Driving 80 miles to meet student daughter for a walk

[walkornot]

She would drive 20 miles to meet me. She went back to her uni town before lockdown. She's okay but struggling at times. Thinking of meeting her next weekend for a walk. Bad idea?

But why is the risk of transmitting covid any greater if the OP meets one other person 50 miles away for an outside socially distanced walk than if she travels 5 miles and does the same thing?

@Covidcorvid because they will probably have to go to the toilet somewhere/get petrol?

More likely to give a hug to someone if made all that effort to meet up

Oh well done you @MartiniDry, we'll send your medal in the post!

Maybe we should send her a few more adjectives to describe how WONDERFUL her kids are, because clearly, any kids that may be struggling, just aren't as 'level-headed' or ''mature'.

What does your daughter think? The tone of all these posts seems to ignore any thoughts she may have. 'Bring her home's- does she want to? Does she want you to visit?

How can someone drive 1,000 miles without having to stop somewhere and then risk having contact with people?

If you are in a small but picturesque village, with low rates of COVID and someone rocks up from 100s of miles away from an area of high rates COVID, just so they can have a pretty walk. They then go into the local shop/garage and have a potential of spreading the virus.

I could easily drive that far, have a walk, drive back and not need a wee. All the toilets are surely shut anyway? My car does 600 miles without needing filling up and you can use pay at the pump anyway.

Last post referred to the OPs distance, not the 1000 miles recently mentioned.

But @Covidcorvid that is the issue where do you draw the line, I would need a wee with the distance the OP is talking about, and I would certainly need many breaks for 1000 miles! That is why they are asking people to stay local

She doesn't want to come home and if she did she can drive.

Unless you have good reason to worry about her health you can't just go for a walk

Of course it's fine. Meeting someone for a walk outside is well within the rules.

The distance aspect might be annoying to some, but is not part of the law. I certainly wouldn't trouble myself about going a bit further for my child who's struggling.

I would OP, without a second thought.

I'd take a bucket in case I wanted a wee!!

@ineedaholidaynow

But *@Covidcorvid* that is the issue where do you draw the line, I would need a wee with the distance the OP is talking about, and I would certainly need many breaks for 1000 miles! That is why they are asking people to stay local

Maybe the govt should have specified an actual distance. 🤷‍♀️ They didn’t so I don’t see that people should be fined. Some people would say 80 miles is local.

So what if you have to get petrol?! What's the difference between getting petrol from your local garage or one 50 miles away?!

Get in your car and go and see your DD OP you don't need our permission.
As others have said, depending on how much she's struggling, bring her back home with you if needed.
My DD comes before anything. I'd be in my car, if I got stopped, I got stopped, I'd deal with that if it happened.

Just watching the football Can't stand it DH had it on made my blood boil. All that hugging and jumping on each other when people are being kept away from family and friends

I'm enjoying the footie. Like the old days. Enjoy your visit with your dd OP

@Frodont pre-COVID I used to have to fill up my car every fortnight, DH every week. Since first lockdown we have both filled our cars up about 5 times each if that. We have been WFH where possible and staying local.

The new variant has spread across the country because people haven't been staying local. The same with any new variants. Some people do need to travel but others don't.

[quote ineedaholidaynow]@Frodont pre-COVID I used to have to fill up my car every fortnight, DH every week. Since first lockdown we have both filled our cars up about 5 times each if that. We have been WFH where possible and staying local.

The new variant has spread across the country because people haven't been staying local. The same with any new variants. Some people do need to travel but others don't.[/quote]
I live rurally so I have to drive to to the shops. I am still filling my car up with petrol occasionally. It makes no difference if I fill up locally (311 cases per 100000) or somewhere 50 miles away (similar rate!). Wear a mask, sanitise hands etc etc

@BackforGood
Wouldn’t you visit your daughter if you were worried about her and she wanted you to?

It is obviously against the rules and of course most people who break the rules are just like Dominic Cummings and think they have a good excuse.

I think I would weigh up how much my DC needed me against the bad example I would be setting by breaking the rules.

Also could you live with yourself if you gave her CV (please don't pretend that you wont hug her when you see her) or if you brought it home to others. I have friends who visited family for Christmas against the rules (not local, not bubbled) and took CV with them.

In my opinion if she is not coping, she should come home, if she doesn't want to, that suggests she is coping fine.

@Notgoingouttoday
Just because she doesn’t want to come home doesn’t mean she’s not coping. It’s not always that simple. And if she does come home she could just as easily bring Covid with her.
Travelling to see her is not setting a bad example it’s putting your own child’s needs above the hypothetical and in the context of an 80 mile journey, small risk that you may infect someone.

I think I would weigh up how much my DC needed me against the bad example I would be setting by breaking the rules.

Bad example, for goodness sake, is OP's daughter 5 and unable to use her own judgement? No perhaps the example being set anyway is to be there for your friends and loved ones when they really need you. Just the example of being a decent human being.

The example I would want to set is that I'd risk a fine to see my dd for a walk.

Simple do it it’s best for your DD. If you hit problems just say you’re Dominic Cummings.