Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Covid

Mumsnet doesn't verify the qualifications of users. If you have medical concerns, please consult a healthcare professional.

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9

Original poster

How long can they expect us to live like this for?

220 replies

WithLotsOfSprinkles0 · 30/12/2020 21:15

Can someone please give me some positivity or any ideas of when we can regain some normality?

Mental health, domestic abuse and suicidal rates are all rising more than ever, children losing out education, people losing jobs, economy crashing ...the collateral damage is far worse.

We have a 1 in a million chance of dying from Covid yet we are living like this, a virus with a survival rate over 99% and were living like this.

Not saying we shouldn't take precautions, such as distancing, washing hands, window visits for elderly and vulnerable etc..but for us to live like this for something that has such a small chance at killing us, is just stupid beyond words.

Is there any chance all this can stop by April? Lighter restrictions? My mental health is suffering and I honestly cant take this anymore

OP posts:

Spiratedaway · 30/12/2020 21:18

I can't take anymore I just want to burn my fucking masks and get on a train to work worth loads of delays !! Not sure if I will make it to spring so you are not alone

Mousehole10 · 30/12/2020 21:18

They’ve said previously and it was said again today that now we have the Oxford vaccine the harsh restrictions should be relaxed by spring. I recon a gradual relaxation with back to normal sometime between then and summer.

southeastdweller · 30/12/2020 21:23

I guess it depends on how efficiently the wonderfully reliable and trustworthy government can administer the vaccine rollout .

I'm not holding my breath for a non-restricted life anytime in 2021 .

Funkypolar · 30/12/2020 21:24

“3 weeks to flatten the curve.”

inquietant · 30/12/2020 21:24

I think it might be wise to just try to focus on now and what you can do to make the next phase (I am working in half terms myself) bearable.

Obviously April/warmer weather brings some hope but expect things like masks and distancing will not be fully gone by then. Don't listen to Boris the Bullshitter, I always listen to the scientific advisers instead.

for all those finding it hard, I am managing but it is no bloody walk in the park.

ReggaetonLente · 30/12/2020 21:27

My mental health is on the floor. Separated from DH by Covid border closures. Caring for a toddler full time alone while pregnant. Have had to move in indefinitely with family. No idea when I'll see DH again. And every time i watch the news its just worse and worse.

I feel so tired, drained, hopeless and exhausted. I don't recognise this as my life

Original poster

WithLotsOfSprinkles0 · 30/12/2020 21:27

I can just say manage tier 2 restrictions with restaurants opening.

It's not fair on the hospitality industry. You go in a pub or restaurant and your taken to your seat and table service but yet it's like a cattle market in Aldi.

I was hoping spring but now there talking new strains and the logistics of doing a vaccine...its just puts a damper on things.

I think the only way to stop this if we all just stop following and use our own common sense and take precautions.

OP posts:

Original poster

WithLotsOfSprinkles0 · 30/12/2020 21:30

@ReggaetonLente

I feel so tired, drained, hopeless and exhausted. I don't recognise this as my life

it must be awful for you. Your a strong person, I'm crumbling and I have just one Ds who is 2. It's so hard and it completely infuriates me as it has such low risk of killing me

OP posts:

grassisjeweled · 30/12/2020 21:32

Totally agree.

Flatten the curve? Which curve?

Cornishqween · 30/12/2020 21:34

I feel the same, my mental health is up and down but I've again found myself obsessively checking the news every 15 minutes, convincing myself I'll die from covid and terrified to go back to work (I work in a nursery with 3-5yr olds). I actually desperately need to go back to some normality before I have a breakdown.

I'm so sorry some of you are parenting alone...I can only imagine how you feel

Redbrickwall · 30/12/2020 21:35

I totally agree. I can’t do this much more

EcoCustard · 30/12/2020 21:36

Hang on in there OP, it’s shite though and your not alone. Struggling this week, all feeling a little pointless. I think there will be some loosening of restrictions come April/May and the weather will help. However I have no confidence in Boris and his Cabinet regarding the vaccine rollout and expect it to drag on.

I tried to make some plans for the year which made me feel even worse yesterday, so now focusing on the next week and lowering my expectations. it’s bloody hard though.

picklemewalnuts · 30/12/2020 21:38

@WithLotsOfSprinkles0

I can just say manage tier 2 restrictions with restaurants opening.

