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Will people just FUCK OFF with the judging and assuming

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TheLeastBit · 30/12/2020 22:52

I'm fucking sick of the way this whole thing is turning people into nosey, curtain twitching, Covid police.

In supermarket today, with my shop I bought various 'party supplies'. Paper plates, napkins, party foods, plastic cups, poppers etc...

Got a few dirty looks, whatever. But a woman actually tutted and said she hopes I'm not having a NYE party with a look of disgust.

No. It's for my kids. Who have had a fucking shit year. I'm going to throw them a party in our home. I'm going to do a buffet with party food and paper plates and poppers and have a fucking disco and make the best of our NYE because they've been so low recently.

I didn't explain myself, just asked her to respectfully mind her own. But I'm sick of everyone watching what everyone else is doing. It's horrible. I hate what this is doing to people.

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Thewiseoneincognito · 31/12/2020 00:23

In all fairness OP you are doing non essential shopping. Everyone’s had a shit year, if we all had your attitude and went buying throwaway crap for a party we’d have problems. Your kids just had Christmas isn’t that enough? Or are you using this as a thread to moan about those rightfully judging you for being a bit pathetic? 🙄

Wheresmykimchi · 31/12/2020 00:24

The Least Bit, don't worry yourself.

I don't see them jumping onto the Harry Potter thread, celebrities in their underwear, whether it's OK that DM ate chocolates etc etc .

So why jump on these threads? Because it's a contentious issue and whatever way you respond you can't win because it's so emotive.

I don't like it one bit.

Enjoy your party! Let us know how it goes! I'm jealous :)

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TheLeastBit · 31/12/2020 00:25

@Thewiseoneincognito

In all fairness OP you are doing non essential shopping. Everyone’s had a shit year, if we all had your attitude and went buying throwaway crap for a party we’d have problems. Your kids just had Christmas isn’t that enough? Or are you using this as a thread to moan about those rightfully judging you for being a bit pathetic? 🙄
I was doing my usual food shop (we do need to eat unfortunately) and picked up supplies whilst out... in the same shop. I said that on the first page.
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PerfectionistProcrastinator · 31/12/2020 00:25

My god do people really examine other peoples shopping baskets!? Weird.

YANBU

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TheLeastBit · 31/12/2020 00:26

Being a bit pathetic? For what exactly? 😂

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Wheresmykimchi · 31/12/2020 00:26

@Thewiseoneincognito

In all fairness OP you are doing non essential shopping. Everyone’s had a shit year, if we all had your attitude and went buying throwaway crap for a party we’d have problems. Your kids just had Christmas isn’t that enough? Or are you using this as a thread to moan about those rightfully judging you for being a bit pathetic? 🙄
How do you know what else OP bought?

SHe could have bought a full food shop and has thrown in a few plates, cups and party poppers. Shoot her now.

What problems would we have if we all did this? The same problems we had when everyone went shopping for Christmas presents and their Christmas food shop?

Other people buy alcohol in their trolleyload - I know I do - is that OK? or should i not do that because I've just had Christmas? Is my prosecco of better value than her plastic cups for her children?

She is being far from pathetic. She is trying to create a nice night for her children who have had a shit year like everyone else - the pathetic ones are the ones ripping her to shreds.

Nikhedonia · 31/12/2020 00:27

@Thewiseoneincognito

In all fairness OP you are doing non essential shopping. Everyone’s had a shit year, if we all had your attitude and went buying throwaway crap for a party we’d have problems. Your kids just had Christmas isn’t that enough? Or are you using this as a thread to moan about those rightfully judging you for being a bit pathetic? 🙄
And who even said the OP celebrates Christmas?!
Wheresmykimchi · 31/12/2020 00:27

@TheLeastBit you're not allowed to eat! And if you do, you must make a list of five food items and DO NOT visit any other aisles (even if you pass the party aisle, you must not look at it).

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TheLeastBit · 31/12/2020 00:28

I sincerely hope you never put anything in your basket that isn't absolutely essential to your survival 🙄

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Thewiseoneincognito · 31/12/2020 00:29

I See I hit a few raw nerve’s there 😏😏😏

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TheLeastBit · 31/12/2020 00:30

@Thewiseoneincognito

I See I hit a few raw nerve’s there 😏😏😏
Because your post doesn't make any sense?
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Willow2017 · 31/12/2020 00:30

@Eckhart

By saying you want people to FUCK OFF you are judging and being abusive. Hoist with your own petard, aren't you?
How is wanting to tell someone, who is being abusive to them, to fuck off, being judgy and abusive?

Op is right to be angry at some busybody making assumptions about her and wrongly accusing her of something.

Moonballs
Btw its not a competition regarding who has suffered the most this year. Your circumstances have nothing to do with ops experience in a shop. Op hasnt caused you any harm so direct your anger elsewhere.

Pippin2028
Part of me does think some people would love to be living in some version of nazi Germany, telling /spying on their neighbours and friends. And I think this pandemic has shown this. And it's always the holier than thou lot preaching on to everyone else how they haven't left their front door since March and so on... I'm sure they have a few things they haven't always followed the correct way

I agree 100%. This has been going on since March. People are falling over themselves to scream and swear at others for doing perfectly legal stuff but which they wrongly assume is "against the rules" or desperate to "report" people for the same reason. The hate and spite on here has been a real eye opener and kept me and a lot of people i know away from all but thier favourite parts of Mn for months. Its shown just how easily people will give up all their basic human rights as long as they can virtue signal till the cows come home and show utter contempt for anyone else and never consider thier circumstances or health may be different from thier own. Empathy, compassion and independant thinking has gone down the drain in UK it is such a horrifying conclusion to come to.

