Will people just FUCK OFF with the judging and assuming

[TheLeastBit]

I'm fucking sick of the way this whole thing is turning people into nosey, curtain twitching, Covid police.

In supermarket today, with my shop I bought various 'party supplies'. Paper plates, napkins, party foods, plastic cups, poppers etc...

Got a few dirty looks, whatever. But a woman actually tutted and said she hopes I'm not having a NYE party with a look of disgust.

No. It's for my kids. Who have had a fucking shit year. I'm going to throw them a party in our home. I'm going to do a buffet with party food and paper plates and poppers and have a fucking disco and make the best of our NYE because they've been so low recently.

I didn't explain myself, just asked her to respectfully mind her own. But I'm sick of everyone watching what everyone else is doing. It's horrible. I hate what this is doing to people.

[quote thosetalesofunexpected]@Interestinglyenough1
What's so Condensending about saying to have fun celebrating new year,for people to be aware of the envoriment Also?

(Its a simple thing to do really,😁[/quote]
Because people vastly overestimate the role of personal responsibility when it comes it environmental issues. The op's cups (if they were plastic) will not make one blind bit of difference to the environment until the 100 companies responsible for 71% of our emissions are brought under control. Getting people to faff on with cloth nappies or reusable bees wax wraps is just the equivalent of distracting someone with a little job so they don't have time to notice the real problem.

Because people vastly overestimate the role of personal responsibility when it comes it environmental issues. The op's cups (if they were plastic) will not make one blind bit of difference to the environment until the 100 companies responsible for 71% of our emissions are brought under control. Getting people to faff on with cloth nappies or reusable bees wax wraps is just the equivalent of distracting someone with a little job so they don't have time to notice the real problem

I agree with this - I get annoyed with all the emphasis on nappies and sanitary protection when big industry is the main culprit regarding climate change - but that doesn't mean that we can't all make small changes - they do add up.

In terms of the judgeyness, I agree OP. That said, I am really judgey about joined at the hip couples who won't shop alone or walk single file

I haven't encountered this at all, although it did cross my mind that someone might think I'm having a party when I bought some party food yesterday (we always have this on NYE for just us) - no-one batted an eyelid.

You responded well, OP, hopefully that busy body is stewing all over nothing.

I think we all need to cut each other a bit of slack at the moment - the judgemental people may be struggling too. I was on a thread a couple of days ago where a very vocal poster was criticising people seeing elderly people in their support bubble. Totally allowed, but a risk the poster wasn't prepared to take and was lambasting those of us who do Poster was very unkind to the OP who was worrying about having passed Covid to her Mum. I supported the OP and exchanged words with unpleasant poster. Thread was deleted, MN said the unpleasant poster had real life issues. Sorry this got long but my point being I feel really bad now (I wasn't nasty but very direct!) The poster was awful, but seems there were reasons why they were behaving the way they were (and if that poster is reading this, I sincerely hope you are OK).

And people wonder why Amazon are doing so well?

I do wonder how these people are going to get on when things start getting back to normal.

We have horses that we have to go to twice a day, every day and during the first lockdown one of my neighbours was a total pain in the arse about it. Forever at my door telling me they were going to report me to the police for breaking the rules, despite being told several times where we were going and why. I did lose my temper one day and told her to get off my property and mind her own business.

My daughter’s mental health was fucked (it’s even worse now) and we were just doing what we had to do to try and prevent a full blown breakdown and agoraphobia (in addition to the Tourette’s and social anxiety she already had 🙄)

She did it to all of my neighbours - reported one to the police for having people in and out of her house all day (and gleefully posted about it on FB - the people were carers for a terminally ill family member, she’d post all over local Facebook community groups about her selfish, Covidiot neighbours breaking rules, shout at randoms walking past her house, etc.

She still has to live here, we all know what she did.

