Will people just FUCK OFF with the judging and assuming

[TheLeastBit]

I'm fucking sick of the way this whole thing is turning people into nosey, curtain twitching, Covid police.

In supermarket today, with my shop I bought various 'party supplies'. Paper plates, napkins, party foods, plastic cups, poppers etc...

Got a few dirty looks, whatever. But a woman actually tutted and said she hopes I'm not having a NYE party with a look of disgust.

No. It's for my kids. Who have had a fucking shit year. I'm going to throw them a party in our home. I'm going to do a buffet with party food and paper plates and poppers and have a fucking disco and make the best of our NYE because they've been so low recently.

I didn't explain myself, just asked her to respectfully mind her own. But I'm sick of everyone watching what everyone else is doing. It's horrible. I hate what this is doing to people.

@TheLeastBit

It's horrible. I get that there will be people who break the rules and throw parties with multiple households and people are on edge.

But it's so sad that I can't even go to a supermarket and buy a couple of fun things for my kids now without multiple people looking and judging and tutting.

I know what you mean. I'm very anxious in public in case i'm snapped at.

I feel your pain OP.
My son has mild asthma, made worse by the cold and physical exertion, resulting in a cough.
The looks we get when we take him out .
The media and government have got people terrified.
Enjoy your party, it sounds lovely and happy new year.

I feel bad telling people I have covid because I feel that people will judge and think I’ve got it from being irresponsible or whatever. I’m embarrassed in a way how odd is that!

It was likely from nursery as there was a positive case in DD’s class, but I still can’t be arsed with all the questions. I’ve already had people ask me if I’d been wearing masks etc.

There are some out there loving this shit

I agree! It's like it's not good enough unless you're only eating 'essential' bread and water in a dark unheated room for the next year being as miserable as possible.

Anyone having any sort of fun during this should be taken to the town square for 20 public lashings immediately!

@TheLeastBit

I'm fucking sick of the way this whole thing is turning people into nosey, curtain twitching, Covid police.

In supermarket today, with my shop I bought various 'party supplies'. Paper plates, napkins, party foods, plastic cups, poppers etc...

Got a few dirty looks, whatever. But a woman actually tutted and said she hopes I'm not having a NYE party with a look of disgust.

No. It's for my kids. Who have had a fucking shit year. I'm going to throw them a party in our home. I'm going to do a buffet with party food and paper plates and poppers and have a fucking disco and make the best of our NYE because they've been so low recently.

I didn't explain myself, just asked her to respectfully mind her own. But I'm sick of everyone watching what everyone else is doing. It's horrible. I hate what this is doing to people.

We have done the same - I ordered a party pack just for our household. I honestly don't give a xxxx what anyone else is doing. We are doing our best to protect ourselves, keyworkers and the vulnerable. Those tutting are often the one breaking the rules, lets clap the NHS and then have a full on family christmas. Enjoy your NYE!

@Bayleaf25

Is it a bad time to say the environment still counts so YABU, just use regular plates and cups and wash hands and play music and games and have fun xx

Oh FFS

Yanbu!

Hope the kids enjoy their little party.

I think judging nosey people were like that before the pandemic, just about different things. I got the side eye if my basket was full of alcohol and pot noodles pre covid.

Enjoy your party. Hopefully when you say poppers you're talking about those little cardboard things with streamers but what you get up to when the kids are in bed is no concern to me

@TheLeastBit.

Some people are just scared & can't keep a grip of themselves. They don't mean to upset you.

Other people are just twats all the time.

🎉🎉🎈🎈I hope you all have a lovely time!! 💃🏼🕺🎉🪅🪅🎊🎈

I think it's great you're making an effort to cheer your kids up - how many have you got? How old are they?

Yep it all absolutely sucks. I particularly love how the many journo friends I have are always tutting about all these rule breakers they apparently keep seeing. Only.... If you're not out of your house all the bloody time, how are you seeing any rule breakers? I've been nowhere, done nothing, seen no one and hey presto I have never seen any rules being broken. Admittedly I also still operate like a normal person, so when I went to sainsburys I couldn't work out what was wrong with this guys face, so I was staring at him and he looked like he was going to cry. Turns out he wasn't wearing a mask and obviously thought I was having a go!

Thanks

I can't wait! Even dug out the old disco ball 😂😂 might remind the kids about twister (their favourite game). We usually keep its existence hush hush unless they remember as it knackers us out but I'm pregnant this year so I'll have to be the spinner and DH will have no option but to join in mwahaha.

Hopefully when you say poppers you're talking about those little cardboard things with streamers but what you get up to when the kids are in bed is no concern to me

Do they sell the other kind in Tesco? Asking for a friend...

"We set off about 20 each so buy a big bag"

This seems like the wrong thread to be asking why two grown adults need to set off 40 party poppers every NYE. Crikey

I've learnt in all this you just have to look after you and yours and ignore everyone else, whether that be their actions or their response to your actions. I guess the judgy woman has her reasons for saying/doing what she did. I hope you enjoy your party, we're doing the same for our ds!

@TheLeastBit

It's weird with those things in your basket that she thought you were having a party party. It's kids party stuff, not loads of canapés & bottles of adult sparkling booze!!

@Interestinglyenough1
What's so Condensending about saying to have fun celebrating new year,for people to be aware of the envoriment Also?

(Its a simple thing to do really,😁

It is interesting though, that some people can only soothe their own fearfulness by trying to control how 'others' behave.

I have a theory that it has become this way because children are not allowed to experience failure or adversity and so they never learn that they can in fact deal with it.

You enjoy your little family NYE party. It sounds nice. Love a disco ball not that fond of twister though. Think it’s an easier game when you’re little and agile and bloody hard when older!

Covid seems to have given judgers a new lease of life. The kind of people who are judging others in public with no knowledge of what's actually going on are the kind of people who have no life at all. Imagine getting up in the morning and all you have to be excited about is the thought of telling someone off for a ridiculously minor thing that you know nothing about or shooting people dirty looks. Sad sad sad.

The 20 party poppers each family has intrigued me too. I wonder if you gather all the strings together and pull them all at once or painstakingly work your way through? Anyway you've got to get your kicks where you can these days.

Do they sell the other kind in Tesco, asking for a friend

Go to the cigarette counter and ask if Gavin's working.

Yes agreed!

@Interestinglyenough1
*What's so Condensending about saying to have fun celebrating new year,for people to be aware of the envoriment Also?

(Its a simple thing to do really,😁*

Absolutely. It was said politely and the OP responded politely.

When COVID is all done and dusted, we’ve still got some pretty major issues to deal with!

@friendlycat

You enjoy your little family NYE party. It sounds nice. Love a disco ball not that fond of twister though. Think it’s an easier game when you’re little and agile and bloody hard when older!

Oh it's like a military grade work out 🥴 and then when someone finally falls and you think it's over they shout AGAIN 😂

I’ll be doing the same as you op and woe betide anybody who makes a comment in the supermarket. People are dicks sometimes, you’re doing a perfectly sensible and kind thing for your children, ignore them.