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notevenat20 · 2021-01-04T07:01:58+00:00

It’s early and I am stressed so what better than to worry about other peoples sex life. Have all the single (or maybe not single) women here really just not had sex with anyone new in 2020? Have *teenagers* really stopped shagging? It just seems inhuman if true.

steppemum · 04/01/2021 09:29

@notevenat20

People are capable of controlling themselves, it's not that shocking surely?

I find it shocking. Sex and eating are fundamental to life.

Interesting.

I am obviously much older than you, but as a young person I had sex within a secure relationship, and didn't have it outside of that. So I went ofr periods of months/years with no sex. The longest was just before I met my husband, no sex for 8 years.

I love sex. But I love it within a relationship with someone I love. I didn't ever do sex on first date, and for most relationships I didn't do it until quite a while into the relationship.

We don;t all have the same approach.

UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername · 04/01/2021 09:35

Haven't had sex in 8.5 years. I can barely remember what all the fuss is about.

Cabincrewclare · 04/01/2021 09:36

Hubby and I are very regular outdoor enjoyer, tbh winter can beat summer, no annoying bugs, less people around, great way to keep warm haha

Mumofsend · 04/01/2021 09:37

I haven't been having sex but I can't blame lockdown restrictions for that

steppemum · 04/01/2021 09:38

@PurrBox

I wonder if long term couples who are living together are having more or less sex because of lockdown?

less in first lockdown, due to stress, (3 teens, 2 who weren't engaging well with school, one of whom was massively stressed herself)

Since things have calmed down with kids, more sex

Blondiney · 04/01/2021 09:38

Seems I've been unwittingly training for Covid since 2011.

MagicSummer · 04/01/2021 09:40

Yes, thank goodness. Can't be bothered with it!

BertramLacey · 04/01/2021 09:41

I agree with PP that it's the lack of any physical contact rather than a possible lack of sex which is shocking. I've been years without sex in the past. It can be frustrating but it's not a big deal.

I don't live with my OH so in lockdown 1 there was a dry spell. Once we were allowed bubbles it was better but he has a teenage daughter who barely left the house and who falls asleep late. That was much more frustrating than being single

BertramLacey · 04/01/2021 09:47

Haven't had sex in 8.5 years. I can barely remember what all the fuss is about.

With the wrong person it really isn't worth the hassle. With the right person, it is one of life's great joys, IMO. When people ask 'sex or chocolate' I never think it's a fair question. Are we talking cheap milk chocolate versus someone who actually knows what they're doing, or the finest dark chocolate Belgium has to offer vs an irate, hormonal chimp-man with no knowledge of anatomy? They're very different questions.

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notevenat20 · 04/01/2021 09:51

hormonal chimp-man has his place too :)

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Malahaha · 04/01/2021 09:55

@Shehasadiamondinthesky

I made the decision to give up sex 4 years ago but that was nothing to do with coronavirus.

I haven't had sex for 15 years and I'm just fine! :) Nothing "inhuman" about not having sex; my life is better than ever now, in retirement!

HeadIsFucked · 04/01/2021 10:05

@TitInATrance

You are now allowed to change your bubble if you abstain for 10 days between - it’s on the gov.uk website.

Thats an interesting change, among all the fluffing about 'tightening restrictions'. Will help a lot of people. But not sure it will help the actual situation much!

SoDiorDarling · 04/01/2021 10:05

My friend is T4 and for her 30th got pissed in a park and shagged classy bird eh?

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notevenat20 · 04/01/2021 10:08

You make it sound like a surprise birthday present! I assume it was someone she fancied?

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SoDiorDarling · 04/01/2021 10:14

One can only assume...

Givemeabreak88 · 04/01/2021 10:15

I haven’t had sex in 4 years , I’m single, nothing to do with corona

I don’t think many single people are sticking to it though. I’ve seen way too many people saying they have bubbled with guys they barely know, clearly for sex

Eckhart · 04/01/2021 10:16

@notevenat20

People are capable of controlling themselves, it's not that shocking surely?

I find it shocking. Sex and eating are fundamental to life.

If you don't eat, you suffer from malnourishment, drop weight, and eventually die.

What is the biological consequence of not having sex?

wildraisins · 04/01/2021 10:16

No. Everyone has not really stopped having sex.

Eckhart · 04/01/2021 10:22

The more I think about the OP, the more ridiculous it seems. Do people really believe that people who are single for extended periods are usually popping out for one night stands regularly to cater for their 'biological need'? Do people really believe that there is regular sex in every marriage? Do people really believe that celibacy is not a viable option because of a physical need?

Surely everybody serving a long prison sentence would explode after a few months, for a start? Do prisoners have sex provisions made for them? They have to have all their needs looked after according to human rights laws.

VallarMorghulis · 04/01/2021 10:23

@sittingonacornflake

Thanks for checking on me

Obviously lockdown 1 no sex then they let us free so I had several months of all the sex.

Then since second lockdown no sex

Hoping for it to return at Easter!

Same

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notevenat20 · 04/01/2021 10:25

Surely everybody serving a long prison sentence would explode after a few months, for a start? Do prisoners have sex provisions made for them? They have to have all their needs looked after according to human rights laws.

Don't ask about what happens in prisons! It's nothing good.

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EeeehElsie · 04/01/2021 10:25

@PurrBox

I wonder if long term couples who are living together are having more or less sex because of lockdown?

We've gone from 2 or 3 times a week to once or twice a month, if we're lucky. Being locked down in a tiny house with paper thin walls and DD 24 (who lost her job at the start of LD1 so never leaves the house, and is pretty much nocturnal) has pretty much put the kybosh on any kind of sex life. It's so frustrating as DH has been wfh since March so if it'd been us there'd have been plenty of lunchtime opportunities and so on. We've been climbing the walls but with absolutely no privacy there's been no chance.

AcornAutumn · 04/01/2021 10:26

@notevenat20

ForeverBubblegum

It’s a good point about bubbles. I notice your name is implying something in that context :)

I guess you can bubble for as short or long time as you like with a new date. Amusingly this does mean that monogamy is now the only legal form of sex life.

No it doesn't.

If bubbles were enforceable in law, which I am not sure they can be, even the government guidelines say you can change your bubble.

EeeehElsie · 04/01/2021 10:28

Do people really believe that people who are single for extended periods are usually popping out for one night stands regularly to cater for their 'biological need'? Do people really believe that there is regular sex in every marriage

When I was single I had ONS regularly to scratch that itch. And pre-Covid there was definitely regular sex in my marriage.

Eckhart · 04/01/2021 10:30

@notevenat20

Surely everybody serving a long prison sentence would explode after a few months, for a start? Do prisoners have sex provisions made for them? They have to have all their needs looked after according to human rights laws.

Don't ask about what happens in prisons! It's nothing good.

It was a serious question though. Not everybody is having horrible things happen to them. What do you think is the consequence of not having sex for years and years?