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Will people just FUCK OFF with the judging and assuming

271 replies

TheLeastBit · 30/12/2020 22:52

I'm fucking sick of the way this whole thing is turning people into nosey, curtain twitching, Covid police.

In supermarket today, with my shop I bought various 'party supplies'. Paper plates, napkins, party foods, plastic cups, poppers etc...

Got a few dirty looks, whatever. But a woman actually tutted and said she hopes I'm not having a NYE party with a look of disgust.

No. It's for my kids. Who have had a fucking shit year. I'm going to throw them a party in our home. I'm going to do a buffet with party food and paper plates and poppers and have a fucking disco and make the best of our NYE because they've been so low recently.

I didn't explain myself, just asked her to respectfully mind her own. But I'm sick of everyone watching what everyone else is doing. It's horrible. I hate what this is doing to people.

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TheLeastBit · 31/12/2020 12:37

I think crying over a snarky comment is a bit pathetic

I was actually only shaking and sobbing for a few hours.

But no seriously, where did I say I've been crying over it? It pissed me off yes because it's like everyone thinks they have a right to police everyone else at the moment (and enjoy it too).

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U8myufo · 31/12/2020 12:45

It's awful. My child's birthday is on 3rd and am racking my brains trying to think of little ways to make it special for her. This thing turns people against people. I would have told the person to mind their own bloody business. It's like everything has to be justified to complete strangers. It's a bizarre and ridiculous world right now OP. Hope you enjoy the celebration you are giving your little one.

Wearywithteens · 31/12/2020 12:48

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Whatwouldscullydo · 31/12/2020 12:51

I don’t understand the big deal about someone asking a question?

Except they weren't having a conversation, they aren't friends , and its none of her business. What would she have done of op had said yes? Would police investigate what would most likely have been a sarcastic response with zero addres details to go on?

ScottishBetty · 31/12/2020 12:52

@TheLeastBit

I think crying over a snarky comment is a bit pathetic

I was actually only shaking and sobbing for a few hours.

But no seriously, where did I say I've been crying over it? It pissed me off yes because it's like everyone thinks they have a right to police everyone else at the moment (and enjoy it too).

No, you just turned to mumsnet with a capslock FUCK OFF
MrsMomoa · 31/12/2020 12:55

@Wearywithteens

No, not everyone judges.
And the woman has no right to jump to conclusions and then question people about their life!
It was none of her bloody business!

Wearywithteens · 31/12/2020 12:58

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TheLeastBit · 31/12/2020 12:58

No, you just turned to mumsnet with a capslock FUCK OFF

Yes. Why are you crying about it?

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Whatwouldscullydo · 31/12/2020 13:14

Its not hard to figure out why someone might have party food. ...its easy to cook and quick and kids like it. Some people don't actually want to slave over the oven Xmas eve Xmas day and new years.

Hence why you mind your own bloody business

VinoEsmeralda · 31/12/2020 13:17

Was it in Waitrose?

Bayleaf25 · 31/12/2020 13:17

@Wheresmykimchi no worries, I’ve done the same before too Grin

Topseyt · 31/12/2020 13:25

I'm off to Tesco now. I'm almost hoping that some random member of the self appointed Covid Police challenges me and asks if I am throwing a party.

The answer would be "Yes, would you like to come? I have a big marquee in my garden and have invited the whole street." Just to wind them up and see their horrified faces. GrinGrin

For the record, we are having a celebration. Our household alone. Just me, DH and our three DDs, who are 25, 22 and 18. I won't reveal that if I have any brushes with the Covid Police though. I wouldn't want to ruin their fun. It mine.

SpnBaby1967 · 31/12/2020 13:26

Meh, my husband went to tesco this morning to buy vodka for our party later.

I'm currently cooking up trayfulls of party food.

It'll just be us and the kids, judge away folk I dont care. I hope you enjoy your hair shirts, stale bread and cheesy coffee whilst we're hear eating party food and getting good and merry on cocktails and prosecco.

ancientgran · 31/12/2020 13:26

@TheLeastBit I'm confused as to the relevance of this? I'm not talking about anyone breaking the law. It's not illegal to buy paper plates and napkins in a shop either. I was answering someone else's post, you might have started the thread but people can address each other.

ancientgran · 31/12/2020 13:29

God there are some pathetic people on here. You aren't the problem if you are having a party with your own household, you are a problem if you are breaking the rules and making things harder for all of us.

