Has everyone really stopped having sex?

[notevenat20]

It’s early and I am stressed so what better than to worry about other peoples sex life.

Have all the single (or maybe not single) women here really just not had sex with anyone new in 2020? Have teenagers really stopped shagging? It just seems inhuman if true.

Sex is such an individual thing. As we’ve seen here, there is no one size fits all approach - some have still been shagging through lockdown, others haven’t and miss it, others haven’t and don’t miss it.

Personally I fall into the latter category - I’ve had a lot of sex in my time but most has been average at best - I’ve genuinely lost all sex drive now, I don’t even think about it or masturbate, and I don’t miss it at all. I find it liberating and I doubt I’ll be rushing out to find someone to shag if and when lockdown ends

At the end of all this shit (soon, it's coming: promise) I shall need a 'Beginner's Guide to Sex for the Out of Practice Woman'. Is there such a book? Should I write one?

Yes! I would buy ten copies at least :)

@malahaha I sort of see what you mean. I think it is natural to want to have sex, and people shouldnt feel shamed for feeling like this. At the same time, it is also normal not to - and there does seem to be a culture at the moment that if you are not interested (or if you are interested but still dont want to for whatever reason) there is something wrong with you. At the same time culturally girls are still likely to be shamed for being too active, so effectively they cant win.
One thing I have noticed is that while many women might by celibate through no choice of their own, they are more likely to be sad about this than anything else. It is men generally (not all men) expressing anger at not being able to have sex with the people they want to have sex with, or describing it as a violation of their rights. This sort of mindset is hugely dangerous, and needs pushing back against. Sex is NOT a right for anyone. As soon as people start saying that it is we throw the most vulnerable under a bus.

@BertramLacey

I shall need a 'Beginner's Guide to Sex for the Out of Practice Woman'. Is there such a book? Should I write one?

Doing the research would be fun.

Step one: remove cobwebs Step two: make bed Step three: locate male of the species and inform him of intentions*. If he answers in the affirmative proceed to step four. If not repeat step three. Step four: try to remember what sex is. Ask aforementioned male if he remembers.

*If he does not respond in any way at all it is possible you are not talking to a male human but rather a lampost or bush etc. In which case repeat step three.

Having sex is non-essential and doing so might risk injury and a trip to A&E.

(Using the logic on some threads)

@starfro

Having sex is non-essential and doing so might risk injury and a trip to A&E.

(Using the logic on some threads)

Perhaps the govt should limit sex to no more than ten minutes, once a day? Preferably at times likely to be quieter for the emergency services?

Sex is NOT a right for anyone.

I see that there are two diametrically opposed interpretations of this simple idea. I mean that the state should not pass laws stopping consenting adults from having sex unless they are being punished for a crime. I think you are talking about a right to be provided with sex by other people, which is obviously wrong and weird.

Perhaps the govt should limit sex to no more than ten minutes, once a day? Preferably at times likely to be quieter for the emergency services?

I think we would all have to be allocated different time slots in case there was a rush of accidents.

@notevenat20 to be fair, reading your posts I do see what you are getting at. It is odd that (even as an unintended consequence) government regulations are having such an impact on peoples romantic lives. I just think that any arguement that starts with the assumption that sex is a need in some way is a bit flawed.
Although actually, even if we take the arguement that the "Law should not stop consenting adults having sex unless they are punished for a crime" i can think of exceptions - e.g. 2 consenting adults that also happen to be siblings. The law has always been "allowed" to prevent or punish that and this is justified because of the harm principle - technically a child born as the result would be at great risk of harm so incest is illegal. (The other reason is because -eewwwww but is that sufficient justification to ban it?) The harm principle could also be applied to sex that risks spreading Covid.
(Sorry if I seem to be really nit-picky. I am nitpicking. I just find it a really complicated subject and therefore interesting.)

"I think we would all have to be allocated different time slots in case there was a rush of accidents."

Or everyone has to ask their prospective partner to fill out a risk assesment form including disclosure of medical conditions such as heart problems etc?

The law has always been "allowed" to prevent or punish that and this is justified because of the harm principle - technically a child born as the result would be at great risk of harm so incest is illegal. (The other reason is because -eewwwww but is that sufficient justification to ban it?)

I am more on the eewwwww side. If they are infertile it should still be illegal.

@notevenat20

The law has always been "allowed" to prevent or punish that and this is justified because of the harm principle - technically a child born as the result would be at great risk of harm so incest is illegal. (The other reason is because -eewwwww but is that sufficient justification to ban it?)

I am more on the eewwwww side. If they are infertile it should still be illegal.

See I want to agree, but WHY when two consenting, mentally well adults have the right to have sex and are not harming anyone else by doing so. It is hard to justify the state banning it because wider society finds it unpalatable. Why is state interference in this instance justified. (And I know that sounds like I am some sort of wierdo incest advocate. i am not i swear).

yetanothernamitynamechange

We also don't make it illegal for people with hereditary genetic disorders to have sex. I think that's just a red herring.

Agreed - but why do you think its justified for the state to interfere in what 2 consenting adults do purely because you and me (and most people) find it disgusting and offensive but NOT when it is something that could potentially cause harm to others (non-relating people spreading covid) AND is potentially something many people find offensive (meeting up with different people during a lockdown). What is the cut-off and who gets to decide?

Stuff covid I've not had sex for 3 years 😂

Stuff covid I've not had sex for 3 years

Have you tried just sitting at the bar in a pub with a drink and a book?

@notevenat20 Have you seen the typical man who frequents pubs?

notevenat20 Have you seen the typical man who frequents pubs?

You have to choose the right pub :)

Many people go that long or much longer without sex! Eg single people who don't want casual sex. It's really not unusual or inhuman.