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Will people just FUCK OFF with the judging and assuming

271 replies

TheLeastBit · 30/12/2020 22:52

I'm fucking sick of the way this whole thing is turning people into nosey, curtain twitching, Covid police.

In supermarket today, with my shop I bought various 'party supplies'. Paper plates, napkins, party foods, plastic cups, poppers etc...

Got a few dirty looks, whatever. But a woman actually tutted and said she hopes I'm not having a NYE party with a look of disgust.

No. It's for my kids. Who have had a fucking shit year. I'm going to throw them a party in our home. I'm going to do a buffet with party food and paper plates and poppers and have a fucking disco and make the best of our NYE because they've been so low recently.

I didn't explain myself, just asked her to respectfully mind her own. But I'm sick of everyone watching what everyone else is doing. It's horrible. I hate what this is doing to people.

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Willow2017 · 31/12/2020 01:23

@Wheresmykimchi

Cheese is not essential , Artie. Grin
It is because milk isnt and you can put cheese in your coffee instead! (Well it must be true because thats what some wise person sanctimonious twit told us months ago😄😄
Wheresmykimchi · 31/12/2020 01:24

@Willow2017

Wow. Grin

I couldn't actually handle life without cheese and prosecco Hmm

Mrsthreads140906 · 31/12/2020 01:26

I was judged earlier for going to our local
Retail park on way to the gym for my last solo class. I commented on a Facebook page how busy it was considering we are currently in Tier 3 and I had waited as long as possible to pop to M&S to get some food. Someone else local was on the same retail park at the same time as me so
I was just as bad. I pointed out I wasn’t because I didn’t get out of my car and went back at 8pm to get what I needed when there were no crowds or queues to get in. Shut her up! 😂😂

ArtieFufkinPolymerRecords · 31/12/2020 01:28

@Choirbells

And the fact that youv just told people to ** off is fine is it? So rude and disgusting.
If you are disgusted by the word fuck, I don't think this is the place for you.

Anyway, the OP didn't say it to their face, even though they deserved it.

Outseyeder · 31/12/2020 01:29

That's awful. I'm beginning to think everyone hates everyone else's guts after all this awfulness

Grandtheft · 31/12/2020 01:38

Thewiseoneincognito

Honestly, every single thread about Covid I look at, I see a totally judgy, unwise comment, glance at the poster name and hey presto it's you again. Your name is probably the most inappropriate on the whole site Hmm where do you get off on it all?

Frannibananni · 31/12/2020 01:46

God forbid you have fun in your own house with your own family 🤯

But fuck the rule breakers.

UndertheCedartree · 31/12/2020 02:51

We do this every year at home. The DC enjoy it. Good for you. Also still had a party for my DC's birthdays in the Spring - just us - still fun! Wondering if we'll have to do the same for them next year....

Ritascornershop · 31/12/2020 03:12

Too sleepy to rtwt, so please excuse me if this has been said before, but the thing that makes me uncomfortable about saying “well, they’re afraid, they can’t help themselves”, is that in this case it’s Covid. Another time another place it could be Tutsis, people with university degrees, Jews, migrants, gay people, etc. People need to identify when they’re being herded into a fear space and stick to a more sound moral centre.

Topseyt · 31/12/2020 03:29

@Choirbells

And the fact that youv just told people to ** off is fine is it? So rude and disgusting.
Yes, it is fine. If the word fuck offends your sensibilities then you might want to consider looking elsewhere. On here we call a spade a spade.

OP, you encountered a member of the Covid Police and they are fuckwits. Anybody who isn't miserable enough is fair game to them, and you were clearly planning something far too happy. I mean, how very DARE you!!! Wink

You should have told them that this was your contribution to the village New Year's Eve rave-up which you are holding in a marquee in your garden this year since the public event has been cancelled. See their reaction and enjoy because they are usually spectacularly humourless arses and easy to wind up.

What all of these Covid Police and curtain twitching Stasi will do when this pandemic is eventually over I have no idea. They will need something else to offer them validation and fill their days.

