Anyone else feeling really fed up?

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Before I start pleased don't reply with "but we've got to save lives" I get it but this isn't what this thread is about!

For the last week I've been feeling a deep sense of bleugh and couldn't put my finger on why. I've started running again in a bid to cheer myself up and healthy eating but nothing has helped. My husband and I have good jobs and touch wood, we're not at risk losing them thank goodness. DS is back at nursery and loving it. So all that combined I should be happy, but I'm really not.

I woke up today and really thought, what's the point? Whilst in a good job, it's pretty stressful and I'm at my desk from 8-5 with barely any breaks (I'm trying to stop that but hard when meetings are just shoved in the calendar). I'm used to travelling with work but won't be doing that again....great!

The weekends are a write off because everywhere you go there's a queue and even the joy of a trip to the supermarket has been taken away because of bloody face masks.

So what is the point? We're basically turning into some kind of socialist/communist society where we work but can do nothing else and are dictated to about what we can and can't do. This wasn't what I signed up for.

I thought the whole point of lockdown was to flatten a curve but now we seem obsessed with eradicating Covid, how bloody long will that take? Why can't we now just use common sense? If you want to shield and stay away because you're vulnerable then do so. But what about those of us that just want to get on with their life and take the risk?

Probably more a bit of a rant but feeling in a very dark place and can't see a way out of it.

I thought the whole point of lockdown was to flatten a curve but now we seem obsessed with eradicating Covid, how bloody long will that take?

I completely agree.

Same. I am fed up. I understand why we had to lock down but my 3rd baby was born in may and it has been so lonely. Having to home school my other two, who werent in the groups allowed to go back, whilst caring for a newborn on my own has been so hard. It sounds selfish but I was so looking forward to my maternity leave and it has been so depressing. Cant see it getting any better either

Trying not to be cynical of the government, which is difficult at the best of times, but looking worldwide, I think, I hope, the current motivation is to keep the curve flat.

Yes it's rubbish, we all have reasons to feel slumped each morning, but it won't be forever. Make your house amazing to spend time in if you can. Treat yourself. I have found LUSH bath bombs with escapism novels in the bath a very good pick-me-up.

Totally agree. I'm a pretty conformist person but enough is enough. We have flattened the curve. I cannot believe we are nearly 4 months in to lockdown and now we need to wear facemasks. Too depressing for words.

Socialist society?! Not my definition of socialism.

@Dogmatix34

Socialist society?! Not my definition of socialism.

I just mean a general control of the masses....socialism is another way this can be achieved

@frozendaisy

Trying not to be cynical of the government, which is difficult at the best of times, but looking worldwide, I think, I hope, the current motivation is to keep the curve flat.

Yes it's rubbish, we all have reasons to feel slumped each morning, but it won't be forever. Make your house amazing to spend time in if you can. Treat yourself. I have found LUSH bath bombs with escapism novels in the bath a very good pick-me-up.

House has been done to the hilt as has the garden. I couldn't spend any more time in if I tried as I'm working from home. Think that's the main problem, I'm so used to travelling for work and seeing clients face to face. Being stuck at home 24/7 is becoming so depressing.

Had a good chat with my boss which made me feeling a bit more upbeat and will probably go and blow a fortune on internet shopping 😂

Same here, I just cannot lift myself up enough, it's like we've all been conditioned over the last few months, it's not a good place to be

I think things are so much better than they were in full lockdown - being able to meet with friends, more people on the streets, being able to bubble with another household, go to other people’s houses etc..

Lots of countries have experienced local spikes and second and third waves and we have the autumn and winter to get through- hence the masks. I am very grateful they are compulsory on public transport as who knows how full the tube will be this autumn.

I think there is a case for masks in all public indoor spaces while we continue to grapple with a virus that is still very much there, and I also think it won’t be forever.

On the other hand, they are not compulsory in pubs and restaurants so even though those environments are controlled in social distancing terms, it is possible to socialise there and feel relatively normal?

Also, cinemas are opening soon and I haven’t heard anything about masks there either.

I guess it’s about trying to make the best of these weird new realities, but I also feel very down at times, and lonely (despite being a single parent to three teens!). I find the evenings the hardest.

Yep. I'm fed up because theres no indication in what the end goal seems to be.

