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Has everyone really stopped having sex?

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notevenat20 · 04/01/2021 07:01

It’s early and I am stressed so what better than to worry about other peoples sex life.

Have all the single (or maybe not single) women here really just not had sex with anyone new in 2020? Have teenagers really stopped shagging? It just seems inhuman if true.

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notevenat20 · 04/01/2021 07:52

3littlewords

If you ban condoms, you don’t stop sex you just get lots of new little people :)

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Ultimatecougar · 04/01/2021 07:53

@Jackblackcat how the hell did you find that many people to date? I couldn't find that many even before Covid?
And yes I'm on Tinder. But most of the men on there seem to not want to meet anyone even before Covid. They just want to talk dirty and get nudes.

Whatever9999 · 04/01/2021 07:53

I'm wondering if there are actually single women scared to get maternity care because it would be obvious they had broken the law...

Seriously it is technically illegal to have casual sex, how many young girls (who would already be reluctant to seek care for sexual health or pregnancy) are now refusing to get care because they are scared of getting in to trouble with the covid policr

JustAnotherUserinParadise · 04/01/2021 07:55

They can't have - my midwife said the spring is looking really busy for them!
Although we have stopped - I'm 33 weeks pregnant and DH is put off by the thought that there's a baby involved!

StopSquirtingBleachOnCaneToads · 04/01/2021 07:55

I imagine a fair number of people have broken the rules for a shag.

But as a PP said i think it's more likely to be someone they already know, rather than a new random person.

DailyCandy · 04/01/2021 07:56

Oh sorry i thought this was going to be about married couples. Carry on...

MattTebbutsForearms · 04/01/2021 07:57

Yeah I stopped seeing my boyfriend in March as I bubbled with my vulnerable Mum. He was actually fine with this and a stickler for the rules himself. Realised over time I didn't actually miss him all that much. Saw him briefly on Christmas Day as per the rules. Something about him bugged me though, he was acting like a dick. Turned out my instinct was right as a week later he texted me to say his result was negative. Hadn't told me he had symptoms, hadn't told me he had taken a test, hadn't self isolated etc.
Twat. Just told him to go to Fuck this morning - via text

EveningOverRooftops · 04/01/2021 07:58

None for years despite dating. Meh. It is what it is and vibrators are still shipping

Goatinthegarden · 04/01/2021 07:59

My friend was single at the start of the last lockdown and probably had more sex than usual due to loneliness. She spent far more time than usual chatting on dating sites due to being home alone, ‘bubbled’ with each new date, had them round on the first date, (which sounds somewhat unsafe) inevitably slept with them, before moving on to the next within days. She’s not normally a rule breaker.

Things seem to move faster in lockdown, she’s now been bubbled with her new boyfriend since the end of November and he’s practically moved in with her already.

I don’t agree with any of her lockdown behaviour BUT it really badly affected her MH and knocked her off kilter. I’m not convinced she would have chosen her current bf in normal times either.

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notevenat20 · 04/01/2021 08:00

@Ultimatecougar

That’s what I was thinking!

So it looks like legally you can have sex with a new man every 10 days but only if you live alone? That’s pretty weird.

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Jackblackcat · 04/01/2021 08:02

@Ultimatecougar probably about 10 of these guys were from tinder or bumble - two of them I dated for a few weeks each, the rest were one night stands. And the other guys were from fabswingers. Obviously I'm not advocating meeting strangers for sex during a pandemic but generally speaking it's a great place to find very attractive men for a good shag!

AllTheUserNamesAreTaken · 04/01/2021 08:02

My friend met someone online a couple of days before lockdown 1, they had been chatting by text only. Started shagging him during and throughout lockdown 1 and since. He is one of multiple bubbles she has in place since they were allowed

Hmm
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notevenat20 · 04/01/2021 08:02

I don’t agree with any of her lockdown behaviour BUT it really badly affected her MH and knocked her off kilter.

Sorry was it the lockdown or the casual dating that knocked her off kilter?

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butterpuffed · 04/01/2021 08:03

Started dating/having casual sex pretty much immediately, about 25 sexual partners between July and November.

Oh dear. Never mind, you'll be able to catch up with the rest of us after the next lockdown Grin

PurrBox · 04/01/2021 08:04

I wonder if long term couples who are living together are having more or less sex because of lockdown?

Jackblackcat · 04/01/2021 08:06

@butterpuffed oh brilliant I was worried there for a minute Grin

Should add I'm not usually so promiscuous. Had only been with three men in my whole life this time last year!

3littlewords · 04/01/2021 08:09

@PurrBox

I wonder if long term couples who are living together are having more or less sex because of lockdown?
Definitely less! Lockdowns with teenagers play havoc with your sex life! Oh well at least some people are getting it
nosswith · 04/01/2021 08:11

Judging by the number of women I know who are pregnant, no. All are married or in long-term relationships though.

If it has stopped dirty old predatory men having sex then that is one of the few benefits of the pandemic.

GhostPepperTears · 04/01/2021 08:13

@wellthatsunusual

People are capable of controlling themselves, it's not that shocking surely?
On this particular topic, history is littered liberally with consequences of people not 'controlling' themselves.

If there's one story you can guarantee crops up in pretty much every history book, it's examples of people having sex when/with whom society thinks they shouldn't (for whatever reason). Grin

lazylump72 · 04/01/2021 08:13

not just single people and teenagers OP,

Jinglingmod · 04/01/2021 08:14

Some of us are married or live with our partners and can't have sex because our jobs make it too risky (NHS/teachers) if partners are ECV (we're living apart in the same house!)

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notevenat20 · 04/01/2021 08:15

If it has stopped dirty old predatory men having sex then that is one of the few benefits of the pandemic.

I realise that as a woman I shouldn’t say this, but I feel sorry for old men. It’s predatory young men that worry me. If an older man fancies someone, that shouldn’t be a crime,

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Whyarewehardofthinking · 04/01/2021 08:16

Teenagers are very much shagging; we had some conceived over the spring lockdown Confused. None of them stayed for 6th form here but I've seen them out and about pregnant. Word from my 6th formers is that they are all mostly due by February half term.

EileenGC · 04/01/2021 08:19

@wellthatsunusual

By which I mean, it's no more shocking to have gone without sex than it is to have gone without touching anyone else, or hugging anyone else, for almost a year now. Living without all of those things are unnatural to humans, sex is no different.
This. It's much more unnatural and 'fundamental to life' not being able to hug people. I even miss handshaking or hugging relative strangers at work or social events. Hugs and human touch, that's shocking that we've gone without it for so many months.
EnglishRose1320 · 04/01/2021 08:20

One of my single friends seems to be managing to have lots of casual sex this year, definitely not sticking to the rules, seeing as she is also having threesomes etc..... the rest of my single friends seem to be sticking to the rules and not meeting up with strangers.