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Will people just FUCK OFF with the judging and assuming

271 replies

TheLeastBit · 30/12/2020 22:52

I'm fucking sick of the way this whole thing is turning people into nosey, curtain twitching, Covid police.

In supermarket today, with my shop I bought various 'party supplies'. Paper plates, napkins, party foods, plastic cups, poppers etc...

Got a few dirty looks, whatever. But a woman actually tutted and said she hopes I'm not having a NYE party with a look of disgust.

No. It's for my kids. Who have had a fucking shit year. I'm going to throw them a party in our home. I'm going to do a buffet with party food and paper plates and poppers and have a fucking disco and make the best of our NYE because they've been so low recently.

I didn't explain myself, just asked her to respectfully mind her own. But I'm sick of everyone watching what everyone else is doing. It's horrible. I hate what this is doing to people.

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Eckhart · 30/12/2020 23:56

@FoolsAssassin

Thank you for your judgment. Isn't that exactly what OP is against, though? If we all want live and let live, let's live it.

'Fuck off you twats who won't live and let live!!' doesn't really work.

frozendaisy · 30/12/2020 23:57

So just ignore them.

Which is what you did.

And not think about it.

I bought x 2 bottles of champagne this afternoon, did anyone judge? I have no idea I don't really care.

Wheresmykimchi · 31/12/2020 00:00

Bayleaf what on earth are you talking about?

The principle of a party is that you can't have other people in your home in large numbers.

It odoes not matter if OP eats her pringles out of a mug while singing Senorita and playing giant twister with her child.

THEY LIVE TOGETHER.

Corona is not waiting outside the front door for its codeword "PARTY" so it can jump in.

OP, enjoy your party. You sound like a fabulous parent although I'm sure somone will be along shortly to say that you are inconsiderate to party as some people are on their own. Me being one, and I and my bottle of prosecco and snacks for one say have a belter!

frozendaisy · 31/12/2020 00:00

Just wait until we purchase plane tickets to Costa Rica fuck the champagne! Who really cares?

Pippin2028 · 31/12/2020 00:00

Part of me does think some people would love to be living in some version of nazi Germany, telling /spying on their neighbours and friends. And I think this pandemic has shown this. And it's always the holier than thou lot preaching on to everyone else how they haven't left their front door since March and so on... I'm sure they have a few things they haven't always followed the correct way. Have a lovely time with your children and any busybodies can mind their business 😂

TheAdventuresoftheWishingChair · 31/12/2020 00:00

Enjoy your party OP. I think it's a lovely idea. I had a big bag of party poppers on Christmas day and they lightened the mood considerably.

UneFoisAuChalet · 31/12/2020 00:01

The other day at Tesco, this couple walked in before us in ‘party wear’. Woman was wearing a sparkly dress and strapped stilettos and man was dressed in smart shirt and trousers.

DH commented: ‘Where the fuck are they going?’ We were in tier 3, now 4, so their options were limited. I replied ‘Obviously a couple of tier 2 wankers, living it large, venturing into our tier because it’s convenient.’

And we laughed, because that’s how ridiculous this shit is. Just completely insane.

FoolsAssassin · 31/12/2020 00:01

My pleasure Eckhart 🙂. No quite clearly the OP is pretty stressed at the moment. Went to do something nice for her children, encountered someone rude and came here to vent which was a better solution than flipping in the shop,

Emotions are running high tonight and it would be helpful if people were a little less obruse and a bit more understanding.

Wales34 · 31/12/2020 00:01

[quote Mulhollandmagoo]@mooballs so sorry you've had a rough ride, covid has been hard on lots of people in lots of different ways, each person's struggle just as valid as the next persons, but your post is completely unnecessary, and directing that much anger at somebody who's circumstances you don't know isn't the way to go about things. If you're struggling then you need to find a constructive outlet for your anger and anxiety, your GP maybe? (And I genuinely didn't mean that in a patronising way) Flowers[/quote]
That was very patronising ..something awful may have happened you don't know. If something awful has happened then perhaps mooballs finds it galling that there is a post about some tuts in the supermarket. You are doing exactly what you are accusing mooballs of . Given we know that people have passed away , I suspect the OP could have anticipated there would be some who took humbridge to the post. That doesn't mean the op shouldn't have posted, but just as the op has posted , others are allowed to post their views . Remember people have died so who knows what is behind the scenes.

Wheresmykimchi · 31/12/2020 00:01

[quote Eckhart]@Masstesting2

The op is clearly upset after someone behaved like a grade a dickhead. Why are you hassling her

It was an observation. Might help the kettle understand why the pot calls it black.[/quote]
there is a difference between thinking she wants someone to fuck off after ruining her mood and standing in an aisle tutting and making a scene.

I want colleagues to fuck off all the time but I don't actually say it, as I reckon that might get me sacked.

SmileyClare · 31/12/2020 00:01

I just Googled Petard. It's an explosive to break down a door or gate and explodes with a loud report.

Which brings us neatly back to the lady who fires 40 party poppers on NYE. Which possibly qualifies as a home made Petard.

Interestinglyenough1 · 31/12/2020 00:02

@Eckhart OP was letting off steam after very admirably being respectful to the meddling and rude lady in question.

Wheresmykimchi · 31/12/2020 00:03

@UneFoisAuChalet

The other day at Tesco, this couple walked in before us in ‘party wear’. Woman was wearing a sparkly dress and strapped stilettos and man was dressed in smart shirt and trousers.

