I just need to vent - elderly relative has Covid due to selfishness of others

[Rinoachicken]

So my elderly grandfather who is 97 and lives alone has been rushed to hospital with Covid and is now on oxygen.

Where did he get it from?

From my aunt and uncle, who provide some of his care along with my parents, and who couldn’t bear to not go on their annual Christmas holiday abroad because they are ‘special’ don’t you know and NEEDED to go. So having spent hours in germy airports and breathing recycled air on planes, they then couldnt be bothered to quarantine when they got home and instead went to visit my grandfather.

And then promptly came down with Covid.

No longer able to provide their share of care my parents did it all. No grandfather is in hospital fighting for his life and we have to wait and see if my parents have caught it from providing his care.

All because my fucking aunt and uncle thought they were more important than everyone else and that the rules didn’t apply to them. Goodness knows how many other people they have infected swanning about the community when they should have been quarantining.

Apparently they feel ‘really guilty’ now.

All they had to do to protect him was STAY AWAY. Just for 10 days would have been sufficient. They would have got the symptoms, tested positive, isolated etc but he would have been safe.

FFS

Some of the comments on this thread are vile. I think a few people here were near the back of the queue when they were giving out empathy. Lols? Seriously? Morons.

@Rinoachicken, I am so sorry for what you're going through.

So sorry, @Rinoachicken. I've read all your posts in a row and I agree that this tragic situation was entirely avoidable.

Please ignore the wankers on here if you can.

I’m so sorry this has happened. I completely understand your anger, as him being unwell is a consequence of their irresponsible behaviour and that must make the current situation so much harder to handle than him picking it up as a result of being unlucky. I’m glad he’s stable and I’ll keep everything crossed that he pulls through and you get more time with him. I hope your parents stay well too. I’ll be thinking of you all.

I am so sorry 💐

God, I am so sorry OP

Sorry to read your update OP

So sorry to hear this OP. Awful. Truly awful. Sending you

Sorry to hear your update and also that so many people have been arses on your post.

So very sorry to hear this @Rinoachicken

Sorry to see your update. Hope by some miracle he can pull through .

And before anyone says lack of respect for old people. I lost my parents at 51 and 70 so when I hear of someone aged 97 it literally blows my mind. Of course every day is precious but we simply must prepare ourselves for losing loved ones as they age, regardless of the cause

@Pootle40 well you were at the back of the fucking sympathy queue wasn't you! If you ACTUALLY bother to read this poor ladies comments, he only could of caught if from her aunt and uncle. And as he had such a great independence is a massive shock to her family. As they say if you can't be nice fuck off

OP

Someone's much loved relative has died

So sorry for your loss OP and take no notice of those with an empathy bypass

[quote PurpleMustang]@Pootle40 well you were at the back of the fucking sympathy queue wasn't you! If you ACTUALLY bother to read this poor ladies comments, he only could of caught if from her aunt and uncle. And as he had such a great independence is a massive shock to her family. As they say if you can't be nice fuck off[/quote]
I don't think that's what they say actually ...

I agree with you Pootle and I'm sorry you lost both your parents.

I think it is possible to feel both absolute sympathy for op here with a dying grandfather and to point out that anger and blame at this point is toxic for all involved. At a time like this, the family need to support one another or at least put anger and finger pointing aside.

Op sending you best wishes and strength

You have a right to be angry. Hope your parents are ok too.

Pootle the age of the grandfather isn’t really relevant. The aunt and uncle broke quarantine rules and passed the virus to a vulnerable person. If they had quarantined, they would have been in isolation when they developed symptoms and not gone visiting. Infecting people while breaking rules is completely different to infecting someone inadvertently while trying to take every precaution. The latter is unfortunate, the former is the result of poor decision making which I would find difficult to forgive.

Thinking of you OP x

He has now passed away. Thank you for the kids words and understanding from most x

*kind

So sorry to read that OP.

Very sorry to hear that. I hope you can hold onto the lovely memories of your grandfather, be reassured that he wouldn't have been suffering and in pain at the end and allow yourself to grieve.

I hope your parents are now recovering and haven't been badly affected by the virus.