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At my breaking point now. Don't see light at the end of the tunnel

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Valleydad99 · 07/10/2020 06:49

This is probably not going to sit well with people but I'm honestly at the point where I'm questioning what the fucking point of these virus measures are. All the masks/social distancing/lockdowns haven't worked in eliminating the virus & now apparently as cases rise it's back to lockdown again?

Am I the only one thinking maybe we need a plan B? Rather than being flamed for apparently trying to kill people for questioning it?

My 1 year old has been locked down for half her life. I can't take the kids to see sport or play inside for basically no reason.

My kids are no longer welcome at church because of SD & in case they wander around like kids do so now we have no spiritual guidance & anyone I express concerns to just say it's for the greater good & fuck you. "Suffer the little children" said Jesus except when they need god most I suppose.

We've been following all the fucking rules but now it's well if more people followed the rules this would all be over. But that's just not true is it. There's no magic bullet & a vaccine doesn't cause it all to go away so I guess we'll just stay in our bunkers shouting wear a mask at people until we're all dead.

I'm not sure what the point of this post is, guess I just want to shout into the void but I'm mentally at my breaking point & don't see a future for my children & me.

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thisusernameismine · 08/10/2020 20:39

@OverTheRainbow88 Thanksthank you xx

JeanClaudeVanDammit · 08/10/2020 20:40

@AgentCooper I was a baby in the very late 70s and playgroups/toddler groups definitely existed - that’s how my mum met most of her friends who she still goes out with (in normal times). Not sure when soft plays were invented but I can remember going to some birthday parties in them in the 80s so they’re not that new-fangled either.

GoldenOmber · 08/10/2020 20:40

Yes mental health is of course important but compromise. Use Zoom calls, WhatsApp groups to chat to friends.

It's October, I think most of us have discovered Zoom and WhatsApp by this point!

I am going along with the restrictions and will continue to do so and think overall they're the right thing to do, but I'm not going to pretend that WhatsApp is a substitute for getting to have a big family get-together, because it's just not.

GetOffYourHighHorse · 08/10/2020 20:45

'from the ignorance you displayed in your earlier comments where you assumed everyone was under the rule of 6 when many of us are under far harsher restrictions.'

'Far harsher'. No household mixing apart from caring needs or childcare or single parents who are in a bubble? Riiiiiight. Very harsh.

So again, use your WiFi to chat! At this stage I'm just hoping we all come through it unscathed rather than sulking that I can't have pals round for a coffee morning.

'Aren’t we allowed to be struggling with it all?'

Well yes. Who is loving it? Just get on with it though. There's far too much overreacting. If your toddler is like most toddlers she will take whatever you say as a satisfactory answer for example 'we can't see them at the moment but we will soon now show granny your picture '. Toddlers don't tend to overthink things even if their parents do.

'And I don’t think any schools would be willing to accept my three year old yet. But thanks for your input.'

Nursery/preschool start at 3. You're welcome.

izzyme · 08/10/2020 20:57

Oh how I agree with previous posters. Times are bad just now and people are being affected in different ways and are learning to cope in their own way. As an elderly person with a lung problem I go out only if very necessary. Do you know what I've found the hardest? Being stuck indoors with my grouch of a husband for weeks on end. I didn't realise what a misery he has become. At least we do not have money worries, unlike a lot of families. How some poor souls are managing
I just don't know. I wish them all well.
Thanks for letting me vent and I hope I haven't depressed anyone too much!

AgentCooper · 08/10/2020 20:57

Nursery/preschool start at 3. You're welcome

Indeed. And my son is going in January. But how this addresses the issue of mothers’ isolation I don’t know.

JeanClaudeVanDammit · 08/10/2020 20:58

’Far harsher'. No household mixing apart from caring needs or childcare or single parents who are in a bubble? Riiiiiight. Very harsh.
Yes - so the majority who are not single adult households (or are but don’t have anyone to bubble with) and who don’t use family for childcare are unable to meet anyone. We clearly have very different ideas about what counts as difficult restrictions, so I’ll leave you to it. I’m sure there are lots more threads started by depressed people just waiting for you to pop in and tell them they’re pathetic and need to suck it up.

SoloMummy · 08/10/2020 21:36

@TheKeatingFive

The thing is you CAN see your friends and families currently just not in huge numbers

I can’t. I’m in local lockdown and my parents live 50 miles away.