DH commented: ‘Where the fuck are they going?’ We were in tier 3, now 4, so their options were limited. I replied ‘Obviously a couple of tier 2 wankers, living it large, venturing into our tier because it’s convenient.’

And we laughed, because that’s how ridiculous this shit is. Just completely insane.

A couple celebrating their anniversary at home popping in for afew bottles of wine and some snacks, no doubt.

Liked your retort though! Jason Manford does a fab sketch on tier 2 dating a tier 4!

SmileyClare · 31/12/2020 00:04

Tier 2 wankers Grin

Wheresmykimchi · 31/12/2020 00:05

How does anyone know OP hasn't had bereavements and the like for covid and just wants to make a party for her children? Who COMMENTS on folks baskets?

and the age old if this is all she has to worry about. there are hundreds of threads, not one of them particularly life changing. We could say the same to each and every one.

UneFoisAuChalet · 31/12/2020 00:08

I’ll have to check out Manford’s sketch.

If you can’t laugh about it, you’ll cry.

DH asked me on Monday ‘Fancy a few hours in a different tier? You complain I’m boring but I’ll show you a good time in tier 1 (wink wink, nudge nudge)’.

Allispretty · 31/12/2020 00:08

Yes op it's pathetic this is what people have been reduced to but I suspect they had no life prior to all this anyway

Allispretty · 31/12/2020 00:11

@Pippin2028

Part of me does think some people would love to be living in some version of nazi Germany, telling /spying on their neighbours and friends. And I think this pandemic has shown this. And it's always the holier than thou lot preaching on to everyone else how they haven't left their front door since March and so on... I'm sure they have a few things they haven't always followed the correct way. Have a lovely time with your children and any busybodies can mind their business 😂
I agree the thing is I bet these people are the ones who had zero social life before anyway so now thrive of everyone else being able to do nothing!
LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett · 31/12/2020 00:12

We had a household only Christmas party the Friday before Christmas OP and it was brilliant. Have a great time, I really really hope you all enjoy it - and don't forget a two-fingered toast to your new supermarket chum!

Wheresmykimchi · 31/12/2020 00:14

@UneFoisAuChalet

I’ll have to check out Manford’s sketch.

If you can’t laugh about it, you’ll cry.

DH asked me on Monday ‘Fancy a few hours in a different tier? You complain I’m boring but I’ll show you a good time in tier 1 (wink wink, nudge nudge)’.

I had a similar comment from DP. Someone i knew made a comment based on a photo I'd posted (dated pre pandemic - I wish people would look at stuff before they comment!) and he made a similar wouldn't they like to know how not socially distanced we are.

Men are gross.

I get that it's a massively serious issue, we've had losses due to COVID and serious illnesses, but we also can't live in the COVID black cloud 24/7.

EmbarrassingAdmissions · 31/12/2020 00:15

Why was she looking at your basket anyway,

I always look at people's baskets. Blush It's how I find out about products I didn't know existed or that my local supermarket has started to stock something.

Mulhollandmagoo · 31/12/2020 00:17

@wales34 it wasn't intended as such, as I said in my post, but it was advise to a poster who is very clearly struggling. You're quite right, something awful may have happened....to the OP, and mooballs is shouting at her to eff off? It was completely unnecessary!

Whilst I sympathise hugely with what people have had to endure throughout this, I am growing increasingly frustrated with people thinking they're the only ones who have struggled, and thinking it gives them a green light to speak to and treat other people with contempt, because they believe other people's hardships are incomparable to their own, it's not always the case. It's exactly the reason people are gauping into each others trolleys and scouring other people's Facebook pages to find reason to be annoyed, before covid nobody would have dreamed of picking someone apart in a supermarket because of what they have chosen to buy, it's now beyond ridiculous.

When people post threads on Mumsnet they every often quite clearly set out their stall in the title, so why anyone would read pages and pages of comments that are likely to cause significant distress is absolutely beyond me

Wheresmykimchi · 31/12/2020 00:18

[quote Mulhollandmagoo]@wales34 it wasn't intended as such, as I said in my post, but it was advise to a poster who is very clearly struggling. You're quite right, something awful may have happened....to the OP, and mooballs is shouting at her to eff off? It was completely unnecessary!

Whilst I sympathise hugely with what people have had to endure throughout this, I am growing increasingly frustrated with people thinking they're the only ones who have struggled, and thinking it gives them a green light to speak to and treat other people with contempt, because they believe other people's hardships are incomparable to their own, it's not always the case. It's exactly the reason people are gauping into each others trolleys and scouring other people's Facebook pages to find reason to be annoyed, before covid nobody would have dreamed of picking someone apart in a supermarket because of what they have chosen to buy, it's now beyond ridiculous.

When people post threads on Mumsnet they every often quite clearly set out their stall in the title, so why anyone would read pages and pages of comments that are likely to cause significant distress is absolutely beyond me[/quote]
I agree.

NoProblem123 · 31/12/2020 00:22

......puts dancing shoes away Sad

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TheLeastBit · 31/12/2020 00:22

@Wheresmykimchi

How does anyone know OP hasn't had bereavements and the like for covid and just wants to make a party for her children? Who COMMENTS on folks baskets?

and the age old if this is all she has to worry about. there are hundreds of threads, not one of them particularly life changing. We could say the same to each and every one.

Thank you. I'm not going to feel forced into listing the ways in which Covid has affected me and my family so that posters can deem whether or not I'm worthy to complain but yes, this is certainly not all I've had to worry about.
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