Enjoy your New Year's Eve with your family.

squeekums · 31/12/2020 03:39

This seems like the wrong thread to be asking why two grown adults need to set off 40 party poppers every NYE. Crikey

Oh i dunno, for fun?

What's so Condensending about saying to have fun celebrating new year,for people to be aware of the envoriment Also?
Cos not everything needs some moralistic shit tied to it
Let people celebrate and leave their choice of plates and cups alone

MillieMooBee · 31/12/2020 03:52

I was out for a walk during the first lockdown with my partner and daughter. He isn't her dad but we all live together. Someone from the neighbourhood that I vaguely recognised made a bit show of holding her breath as she walked past us. Then when she was a bit of a distance away she shouted (for all to hear) 'excuse me, are you three one household please.....?'.

Honestly I just couldn't believe how some people are willing to stick their noses into other peoples business. I didn't mind the question as but as I did her holding her breath!!😂

LouiseBelchersBunnyEars · 31/12/2020 04:06

Bread's a luxury. In I'm a Celeb they only eat rice and beans

That’s all that TV money they’ve got. You can live solely on boiled potatoes.

tinselwreath · 31/12/2020 05:05

It's like some modern day hen pecking. Peck, peck, peck. Lots of bored, miserable or just sadistic people like to peck at others and they use this as an excuse. What's the recovery rate guys? Yeah, we're not going to talk about that, now is the time to shine for the hens at the Animal Farm.

Peck.

S111n20 · 31/12/2020 05:27

Glad you didn’t explain yourself, nosy mare. Enjoy your party 🥳 wonderful idea.

Skipsurvey · 31/12/2020 06:59

i can bare communicate wearing a mask, i dont know how people can manage

NYNY211 · 31/12/2020 07:07

I agree. Even on here some of the statuses Blush. I wouldn’t dare ask anybody what they were doing with their party cups ffs!

ChaToilLeam · 31/12/2020 07:24

There are some right miseries on here. Ignore them, OP, and enjoy your party. We’ll be having a little one for ourselves too. 🎉

inquietant · 31/12/2020 07:30

@Skipsurvey

i can bare communicate wearing a mask, i dont know how people can manage
I am not being snippy but I don't understand why you can't communicate in a mask. I get that it is different, but at work we manage just fine.
Timbucktime · 31/12/2020 07:31

I wonder how many of those judging others and what is in their shopping trolley have applied to be Covid marshals. Seems like the perfect job for some.

TillyTopper · 31/12/2020 07:32

YANBU. But I don't think there is any point getting wound up by it. You can't control the way others behaviour or what they think, you can only control your reaction to it. I don't give a toss, never have, I am not sure if I've had "looks" or not. I do try and comply with gov advice and rules but it's not from wanting to please others (in fact I deliberately do the opposite).

Againstmachine · 31/12/2020 07:39

And the fact that youv just told people to off is fine is it? So rude and disgusting

If people don't mind their own business, it's a risk you take that you get told to fuck off, it's really simple.

louisejxxx · 31/12/2020 07:44

It is sad. I think so many people are bored out of their wits that as soon as they see anyone who potentially isn't on the same level of despair as them - they try to bring them down to their level.

OutComeTheWolves · 31/12/2020 07:45

Yes I'm sick of having conversations about what other people are doing at the minute. I don't give a shit if Yvonne down the road had her mum in 3 times last week or you saw Barbara in Tesco 'panic buying' seven bags of rice. Just sort yourself out!

I feel like I teach my kids not to worry about what other people do. To be responsible for themselves and make sure they're doing the right thing. And other people are responsible for their self but it seems most people I know have no concept of this. Like they're incapable of adapting their behaviour without first making sure everyone else is doing the same too. I've tried to stop engaging in any chat about other people breaking the rules, especially when I can confidently say I don't know a single person who has 100% stuck to the rules anyway, but it's really hard.

Also this may be a bit of a rant because dh is the absolute worst for this. It's driving me insane. The lack of social life has transformed him into an absolute curtain twitcher.

Bayleaf25 · 31/12/2020 07:57

@Wheresmykimchi I could say what on earth are you talking about? I think you quoted/tagged the wrong poster as nothing you have said refers to what I said at all???