Are we being left behind? Be honest

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I’m sitting in my back garden right now trying so hard not to fall to pieces, fighting back the tears but I’m cracking at the seams. Me and my DH are now arguing about it. My heart can’t cope- please tell me your opinions.

I will try to keep it short- sorry.
We are a couple with 2 children. One teen, one reception at school. Since March last year the kids have only been at school September - December so far.

We don’t have many friends, probably around 8 couples, so 16 people ish. All with children too.

My partner is on furlough and has been from the start. For around a year we have all been home, indoors, apart from when the kids went to school. I work from home.

Now this is the part that’s breaking me and causing rows.
All of our friends, 16 people, go out to work apart from 2, one is a SAHP the other works from home. All of their children apart from one couple send there kids to school, either a full week or part of the week. The one couple that doesn’t send them to school sends them to grandparents.

I don’t care about me or my partner but my kids have literally, and literally being the correct word,.... I can’t emphasise that enough, ...have gone nowhere and played with no one since leaving school in December. (We go for walks, the weather is cold so not for long, but they haven’t been to any place, nans, relatives, anything and nothing) they don’t even get to go to the shops which my DH does, yes it’s a chore food shopping, but he still gets out the house, the kids haven’t at all apart from walks.

Yesterday I saw from my front room window a mum with her two kids walking down the road towards our home, she was with another women and her child too, I looked again and I saw that it was 2 women from the school and the children were from my daughters class- the kids were smiling, walking along together and on there way to the park. I had to shut the front room curtains so my daughter didn’t see, as she is young and wouldn’t understand why she couldn’t go and play- it fucking killed me.

I genuinely feel like no one else is doing what we are doing!! All other kids are at school, going to grandparents, seeing other children on the sly and my kids are prisoners in there own house. No one else is seeing no one, no one else is going nowhere (to work) and having no interaction with any people at all.

Today my youngest lost control and had a full blown tantrum as she didn’t want to do her school work- she screamed at the top of her lungs she is bored and run upstairs crying her eyes out. I said to my partner it’s too much, they don’t even get to have a 5 minute wonder a round a stupid shop, they get nothing, see no one- he said we are being safe...I screamed we are mugs!! We’re cutting our nose to spite our face- no one else is doing this to the extent we are!!! No one!! Home schooling is hard because she HAS to do the work- the pressure.

Am I right or wrong? Is anyone out there, single parent or a couple with children where everyone is in the house and no one really does see anyone else- just the weekly shop by themselves and back again? Have your children really not seen anyone or played with anyone? Be honest please!!!

I can’t handle this for my kids anymore- they will hate us....please tell me what to do? I’m so broken.

Its under 12s in Scotland that don't count

@TwirpingBird you should only be scared to leave your front door if you are vulnerable or caring for a vulnerable person. If you are scared of a virus that only has a fatality rate of less that 1% in most people , how do you feel about cancer , heart disease, car accidents?
This kind of thinking beggars belief

[quote Dontforgetyourbrolly]@TwirpingBird you should only be scared to leave your front door if you are vulnerable or caring for a vulnerable person. If you are scared of a virus that only has a fatality rate of less that 1% in most people , how do you feel about cancer , heart disease, car accidents?
This kind of thinking beggars belief[/quote]
My DH works in the houses of vulnerable people. I am trying not to kill them 🙄

@TwirpingBird that's a bit uncalled for, but is exactly in line with the sort of comments I referred to.

@little, hi, OP asked if anyone else felt like a mug. I was saying what made me feel like a mug - it's normally when people make shitty comments about people following the rules, whilst disregarding them themselves. Also those who go to playgrounds etc when class is meant to be isolating. Therefore those people benefit from numbers of infections going down etc whilst taking the piss out of people that are helping to get the numbers down, or saying stupid deflecting things like they want lockdown to last forever/love being a martyr etc etc.

The reality is lockdown is shit, but I accept it's the way it has to be for now. Like most, I can see why some people break them for certain reasons eg a couple/people living separately in solitary household meeting up, who could equally have decided to live together for lockdown - what difference to meet up compared to if they'd moved in together etc, families comforting each other at funerals, people dealing with depression etc etc

1000 people have died in my county so far. It is very real.

@TryingNotToPanicOverCovid

I guess its your circle too - my main circle of friends wouldn't contemplate meeting up with anyone else at all and are quite shocked when people are. We're probably all m/c professionals who are rule followers though.

As I've said before I truly assumed most on mn would be similar.

Can’t believe no one else has picked up on you Hyacinth Bouquet comments there. So only those thick working class people are flexing the rules? Middle class professionals are all so good two shoes 🤣

No not at all - Im obviously in a narrow circle. But im asusming that most of the comments from most of those meeting up wih others against the rules on here will be similar background to myself. Was assuming I was simar rather than different. Other than being adverse to rule breaking obviosuly!

And the genuine surprise tbh.

@Bubbinsmakesthree

Im aware ‘it’s not that hard’. I wasn’t actually justifying me being near any other mums. We aren’t meeting up with anyone whatsoever. I’ve seen no other mums in person since March. (I’m one of the hysterical martyrs apparently)

I do take your point re both being asymptotic etc. That’s interesting to point out and probably quite a good point.

I still feel like people who are letting kids mix freely and justifying it by saying ‘but the adults social distanced’ doesn’t really in any way make it less risky.

If peoples kids are mixing, that’s their households mixing whether the two adults ‘socially distance’ or not.

@TryingNotToPanicOverCovid. Regardless of how you meant it, it came across as snobby. Insinuating that non-professional non-middle class people aren’t law abiding.

And some of your middle class friends probably are flexing the rules. I don’t mean house parties etc but small things which make their and their kids lives easier. They won’t tell you about it as you seem to be taking this super seriously and they’ll probably fear being shunned from your group of middle class law abiding professionals.

Not at all snobby. Just phrased badly. Apologies.

I simply meant I assumed my background to be similar to those on here. My income certainly isn't 🤣.