Will people just FUCK OFF with the judging and assuming

[TheLeastBit]

I'm fucking sick of the way this whole thing is turning people into nosey, curtain twitching, Covid police.

In supermarket today, with my shop I bought various 'party supplies'. Paper plates, napkins, party foods, plastic cups, poppers etc...

Got a few dirty looks, whatever. But a woman actually tutted and said she hopes I'm not having a NYE party with a look of disgust.

No. It's for my kids. Who have had a fucking shit year. I'm going to throw them a party in our home. I'm going to do a buffet with party food and paper plates and poppers and have a fucking disco and make the best of our NYE because they've been so low recently.

I didn't explain myself, just asked her to respectfully mind her own. But I'm sick of everyone watching what everyone else is doing. It's horrible. I hate what this is doing to people.

@metalmutha I am having same issues with asthma. This last week has been extra bad and the looks when I cough. I actually had a COVID test which was negative as we have secondary aged dc

@Mooballs

If perceived bad looks are all you have to worry about you are really very fortunate OP. So from one who has been directly and seriously affected by covid FUCK OFF right back at you.

Are you assuming I've not been affected by Covid? Like literally what my thread is talking about... People assuming what they don't know??

Next time tell her to socially distance herself away from your shopping basket! Have a nice time with your kids op it sounds fun xx

@Mooballs

If perceived bad looks are all you have to worry about you are really very fortunate OP. So from one who has been directly and seriously affected by covid FUCK OFF right back at you.

No need for that. You're directing your anger at the wrong person. Sorry you've been badly affected, I hope the new year brings you better things.

I’ve bought oodles of drink for tomorrow for our party but it’s all adults here all living in the same household. I’m going to have a blast fuck everyone else.

Judgemental folks will be judgemental regardless of covid

@SmileyClare

The 20 party poppers each family has intrigued me too. I wonder if you gather all the strings together and pull them all at once or painstakingly work your way through? Anyway you've got to get your kicks where you can these days.

Do they sell the other kind in Tesco, asking for a friend

Go to the cigarette counter and ask if Gavin's working.

@SmileyClare That was me. We pull them each separately. It doesn't take long to do but the clearing up does. We are a bit unusual in that DS has ASD and ADHD and DS has specific things he likes to do. Party poppers at new year is one of them. I sometimes feel a bit guilty about the waste but it is once a year so ...

Op, I’m at the stage now where I would’ve explained myself in no uncertain terms that would have made her want to crawl into the ground in judgemental shame.

Enjoy your party 🥂🍿🍦🍭🍢🍡🍰🍧

I had to leave the house every other day during lockdown to help my parents look after the rescue animals on their smallholding as my mum had just had a knee replacement and my dad a hip replacement. I shared the job with my sister so did every other day. Drove there in my car, sometimes with the kids as I had no one to leave them with, onto my parents land, waved at them in the window, sometimes dropped off groceries etc. Never came near a soul. Never left the house apart from that as I got all shopping delivered.

2 horrible ladies live next door but one who hate us anyway (I don’t know why). Everyday as I reversed out past their house they were standing hands on hips in the window. Sometimes they shook their heads and on one memorable occasion stuck 2 fingers up at me with the children in the car!

I was already scared and stressed to the hilt. It got to the point I was nearly having panic attacks when I had to go out on the car.

that was me For a minute I thought you were going to say you're Gavin with the poppers

It sounds like a little tradition for your family. It's rather sweet. I think you could stuff most of it in the recycling bin after your 3 hour(?) clean up in the morning. Wishing you a slight premature Happy New year

For a minute I thought you were going to say you're Gavin with the poppers

I went to M&S this afternoon and it was rammed full of people buying NYE food (including me). It will just be me, DP, but we are having loads of cheese, wine, Indian “fakeaway”, and Colin Caterpillar. No party poppers as we will have a hard enough time with the cat if there are fireworks at midnight.

@Mooballs there's no need for that. OP hasn't done anything wrong.

Enjoy your party. We're having one too. All four of us! In our finest.

Everyone is fed up of the situation. Peoples’ nerves are frayed. I barely slept last night worrying about the situation (risk of losing loved ones, risk of redundancy etc etc). She shouldn’t have said that to you - it was rude but there are people who are blatantly flouting the rules and there will be NYE parties guaranteed. People are just fed up. That is a lovely idea though to have a party for your children. Enjoy it and put the experience at the supermarket behind you.

Even if you were it’s none of her business. So sorry you had to experience that op.

By saying you want people to FUCK OFF you are judging and being abusive. Hoist with your own petard, aren't you?

@TheLeastBit if you’re in London and you need a smoke machine, let me know 😂

Ignore the judge twats, do what you need to for your kids ❤️

@Eckhart

By saying you want people to FUCK OFF you are judging and being abusive. Hoist with your own petard, aren't you?

The op is clearly upset after someone behaved like a grade a dickhead. Why are you hassling her?

Awwww love that idea! Hope you have a fab evening.

I got accosted coming out of sainburys this morning.

Who knew if trollies were empty they lock themselves in the entrance and you can't move until someone comes with a machine to check why and release it!

So embarrassing enough. And then some busy body heard me to say to manager that my trolly was empty because I'd gone to buy wellies but they didn't sell them.
I wasn't complaining just explaining.

She decided to ask me if wellies were essential shopping?

Nosy bat!

There are a couple of right peaches on this thread who perfectly illustrate the OP’s point. Everyone has been affected by Covid, it’s not a competition. @TheLeastBit have a great night, enjoy it and all the best for 2021 😀🎉

Enjoy your party, and Happy New Year

@mooballs so sorry you've had a rough ride, covid has been hard on lots of people in lots of different ways, each person's struggle just as valid as the next persons, but your post is completely unnecessary, and directing that much anger at somebody who's circumstances you don't know isn't the way to go about things. If you're struggling then you need to find a constructive outlet for your anger and anxiety, your GP maybe? (And I genuinely didn't mean that in a patronising way)

@Masstesting2

The op is clearly upset after someone behaved like a grade a dickhead. Why are you hassling her

It was an observation. Might help the kettle understand why the pot calls it black.

Enjoy your party Op - sounds like the kids will have a lovely time. We've promised ours Dominoes Pizza and to stay up until midnight so they're very excited by that. We all have to make the best of this shitty situation and enjoy what we can whilst we can (obviously following the rules!)

There are a couple of right peaches on this thread who perfectly illustrate the OP’s point

Yes. The only reason I can see why anyone would get offended is because they are the type of person who thinks it's reasonable to question someone else's trolly in the supermarket?!

Eckhart it was and unpleasant and unnecessary observation and the OP’s petard remains unhoisted,