Husbands vaccine is today and he won't go

[Dbwoshem]

My husband is group 6 (age 36) and its taken me a lot of effort to get his vaccine appointment booked through our gp. I had mine last week and I was so, so relieved.

This morning he gets up to leave for work and tells me he isnt going. Now this is because he is absolutely TERRIFIED of needles. He has a severe phobia of them. We have been together 20 years. He has had blood tests or injections on a few occasions and has always fainted. I do feel for him.

But I have spent alot of time this past week speaking to him about it and trying to ease his concerns. And also to stress how important I think it is that he should have it to protect himself and our family. He was going with me to assist up until this morning when he is refusing. He has now gone to work and I don't think he will come back for his appointment.

What do I do? I know its a phobia, but I am so frustrated that's hes willing to put himself and our family at risk. He has also said that God forbid if he ever gets cscener, or diabetes or any illness in his life that requires treatment from injection he will refuse all treatment!! This is a big, burly guy who is covered in tattoos! (tattoo needles are different supposedly)
I can't respect his choice, I just can't. Our whole weekend will be spent either arguing or not speaking to each other now aswell

@KC934
"What I'll have is a longer lifespan because I dont make up lame excuses to avoid lifesaving treatment."

Why do you lack the understanding of someone else feelings?

You (could possibly) also have a longer lifespan of a person who experiences suicidal ideation, depression but that doesnt make you a kinder, nicer or an educated person. But then again you could experience a traumatic event which could change your life in a second, an you will have people around you being very supportive and non-judgmental or having high expectations. It's very sad to see so many people generalizing and conditioning mental health rather than developing understanding.

Because his precious feelings put the lives of his nearest and dearest at risk.

For the last time.
He has a phobia.
It is not rational.

It is not a lame excuse. It is not about "previous feelings"

You are entitled to your own opinion of course but I think it is well out of order to come onto a thread like this claiming to have a needle phobia and then start bashing others who have a genuine phobia (a recognized mental health condition) and mocking them because they are not able to overcome their phobia.

You're the one that posted on here complaining about him in the first place. You don't like what I have to say? Then stop replying to me.

I am not the OP.

Feelings can be nurtured creating change and movement.
Ignorance and forceful tactics create fear and the person to remain "stuck".

I highly doubt a person who has a phobia (or any mental health condition in that matter) willingly wants to put their family in danger. They literally can't do what scares them.

You may think you have an opinion but what you speak is ignorance and lack of awareness. Which has no value.