I’ve been “shamed” on a local Facebook page twice. For buying 4 loaves of bread and “panic buying”. I’m not fucking panic buying Brenda, I’m doing my usual fortnightly shop. If you’d not been too busy looking down your nose at everyone you’d have seen me doing the exact same ever fortnight for the last 4 years. I even go on exactly the same day at exactly the same time. But yes, go ahead and broadcast to the entirety of Facebook that I “should be ashamed” of myself for leaving none for others simply because your disproportionately tiny brain can’t comprehend that 4 loaves of bread for a family of 5 for a fortnight is not a lot of bread.

Ignore them OP. People love to have something to say about stuff they know absolutely nothing about. It is not against the law to buy party supplies likewise it is not against the law the have a party, just so long as you are only doing so with your own household or bubble. If these type of people out as much effort into being kind as they do poking their noses where they don’t belong the world would be a far nicer place to live.

Oh and no environment police, I don’t waste any. It all goes in the freezer and gets taken out as and when I need it.

@Mooballs

If perceived bad looks are all you have to worry about you are really very fortunate OP. So from one who has been directly and seriously affected by covid FUCK OFF right back at you.

Just to balance it out, not all of us who have been directly and seriously affected by covid think like this. Hope you have a fun time with your party later OP.

I'm going to open an essential business selling hair shirts and sack cloth & ashes.

You did well to ignore
I expect there will be plenty of parties tonight

As someone who is exempt from wearing a mask (to the point that wearing one brings on seizures which can knock me unconscious), I couldn't agree with you more OP. This whole thing has been a gift to those who revel in judging others. I get abuse almost every time I go out and the delightful things I've been called (filthy tramp, disease breath, selfish cunt) and the threats have been awful. Some of the comments on MN have been vile, too. I've also been given grief for having adult DD with me when shopping - somebody once questioned whether we were in the same household (we are) and people have commented on me not shopping alone (I need Dad's help as I have rheumatoid arthritis, walk with a stick and can't carry everything myself/push a trolley).

There's a total lack of empathy and far too much interest in other people's business.

We left London when it was still allowed before tier 4 & the end of xmas mixing was anounced to spend the school holidays in our second home just our household and basically only spending time outdoors with loads of space for social distancing. I reasoned that this would be a better choice than having five days of household mixing. 10 days into the holiday I get a knock on the door at 9 pm by the police. Someone had reported me for breaking the law, which I hadn't. I explained to the police officers the date of my arrival, gave them my details as requested and pointed them to my next door neighbour who witnessed our arrival at said date. So far so ridiculous but fair enough they are only doing their job. But then these two police officers - realising they had no basis for fining me, couldn't establish that I had broken the rules - proceeded to treat me like I actually had broken the rules. Calling me 'reckless' saying that everyone was making up their own rules, saying in my position they would have acted differently. I was aghast and gave them a piece of the mind and rejected in the strongest terms their suggestion I had done anything wrong. In the end when they proceeded to lecture me I asked them if Dominic Cummings got a knock on his door by the police which finally made them bugger off. It was shocking being treated like that as a law abiding citizen who has been spending many many hours this year figuring out what the ever changing rules are, keeping strictly to them to keep everyone safe while also keeping the show on the road for my children and protecting their mental health as much as possible.

I get abuse almost every time I go out and the delightful things I've been called (filthy tramp, disease breath, selfish cunt) and the threats have been awful. Some of the comments on MN have been vile, too

My DD is also mask exempt and has received some horrendous abuse.

She has Tourette’s and masks exacerbate her tics. She wears a mask for as long as she can tolerate one, but her tics sometimes involve her punching herself in the face so she takes it off. She’s been called a cunt, told she shouldn’t be allowed to go to school, shouted at when walking across the park, amongst other things.