Jrobhatch29 · 31/12/2020 13:30

I hate the self elected covid marshalls too. I went to asda this morning for party tea stuff for tonight (plus baby milk and bread before i get a telling off for that not being essential). I bumped into a friend who was doing the same thing. She noticed i had party poppers and silly string and said oooo where did you find those. Not everyone is a twat, most people appreciate parents are trying to make the best of bad situations for their kids. You did well not snapping at her.

Orf1abc · 31/12/2020 13:32

@Wearywithteens You've proved the OP's point. What gives you the right to judge what someone else is buying? You're not doing that out of shared worried, you're doing it to be unkind to another person.

Orf1abc · 31/12/2020 13:33
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Nohomemadecandles · 31/12/2020 13:34

I saw Goody Proctor in Tesco hovering around the lipsticks...

The bloody government and the media have pitted everyone against each other.

Just assume people have good reasons and don't judge. Even to yourself. Or wonder.

Lovely1a2b3c · 31/12/2020 13:36

If it was an older person then she might be feeling extremely anxious about the huge increase in Covid cases recently and just be wanting to discourage people from having parties.

Obviously she didn't know that you were just having a little family party and obviously it was a bit rude to ask but there are a lot of people breaking rules at the moment.

Lovely1a2b3c · 31/12/2020 13:38

@Topseyt

I'm off to Tesco now. I'm almost hoping that some random member of the self appointed Covid Police challenges me and asks if I am throwing a party.

The answer would be "Yes, would you like to come? I have a big marquee in my garden and have invited the whole street." Just to wind them up and see their horrified faces. GrinGrin

For the record, we are having a celebration. Our household alone. Just me, DH and our three DDs, who are 25, 22 and 18. I won't reveal that if I have any brushes with the Covid Police though. I wouldn't want to ruin their fun. It mine.

The Covid-police (I'm not one of them) are just scared people who are trying to stop other people from spreading a deadly virus though so maybe just behave in a mature way and say you're having a household party instead?
Lovely1a2b3c · 31/12/2020 13:41

@Cismyfatarse

Is anyone else tempted to go shopping for 'contraband'?

A trolley full of inflatables, sun cream and travel sickness pills.

A basket of wedding favours and invitations with a veil.

Nope.

People are scared of a fatal contagious disease- I'm not so immature that I need to be mindlessly rebellious and frighten scared people (some of whom will have extremely vulnerable family members and be terrified of losing them to the virus).

Dongdingdong · 31/12/2020 13:48

Nope - I will continue to judge anyone who wears a facemask around their neck on the bus. Selfish twats the lot of them.

ScottishBetty · 31/12/2020 13:48

@Whatwouldscullydo

Its not hard to figure out why someone might have party food. ...its easy to cook and quick and kids like it. Some people don't actually want to slave over the oven Xmas eve Xmas day and new years.

Hence why you mind your own bloody business

Over 70 thousand people have died and the numbers are shooting up but let's all just mind our own business. It's perfectly reasonable to presume someone buying party food was throwing a party. Would I have personally said something? No. But I really wouldn't have taken the hump with someone asking me if the roles were reversed. I'd have said 'nope, just throwing a wee tea party for the kids' and got on with my day
Scottishskifun · 31/12/2020 13:52

Sounds like a great plan for your children Xmas Grin

I think everyone is tired, fatigued and stressed out which makes people behave in certain ways. A pandemic is also a complainers/curtain twitchers dream as they feel like they can legitimately moan and for once some people will agree with them!

I know I have got frustrated with people saying they will do what they want and nobody is going to tell them what to do, they will have a party or friends around constantly etc etc Whilst my toddler misses out on interactions with his grandparents and has seen his grandparents once in person in 2020 because we live in Scotland and they live in a part of England which has been under strict rules for a long time.

We are all tired and missing vital interactions this pushes some to be moaning murtles on everything