvage DPs birthday much appreciated. I don’t even have a cake as MIL was bringing that.

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Pootles34 · 05/04/2021 22:07

It's so tough isn't it - I'm all for personal choice, but if people being stupid puts everyone else at risk... I don't know.

I don't understand timings though - did they have symptoms and continued to look after your dd?

PinkPlantCase · 05/04/2021 22:07

Oh OP this sounds so frustrating! I can see why you’re annoyed. Fingers crossed your DD hasn’t picked it up.

On salvaging the birthday, do you live in an area with Uber eats? You could still send them some sweet treats/cake!

Devlesko · 05/04/2021 22:07

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ilovesooty · 05/04/2021 22:08

If you're angry I don't blame you.

Moomoolandmoomooland · 05/04/2021 22:09

You can still catch the virus even if you have had the vaccine. Even if they had it, you may well still be in the same position you are right now.

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ajandjjmum · 05/04/2021 22:12

@Moomoolandmoomooland

You can still catch the virus even if you have had the vaccine. Even if they had it, you may well still be in the same position you are right now.
The odds are hugely reduced though - and at least then you've done everything you can not to catch it!
Roonerspismed · 05/04/2021 22:12

Their choice!

reformedcharacters · 05/04/2021 22:12

So they didn’t tell you they have covid if this was only today?

Ffsffsffsffsffs · 05/04/2021 22:13

Assuming they had symptoms or were awaiting results from a PCR test I'd be going absolutely nuclear at them for putting your dd, you, your dh and your unborn baby at risk - now one of you will have to self-isolate with dd for the next 10 days.

I'd be praying that they don't suffer any complications as I'd be so fucked off if either expected me to look after them under the circumstances.

Sure, everyone has the choice whether or not to get vaccinated. This was the choice they made, and must bear the consequences of it.

I have no suggestions re dh's birthday. Reschedule for 2 weeks from now maybe? It's shit he can't now see his parents because yours obviously weren't truthful.

pickingdaisies · 05/04/2021 22:13

Well first, that's rubbish I'm so sorry. Second, you have to tell pil's right away, it would be awful if they only find out in the morning. Only advice I can offer is to have a postponed birthday visit after you've all self isolated. I'd be angry too, if they were babysitting on the same day they had a covid test.

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ofallthedays · 05/04/2021 22:14

They work in a school. Started to feel unwell this aft and took lateral flows which are positive. Have been for PCRs which are most likely going to be positive.
@Moomoolandmoomooland that’s a good point but would have been less likely. .
@PinkPlantCase good idea about delivery! Frantically searching google now

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Blessex · 05/04/2021 22:15

Yes I would be mighty annoyed. How are they by the way?

reformedcharacters · 05/04/2021 22:16

LFT is not suitable for those with symptoms and the issue isn’t with their vaccination status as they could still catch it, the issue is with their honesty.

Leavethedooropen · 05/04/2021 22:16

How old are they?

Blessex · 05/04/2021 22:18

@reformedcharacters I would be mighty annoyed because they refused the vaccine which not only reduces the risk of them catching it in the first place but also will not affect them so badly. What if they now need care?

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ofallthedays · 05/04/2021 22:19

@blessex just said they feel run down at the moment. They are late 50s.
I have been trying to convince them and could see this coming. Annoying thing is I can see them saying ‘well we’ve had covid now’ and carry on as they have been. I’m nearing third trimester so will definitely be more upfront!
@pickingdaisies we’ve told them. I feel awful 😞

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ScrumptiousBears · 05/04/2021 22:19

What was the reasons for them refusing the vaccine?

Scottishskifun · 05/04/2021 22:20

Tell your parents to get an oximeter on next day delivery or speak to the GP to see if they can help.

I am recovering from a moderate case and even when my lungs were feeling better I had periods of my oxygen levels dropping below 95 (I'm 34 BTW)

It's incredibly frustrating but it is a completely random and roller-coaster illness my DH on the other hand barely had any symptoms.

reformedcharacters · 05/04/2021 22:20

Blessex

The result is uncertain as they used LFT with symptoms and if they need care that’s the risk they took.

AlexaShutUp · 05/04/2021 22:20

Yanbu for being annoyed at all, but maybe you shouldn't have used them for childcare if you are pregnant and at a higher risk. I would feel very frustrated in your situation, though.

FlattestWhite · 05/04/2021 22:22

LFT is only not suitable for those with symptoms in that it frequently produces negatives when someone is actually positive. It's rarely the other way around, especially if someone has symptoms, so it's likely that they will test positive on the PCR test. They should have just gone straight for that, but I guess you'd still be in the same position (or worse, if they hadn't told you and you hadn't then isolated while they waited for the results, and potentially spread it).

Frustrating, when they could easily have had the vaccine, unlike so many who are desperate for it in schools. It isn't 100% but would have made it much less likely that they'd catch it or spread it.

Do they work in the same place and likely caught it there?

Hope your daughter hasn't caught it.

CheesyBobs · 05/04/2021 22:23

I thought the reason that LFTs were unsuitable for symptoms was because of the risk of false negatives so not the other way round

CheesyBobs · 05/04/2021 22:24

@FlattestWhite sorry X post

Blessex · 05/04/2021 22:24

@FlattestWhite agree on the frustration. I just can’t get my head around why people would take the lottery risk of catching this horrible virus rather than have the jab.

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