It's not fair on the hospitality industry. You go in a pub or restaurant and your taken to your seat and table service but yet it's like a cattle market in Aldi.

I was hoping spring but now there talking new strains and the logistics of doing a vaccine...its just puts a damper on things.

I think the only way to stop this if we all just stop following and use our own common sense and take precautions.

Please don't use your common sense and stop following the guidance. What is sensible for an individual is not sensible for a population. For example, I t doesn't matter if you go through a red light when there's no one around, but we can't have everyone doing it, there'd be mayhem.

Follow the restrictions- a lot of what we miss is a modern luxury- we can manage. Just hang in there for a few more months. Otherwise we'll lose many more people than we should, and have traumatised medics to boot.

louisejxxx · 30/12/2020 21:39

Jumping in the same boat as you all - Spring seemed like a fantastic prospect a couple of days ago; now it seems like we’ll all have to have been dragged through hell before we make it there.

LilQueenie · 30/12/2020 21:39

we handled a pandemic in 1918 alongside a world war. We have it easier this time. Its just most of us didn't live through it the first time but our grandparents did. Its in our blood to survive this. If they can do it for us we can do it too. Hard as it is we really do have it easier.

GravityFalls · 30/12/2020 21:40

It isn’t a one in a million chance of dying of COVID though - in the most blunt way of expressing it, 1 in 1000 people in this country have died of covid this year.

Comefromaway · 30/12/2020 21:42

They can’t expect us to live like this.

I’ve followed all the rules, I like rules.

But I’ve had enough. I’m not doing it any longer.

Tootsey11 · 30/12/2020 21:42

Op, can I ask have you any health issues?

Foreveraintenough · 30/12/2020 21:43

@WithLotsOfSprinkles0

I think you have to turn inward to survive. I focus on what I’m doing day to day. What meals I’m going to make - can I try something new. My new thing is one pot dishes - less washing up, warming for winter. Is there a new area nearby I haven’t explored on a walk - even a new housing estate to wander around and look at the houses. I’ve started a gratitude thing - take a photo on my phone of something nice every day - cup of coffee, new dinner, new water bottle, clean sheets on bed - anything at all!! Look back through them if I’m feeling down. I don’t think about the impact on suicide rates, or on how hospitality is a seated service and Aldi is full. I can’t do anything to help those things. If you’re focusing on the bigger picture of course you’re going to feel the weight of it.

I think the only way to stop this if we all just stop following and use our own common sense and take precautions.

This makes no sense? How would stop following the rules stop covid?

Oblomov20 · 30/12/2020 21:45

I agree. This isn't worth it. This quality of life v the rare chance of catching so severely gat it does long term damage.
If 1 in 3 are asymptomatic then it's clearly not that bad - I'll take my chances.

janetmendoza · 30/12/2020 21:45

No Louise you won't be dragged through hell and back unless you get ill. That is saved for the guys dying terrified and alone in hospital and the people nursing them.

Bluesername · 30/12/2020 21:45

Who is "they"? I think the government are going to be damned if they do, damned if they don't. For example I've seem people complain that the Nightingale Hospitals are empty, but had they not been built, the same people would have complained the government weren't properly prepared or taking it seriously.

Hospitals in some areas already have long queues of ambulances outside. Obviously that will get even worse if guidelines are eased up on or not followed.

Personally I think the hospitality industry has received more than its share of attention during the pandemic. Many, many people and employers have been affected. In particular I think education should come before pubs, bars and restaurants.

Anusername · 30/12/2020 21:47

Try to take deep breath when you are feeling anxious and incorporate exercising and meditation into daily routine. And maybe read some positivity books.

BonnesVacances · 30/12/2020 21:47

I'll be interested to know how long is too long. DD(19) has ME and has lived like this since she was 14. There hasn't been much outrage or handwringing about her missing education, her mental health, the effects of social isolation of children. Or for the hundreds of thousands of chronically ill, housebound or elderly people for whom this has been their lives for years. It only seems shocking and unbearable now.

Callcat · 30/12/2020 21:47

It has destroyed my entire life.

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9