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Will people just FUCK OFF with the judging and assuming

271 replies

TheLeastBit · 30/12/2020 22:52

I'm fucking sick of the way this whole thing is turning people into nosey, curtain twitching, Covid police.

In supermarket today, with my shop I bought various 'party supplies'. Paper plates, napkins, party foods, plastic cups, poppers etc...

Got a few dirty looks, whatever. But a woman actually tutted and said she hopes I'm not having a NYE party with a look of disgust.

No. It's for my kids. Who have had a fucking shit year. I'm going to throw them a party in our home. I'm going to do a buffet with party food and paper plates and poppers and have a fucking disco and make the best of our NYE because they've been so low recently.

I didn't explain myself, just asked her to respectfully mind her own. But I'm sick of everyone watching what everyone else is doing. It's horrible. I hate what this is doing to people.

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SarahIsMe · 31/12/2020 10:33

We r having a party here too tonight OP! I've bought fireworks for the garden! Sausages and rolls, sparklers, and we'll watch a movie too. We will.make our party of 4 guests (me, DH, DS1 and DS2) the best party ever!! Kids deserve it :)

Ignore everyone else and have fun with your family in your own home. You r not doing anything wrong, so ignore the curtain twitchers and busy bodies and nosey parkers. (I feel sorry for people like that! They must have nothing better to do. Sad really).

Star🎉🎆

ancientgran · 31/12/2020 10:36

Over Christmas I would look out and see several of my neighbours with 2, 3 or even 4 strange cars outside their house. Then I'd try to phone my son, a nurse who has been working on covid wards and who currently unwell with covid.

Yes I judged so shoot me if you like. I judged them all out clapping for the NHS when they actually couldn't be bothered to do anything to protect the NHS.

DrCoconut · 31/12/2020 10:57

We're having a just us new year party too. I'm heading out shortly to pick up the rest of the bits we need. I'm currently being investigated for a chronic cough (definitely not covid, I've been tested and retested). Gets me plenty of space in public places at least!

Iheartmysmart · 31/12/2020 11:07

I’ve just driven 30 miles to get some raw dog food. Not available locally and my freezer isn’t big enough to get it delivered. But not only did I do that, I also had my car roof down and music on so thoroughly enjoyed the trip. And it was between tiers - I await my judgement.

Whatwouldscullydo · 31/12/2020 11:09

You left the house?

Why didn't you just use the stale hedgehog food number 3 left out....

Hmm
BringPizza · 31/12/2020 11:14

OP sadly you were judged because there are so many people who are flouting the guidelines. Hence we're a year down the line and still swimming in this shit. Enjoy your party OP.

gannett · 31/12/2020 11:15

Genuinely so thankful to live in an area (of London) where I simply haven't seen or experienced any curtain-twitching neighbours, supermarket judgment or public mask-shaming.

I say this as someone who has just returned from a last-minute supermarket trip for camembert, puff pastry and prosecco. No one batted an eyelid.

Iheartmysmart · 31/12/2020 11:15

Ooh stale hedgehog food you say? That’ll go well with the glass of rainwater I’m having to celebrate the new year.

megletthesecond · 31/12/2020 11:18

Some people are just nuts though. Ignore.

I judge baskets silently Wink. I might wonder what other people are up to or why they are eating junk but I'd never mention it.

AgentCooper · 31/12/2020 11:18

YANBU. I swear that when this is over one of the things I am most looking forward to, aside from all the big things, is all the sad fucking misanthropes crawling back under their rocks.

I ended up having words with a woman in late summer after she told me and my 2 year old off for sitting on a bench in the street. For about 2 minutes. I have had Covid, I am aware of how serious it is but I caught it through prolonged contact with a positive case, not through sitting on a fucking bench so my child could have a break from walking for a minute and I wouldn’t have to carry him. In desperate times a bit of basic kindness goes a long way so the Covid cops can fuck off.

Whatwouldscullydo · 31/12/2020 11:21

YANBU. I swear that when this is over one of the things I am most looking forward to, aside from all the big things, is all the sad fucking misanthropes crawling back under their rocks

I think many will be surprised that none of their friends will want to meet up with them any more...those face book posts will well and truly bite them on the arse.

ancientgran · 31/12/2020 11:28

Maybe some people would like us to board up our windows so we can't see what they are doing, not having a party with our kids but having 8 or 9 people over for a party lasting 4 days with some of them coming from a higher tier area. Unfortunately they'd have to board up the doors as well.

