AIBU to report my teen for breaking 'tier 4' ?

[ohtobeanonymous]

...by meeting up with several people from different households for hours at a time, either in parks / their homes / travelling around and about the city?

I get that being at home is trying, frustrating and difficult for all of us, but she says she doesn't agree with that rule so she isn't going to follow it!

@Mousehole10

Why can't you discipline your own child?

I assume you don't have a 17 yo? 🤣 I find once they get to about 15 parenting gets much, much harder.

My 20yo won't stay in. And it's not a case of letting her make her own decisions, if she gets COVID then she brings it into our home. If she lived on her own I'd turn a blind eye. It's sooo hard. I remember feeling immortal at that age.

I hope she turns up soon OP. I know the feeling of lying awake most of the night, wondering where they are and what they’re doing. Alternating between worrying they’re not safe to raging at putting everyone through this.

If it helps, my DD is now 19 and has grown up a lot in this last year. Got a job which she loves (having rarely gone to school in the latter years), and is like a different person.

OP - I would call the police to report her missing. What time did she go out last night? She should be taking medication & she's not, she has anxiety problems & her lifestyle, circle of friends have changed recently - that's a bloody good reason for her to be found!
As for the rest, if the school have got a social worker involved then steps hopefully will be made in the right direction. Good luck.

Jeez, I despair at humanity sometimes. Reporting your own kid! What a lovely parent you sound. Talk with her and compromise, she’s nearly an adult.

OP I have not been able to keep my older teens home throughout this pandemic. DD2 tested positive this week, following several tier 4 breaking meet ups in the week before Xmas, so she has put the whole family at risk. And we've all had to stay home without even a walk in the park. DD1 illegally went off to her boyfriends on Boxing Day and then one of his family tested positive so she hasn't been able to come back - and now she is feeling quite ill herself. They are incapable of having the thought "but what if I make my mum and dad ill?" Or "what if it means my little sister can't go back to school". They only think of themselves and their immediate needs. A part of me has a lot of sympathy with this, they are young and this is the way their brains work. No big picture or moral function. And it seems their friends are all operating in a similar way and meeting up.

I have no answers - only sympathy. I expect your DD will have crashed at a friends house and that she is fine. I hope so. Try not to worry as there is nothing you can do right now.

@ohtobeanonymous has your daughter returned?

I am thinking of you, Both mine got back OK - one 5 am and the other at 2pm. I'm doing my best to keep away from them in case of infection. It will be good to get vaccine so I can hug my wanker children.

She came home around 6pm NYD. No apology. No nothing.
At least she’s alive... waiting for the symptoms to start at some stage. At the end of my tether...