Then arguably you weren't seeing them on a regular basis pre pandemic to make such a difference on a day to day basis were you!
TheKeatingFive · 08/10/2020 21:42

Then arguably you weren't seeing them on a regular basis pre pandemic to make such a difference on a day to day basis were you!

I saw them weekly. Is that good enough for you? Hmm

I starting to despair of people’s empathy levels on here.

Janevaljane · 08/10/2020 22:00

I find it breathtaking that there are people out there who think all this is absolutely fine.

IrishMamaMia · 08/10/2020 23:10

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LimitIsUp · 08/10/2020 23:47

"The virus is not going anywhere, how can you beat a virus that you are still learning about, how can you fight something that you can not see"

Such panic mongering. You do realise that a mutation of the Spanish flu is around today but now it's just a cold. The same will happen with covid. It's not forever

PracticingPerson · 09/10/2020 02:48

Such panic mongering. You do realise that a mutation of the Spanish flu is around today but now it's just a cold. The same will happen with covid. It's not forever

You really don't know what will happen with covid. People sound so certain, but without any grounds at all.

Janevaljane · 09/10/2020 07:14

@PracticingPerson

Such panic mongering. You do realise that a mutation of the Spanish flu is around today but now it's just a cold. The same will happen with covid. It's not forever

You really don't know what will happen with covid. People sound so certain, but without any grounds at all.

Well, we can see what's happened to other coronaviruses?
Limona · 09/10/2020 08:15

Personally, I can’t imagine anything more horrendous than my kids being taken from me, packed off somewhere random and not see them for years. That was the reality of WW2 life for many. So for all people insist that the ties to the community made it all grand, I can’t agree.

I don’t doubt some people have really suffered from losing jobs, but the other stuff - the ‘parks aren’t open / I don’t like wearing a face mask / my kids can’t run around church’ - well. It really isn’t THAT bad. Sorry.

Janevaljane · 09/10/2020 08:22

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planplan · 09/10/2020 08:25

I was with you till you started quoting the bible.
Where's God now huh?

FatimaMunchy · 09/10/2020 08:29

Janevaljane I don't understand why Limona is silly. She makes a valid point about evacuees in war time. My grandparents had an evacuee, as did my aunt, and it wasn't great for the evacuees or the hosts. The one my grandparents had returned to London after a few months because she hated the country and her mother missed her.

Janevaljane · 09/10/2020 08:36

Because evacuees in war time are completely irrelevant.

FatimaMunchy · 09/10/2020 08:45

I think I have missed something here. Blush
Sorry.

randomer · 09/10/2020 08:47

Utterly pointless comparing this situation to WW2. What are the links between the 2?
It's horrible, people are suffering, I suppose thats a link.

Porcupineinwaiting · 09/10/2020 08:55

I think if you are claiming that "the young are being thrown under a bus" and young people have never had it so bad, then its legitimate to point out there are times in living memory when they've had it much worse, even in the UK. I cant imagine crying to my MiL about my children being irreparably damaged by soft play being closed knowing she was stuck on a train aged 4 labelled like a parcel.

But beyond that, just because things were tough then doesnt mean they're not tough now. They are shit, for all sorts of people in all sorts of ways. And it's not bringing out the best in people.

Limona · 09/10/2020 08:55

And you are very rude. It was not me who brought up WW2: others insist it must somehow have been superior to the current situation because of community and family links.

If you think being stuck in a house with your children for three months was tough, try being separated from them for over three years.

TheKeatingFive · 09/10/2020 09:02

One of the biggest issues for people now is being separated from close family. Legally prohibited to see them no less.

So I’d be careful with the analogies.

In a more general sense, the war comparisons are dumb and unhelpful. A totally different situation, requiring a totally different response from people.

One of the unique aspects of our response to Covid is that it’s forcing people into isolation. That runs contrary to all human instincts and we should not be surprised that people can’t keep it up for long.

GetOffYourHighHorse · 09/10/2020 09:05

'find it breathtaking that there are people out there who think all this is absolutely fine.'

Who has said any of this is 'absolutely fine'? I don't think any of it is but you need some perspective and some coping strategies.

'I cant imagine crying to my MiL about my children being irreparably damaged by soft play being closed knowing she was stuck on a train aged 4 labelled like a parcel'

Exactly.

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