ScottishBetty · 31/12/2020 11:45

Christ, people are scared ffs and some people do seem to be socialising as if nothing is going on. Can you not just take someone making a snarky comment? Why do you care? If someone said that to me I'd just say I was throwing a wee party for my household to cheer everyone up, no biggie

Whatwouldscullydo · 31/12/2020 11:52

Yes but those "scared" people are alos the ones who are a) out also
B) approaching you and breaking the 2m rule

So they can piss off

NoParticularPattern · 31/12/2020 11:58

@ScottishBetty

Christ, people are scared ffs and some people do seem to be socialising as if nothing is going on. Can you not just take someone making a snarky comment? Why do you care? If someone said that to me I'd just say I was throwing a wee party for my household to cheer everyone up, no biggie
So because someone is scared others should just meekly accept abuse on behalf of those who are flouting the rules? Right oh Hmm. Remind me to come vent my spleen at you next time I’m pissed off or scared about something that has absolutely nothing to do with you or your actions. I’m sure you’ll be happy to sit there and “just take” it
Xiaoxiong · 31/12/2020 12:06

I had no other option to take DS2 to the supermarket with me today - we went as soon as it opened at 8am so there wouldn't be too many other people around, and I made him wear a mask too which he hated. We got so many filthy looks and one comment "oh he couldn't stay home then?". No, I'm not leaving a 7 year old home alone, or tying him to a lamppost at the door like a dog!

Wheresmykimchi · 31/12/2020 12:08

[quote Bayleaf25]@Wheresmykimchi I could say what on earth are you talking about? I think you quoted/tagged the wrong poster as nothing you have said refers to what I said at all???[/quote]
Yep complete misread - I thought you meant about having a party in the house was still a covid risk.

I wasnt doing well last night on the old reading Grinmy apologies

Wheresmykimchi · 31/12/2020 12:09

@Iheartmysmart

Ooh stale hedgehog food you say? That’ll go well with the glass of rainwater I’m having to celebrate the new year.
Have you checked that nobody else needs that rainwater more?
Whatwouldscullydo · 31/12/2020 12:10

Have you checked that nobody else needs that rainwater more?

Never mind that , I'm more concerned if they were breathing when they went outside

ancientgran · 31/12/2020 12:17

I had no other option to take DS2 to the supermarket with me today - we went as soon as it opened at 8am so there wouldn't be too many other people around, and I made him wear a mask too which he hated. We got so many filthy looks and one comment "oh he couldn't stay home then?". No, I'm not leaving a 7 year old home alone, or tying him to a lamppost at the door like a dog! But that is legal so there shouldn't be a problem, bit different to people having a houseful of visitors.

One you shouldn't be judged for as there is nothing to judge, the other you should be judged for just like anyone who breaks the law.

Wheresmykimchi · 31/12/2020 12:20

@Whatwouldscullydo

Have you checked that nobody else needs that rainwater more?

Never mind that , I'm more concerned if they were breathing when they went outside

OP isn't having anyone round though.
Iheartmysmart · 31/12/2020 12:22

“Wheresmykimchi

Iheartmysmart
Ooh stale hedgehog food you say? That’ll go well with the glass of rainwater I’m having to celebrate the new year.
Have you checked that nobody else needs that rainwater more?”

No I haven’t. I shall pop round my neighbours now and check... oh wait, I can’t. I don’t mind sharing it - a thimble full each should last well into 2021 Wink

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TheLeastBit · 31/12/2020 12:23

But that is legal so there shouldn't be a problem, bit different to people having a houseful of visitors

One you shouldn't be judged for as there is nothing to judge, the other you should be judged for just like anyone who breaks the law

I'm confused as to the relevance of this? I'm not talking about anyone breaking the law. It's not illegal to buy paper plates and napkins in a shop either...?

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Crappyfridays7 · 31/12/2020 12:32

Don’t why you’d care so much about what some random says in Tesco? I’d have completely ignored the comment too. People can ‘assume’ what they like but I’ve followed the rules I’ve not seen my mum since a year ago today and I’m off work sick so feeling pretty fed up. People who comment are attention seeking imo. They change nothing, challenge nothing and are just gas bags looking for an argument. I’ve not bought party supplies as it’s not crossed my mind tbh but great idea and I hope everyone who is celebrating tonight has a lovely time (I’m off to my bed) exciting or what. Let’s hope 2021 is a kinder year for all of us

ScottishBetty · 31/12/2020 12:33

@NoParticularPattern the woman apparently said I hope you're not throwing a party 🙄 I mean, it hardly sounds like abuse or 'spleen venting'. I'm not saying people should just take any old shit but I think crying over a snarky comment is a bit pathetic and unsympathetic to how people are feeling about this whole thing.

It's absolutely terrifying reading about 6 hour ambulance waits outside of hospitals and medical staff having to make decisions on who gets a ventilator, and people are acting like complete dicks and throwing NYE parties. Is a comment at someone obviously buying party supplies that out of order?