The comments on here are equally vile, and MNHQ let’s them stand

I bought her a hidden disabilities lanyard in the hope it would make things a bit more obvious to the hard of thinking but it hasn’t made any difference

We do exactly the same, and the 4 people in my house are the only people I want to have a party with! Will be buying more party food today, thanks for reminding me.
We had an awesome Halloween party , just us, lights off, glow sticks and my daughter spent the week planning it , even made us invitations , and it was genuinely exciting to que up outside dining room door and wait to be let in by her 🤣🤣. Its been a funny old year!
Hope you have a lovely party and happy new year.🍾

For people like this I like to play up to their assumptions and piss them off. So I would have said "oh. only a small one, for the neighbours on the street. 30 people tops!"

A man saw me pushing my daughter in a pram and commented "oh I hope she isn't yours" My response was "yes, I left the other 3 at home". I was 28 with a 5 and 2 yr old.

Hear, Hear!

@Springersrock

I get abuse almost every time I go out and the delightful things I've been called (filthy tramp, disease breath, selfish cunt) and the threats have been awful. Some of the comments on MN have been vile, too

My DD is also mask exempt and has received some horrendous abuse.

She has Tourette’s and masks exacerbate her tics. She wears a mask for as long as she can tolerate one, but her tics sometimes involve her punching herself in the face so she takes it off. She’s been called a cunt, told she shouldn’t be allowed to go to school, shouted at when walking across the park, amongst other things.

The comments on here are equally vile, and MNHQ let’s them stand

I bought her a hidden disabilities lanyard in the hope it would make things a bit more obvious to the hard of thinking but it hasn’t made any difference

I'm so sorry that your DD has been subjected to this. I hope that those who've made vile comments on MN see this and realize the climate of hate they're stoking and validating.

I have a lanyard too and it makes sod all difference. A man on a bus told me that it was 'fake' and that anyone could buy one. Perhaps he would have preferred me to wear a mask, had a seizure and soiled myself on the bus, holding up his journey while an ambulance was called and the bus taken out of service.

You should see the looks I get every time I want to polish my surf board.

Is that a euphemism?

Got a few dirty looks, whatever. But a woman actually tutted and said she hopes I'm not having a NYE party with a look of disgust.
Really? Other customers were giving you dirty looks? How would you even notice? You just pick up things off the shelf and put them in your trolley/basket. Did everyone look in your trolley as you walked past them or did they leave their socially-distanced place in the queue because they all wanted to look at your shopping? What were you doing looking at the faces of other customers? I call bs. paranoia.

If one person did made a comment then just ignore. It's no big deal.

Poundland sells party crowns if that is any help. Looked at them yesterday. (I didn't have any comments from other customers).

These people are so insufferable OP. There's a woman who goes to the tiny shop at the end of my road who shouts "two metres!" at anyone who gets close but will happily stand right over your shoulder waiting for you to get out of her way. Drives me nuts.

And let's not forget about the people who tut at runners. I stopped running during the first lockdown as people gave me the most disgusted looks. How reckless of me to try to keep myself fit when gyms are closed and there's a respiratory pandemic going on.

You should see the looks I get every time I want to polish my surf board.

Is that a euphemism?

No, it was a joke about the film, Point Break, which was on telly a couple of nights ago. I really must get round to changing my username again.

You're very polite Op. I would have just told her to Fuck Off!

Ignore the miserable Covid Police and enjoy your party! 🥳

Yep!

I had the audacity to be a single parent who had to take children shopping with her back in April..

My DD is also mask exempt and has received some horrendous abuse

I'm.sorry that happened to your dd . Fwiw I very politely ask customers at work if they have a mask as many have them in their pockets and used to come in from the pub so would genuinely just forget. But if someone told me they were exempt then we pushed no further. I'm.sure we probably got some liars but no one owes me their medical history its private , between them and their dr so if they said they were exempt that was it.

No abuse necessary and if anyone had a go at us for other mot wearing a mask they were firmly told that other people were not their business and they should just focus on doing what they were meant to do

Most dont wear the mask properly anyway, they have no business hassling others about it.

Is anyone else tempted to go shopping for 'contraband'?

A trolley full of inflatables, sun cream and travel sickness pills.

A basket of wedding favours and invitations with a veil.