UneFoisAuChalet · 31/12/2020 00:31

@Wheresmykimchi there’s so little to laugh about nowadays that any opportunity is welcomed. Even when DH gets pervy 😉

There’s also so little social interaction that popping into Tesco is now a social event. Anyone not wearing the regulation tracky bottom is eyed suspiciously :)

Wheresmykimchi · 31/12/2020 00:32

@Thewiseoneincognito

I See I hit a few raw nerve’s there 😏😏😏
Didn't get the agreement or pile one you wanted, so nothing to respond to the valid points made by either OP or the PPs who agreed with her?

Interesting.

XenoBitch · 31/12/2020 00:33

Most of the country now in tier 4 means more twitching of curtains. I just know there are more people out there now punching the air in glee at being able to stand in their window with a stop watch and time the "allowed exercise" that their neighbours are allowed out for (this is a sad and real example). There is a chap in my local FB group who lives opposite The Range store and revels in what people are walking out of the shop with. He wants the cops to go through people's bags and fine them for every "non-essential item". People like him live among us!

Wheresmykimchi · 31/12/2020 00:34

[quote UneFoisAuChalet]@Wheresmykimchi there’s so little to laugh about nowadays that any opportunity is welcomed. Even when DH gets pervy 😉

There’s also so little social interaction that popping into Tesco is now a social event. Anyone not wearing the regulation tracky bottom is eyed suspiciously :)[/quote]
Only essential laughing is allowed. I hope that wasn't a non essential pop into Tesco.

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TheLeastBit · 31/12/2020 00:34

There’s also so little social interaction that popping into Tesco is now a social event

It was good to have a reason to brush my hair for the first time since Christmas I admit Grin

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NannyGythaOgg · 31/12/2020 00:35

@Thewiseoneincognito
you sure are incognito - I've never known anyone hide any wisdom so completely that there isn't any of it showing at all.

How fucking judgemental can you get?

Jux · 31/12/2020 00:36

If I were tutted at in the supermarket because of party food in my trolley, I would be so tempted to tell the person exactly what I had planned and maybe even imagine a relative or two who are suffering/have suffered from/were killed by COVID, and with luck they'd end up so bloody ashamed of themselves that they'd never tut again in the whole of their lives.

It's like dd, who's exempt from wearing a mask (though she does try to when she's feeling strong enough to do so), who was almost jumped on by some busybody in a shop about not wearing a mask. Result? DD so upset she just got on the train and came home, instead of having a day out and about with her bf (he's in her and our bubbles) for the first time since September and for the last time before new tiers were announced.

How can people be so certain that they know all the circumstances of a stranger's life that they can police it like this? These are the people who need to be shamed.

Wheresmykimchi · 31/12/2020 00:36

This is the thing though isn't it.
What's essential?
In the same supermarket...
I bought a candle for my friend who lost a parent. Is that essential?
I bought prosecco cause I felt like it. Is that essential?
I bought Pjs cause my flat's bloody cold. Is that essential?
I bought a mindfulness colouring book because my anxiety's going bonkers. Is that essential?

Once in the summer, I bought body paint, an inflatable unicorn and all manner of unicorn/monster/Disney bits for the kids stuck at the hubs all summer. PPs wouldn't like that.

Should I have not bought them?

Wheresmykimchi · 31/12/2020 00:37

@Jux

If I were tutted at in the supermarket because of party food in my trolley, I would be so tempted to tell the person exactly what I had planned and maybe even imagine a relative or two who are suffering/have suffered from/were killed by COVID, and with luck they'd end up so bloody ashamed of themselves that they'd never tut again in the whole of their lives.

It's like dd, who's exempt from wearing a mask (though she does try to when she's feeling strong enough to do so), who was almost jumped on by some busybody in a shop about not wearing a mask. Result? DD so upset she just got on the train and came home, instead of having a day out and about with her bf (he's in her and our bubbles) for the first time since September and for the last time before new tiers were announced.

How can people be so certain that they know all the circumstances of a stranger's life that they can police it like this? These are the people who need to be shamed.

It really makes me sad that even in a post like that you feel the need to tell us the boyfriend's in her bubble. It's almost unthinkign now, like I must justify myself to these random people.
Choirbells · 31/12/2020 00:37

And the fact that youv just told people to off is fine is it? So rude and disgusting.

UneFoisAuChalet · 31/12/2020 00:38

OP can buy whatever the fuck she’s wants. Seriously. I bought laminating pouches yesterday. Non essential you might say, but I’m a primary teacher who will be teaching your kids next week whilst the rest of the country gets to avoid ‘the plague’ and I like to laminate certain resources. Using my laminator, that I’ve paid for myself.

I may also buy my class sweets for their timetables. Big packets of haribos - everyone gets one even if they don’t get the tables right. But it encourages the kids and they may be worried about the current situation . Imagine if somehow checked my trolley and accused me of having a party???

UneFoisAuChalet · 31/12/2020 00:39

Sorry for the typos

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TheLeastBit · 31/12/2020 00:40

What's essential?

Agree. How do you determine it for everyone?

Is it literally just what it takes for you not to die from thirst and starvation? In that case I hope everyone is just buying bread and drinking tap water. No bars of chocolate or bottles of wine or any of that non essential stuff.

I mean to me, my kids mental health is pretty important and if I can help it slightly by popping a few 'non essential' items into my trolley whilst in the same shop buying our food, that's pretty essential to me Smile

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