Driving 80 miles to meet student daughter for a walk

[walkornot]

She would drive 20 miles to meet me. She went back to her uni town before lockdown. She's okay but struggling at times. Thinking of meeting her next weekend for a walk. Bad idea?

@walkornot

No f2f. Coming home would definitely be against what is advised - they were told to stay put

If she’s struggling and wants to come home permanently for the rest of the academic year then she should. They don’t want people,flitting from home to halls all the time. But people are allowed to move house. 🤷‍♀️

But yes, I’d go and see her. When Dominic Cummings broke all the rules they said it was fine because he was worried about his kids and it was a safeguarding issue and that any parent would do the same.

It's your daughter. Of course go. Once we've descended to the point of not seeing our own children outside when they are struggling there is no hope for humanity.

No, absolutely not.

The big problem would be if one of you had a car crash. Ambulances, police cars, road closures, hospital admissions into overfilled and contagious hospitals. That's why they're trying to stop unnecessary journeys.

However if she's struggling I totally agree with the "get her home" approach, even if its not recommended.

@Layladylay234

Ugh,just go. I really despair of the people on here screaming,no you can't,it's breaking their rules. Well actually,I despair for their kids and what they're putting them through

OP asked for opinions.

I would op if my daughter was struggling. She is also a student but lives in my city so I don't have to drive far. Nevertheless I would.

You are allowed to leave your home to provide emergency assistance or provide care for a vulnerable person. Depending how much she is struggling it could come under either.

Depends whether it's her mental health or not, could you not both travel half way & meet in the middle? Then it's only 10 miles each and who can stay socially distanced for a walk but wear masks. Do you think you would be able to follow the social distancing once you see her? It's difficult when you are close to someone, make sure neither of you let's your guard down. This new strain is very easily caught x

Do it x

I wouldn’t think twice, go and see her.

Absolutely yes for my child

@Wannabangbang she's in a city 100 miles away from me

100% yes . X

I would.
Do what's best for you and your daughter.

I wouldn’t do the walk but I would bring her home. I think as someone has said they don’t want them going backwards and forwards but coming back permanently is different and if DD was struggling and had no face to face I would do this .

My parents did this sort of thing for me when I was struggling with depression at university. I can't imagine how much worse I would have been if Covid had been happening - I would have needed their support more than ever. Yes, go - and bring her home if that's what she needs, whatever the rules say.

She doesn't want to come home. Circumstances at home aren't always ideal for home learning. She just wants to see me to recharge.

@Layladylay234

Ugh,just go. I really despair of the people on here screaming,no you can't,it's breaking their rules. Well actually,I despair for their kids and what they're putting them through

This!!

You're not going "for a walk". You're going to check on a vulnerable person.

I'd bring her home for the rest of the term if she's struggling.

Sorry cross posted with you saying she doesn't want to come home!

I absolutely would meet my daughter

Totally do it and I’m normally a massive stickler for the rules. Your DD needs you, and apart from the risk of breaking down or having an accident which is probably very small, it’s no different from walking locally.

Yesterday I was talking to someone who’d driven (possibly more than once) that sort of distance to look at houses and apparently that is allowed Seeing your DD is much more important and justifiable imo.

Hope she is ok OP

Do it - she needs you

I definitely would x