We are holding back a virus by reducing transmission , it isnt going away. So lifting restrictions will make it spread again as long as there are cases in the community. If some countries eradicate it, then what? I'm in Scotland so our numbers are really low but then we have flights constantly arriving from abroad so well have to continue socially distancing forever to keep any imported cases in check? Or shut off our country? I dont get what the plan ever was with lockdown.

I am also not worried about the virus itself but worried about how depressing life seems to be at the moment and how we seem obsessed with daily infection rates.

It's only better than lockdown if you've got the freedom to get out and meet friends etc, for those of us working at home we are bloody locked in!!

don't throw socialism into this - more socialist govts have dealt with this far better - and they don't even represent what I would call socialism. Sounds like the Trumpish line - social distancing = communism. Nonsense.

But I agree it is depressing - also depressing how unevenly people are hit by this sodding thing, according to their class position as it happens.......

Why can't we now just use common sense? If you want to shield and stay away because you're vulnerable then do so. There's a huge contrast. On the one hand everyone welcomes places becoming wheelchair accessible, defends disabled toilets being reserved exclusively for those with disabilities, applauds "quiet hours" in supermarkets for parents whose children have sensory difficulties. And on the other hand, people who are vulnerable to Covid should just cut themselves off from all interaction and involvement in normal life.

Socialist society?! We have a hard right government! Do you even know what socialism is and it’s not the same communism.

To be honest I’m a bit fed up of all the endless complaining in here, yes it’s hard but it’s hard for everyone and that’s not a person on the planet who hasn’t had their life affected in one way or another. So we just need to get on with it.

Agree OP plus my DP has lost his livelihood so I am now supporting us both on a v low wage. We’ve gone from looking forward to having a great life starting this year to just scraping by. Our relationship is fucked because of it. If there’s no cure then are we expected to live like this forever? Honestly I feel suicidal at the thought of it. Have had to go on ADs.

Me too - I have days when I'm ok and days when I am just so fed up. Some people are saying that this might last for another year and I find the thought of that almost unbearable.

I'm not getting any younger and have reached the stage when kids have left home and I can look forward to spending time and money on me and I'm not being able to do this.

I feel I don't have much to look forward to apart from working, saving money each month because there's nothing to spend it on and then not being to go to concerts, holidays etc.

Can you take annual leave and book something in the UK so you have something to look forward to? We're having a few days in a self catering cottage, doing some walking and cycling, pub lunches etc.

Yes life feels very surreal at the moment. I hate it. It’s gotten me so depressed.

OP try and focus on the positives, unlike many, you have jobs that you say are secure and have a double income and a happy child.

Wearing a mask to the shop really in the scheme of things is not a huge hardship....go and do that internet shopping if it makes you feel better

But what is the point of internet shopping either? Buying stuff for events you can’t go to? No point buying a lot of new nice clothes to sit round the house. Only so much you can buy for the house. Yeah, I’m miserable too.

I hate internet shopping. I can't be arsed with deliveries, trying stuff on and the faff of returning it. I can't even look forward to a nice day out with my daughter now that the shops are open again as so many of our favourite shops have gone during lockdown.

The thought that there could be a second wave just fills me with immeasurable dread.

I'm the same OP. My motivation and mental health are at rock bottom.

I loved getting up each morning, doing my hair and make-up, putting some nice clothes on and going out.
Now, I wake up and can barely drag myself out of bed for another day looking at 4 walls.

I'm very grateful that (over the past week) I've been able to have my hair and nails done, go for a meal and drinks, take DD to the amusement park and go to the shops but it was bittersweet.

I had a moment yesterday where I almost forgot about COVID. Was driving past ASDA when I realised I needed bread and milk, drove into the car park and saw the queue snaking round the building. Left straight away.

I miss the spontaneity of life. Not having to wear masks, stand back, sanitise my hands a million times a day. It's just shite.

"Why can't we now just use common sense? If you want to shield and stay away because you're vulnerable then do so. "

So you want to force a whole section of society, which you could become part of, unless you and your children are immune to cancer, asthma, heart conditions etc, because you can't make changes?

Where do we get the extra workforce from? Look around your hospital, a lot of workers, especially midwives are obese. Most senior consultants are over 50. Taxi drivers are over represented by BAME men over 40. How will we support people to stay at home?

I'd say that you are lacking in common sense as well as compassion. Before this did you consider yourself bigoted against vulnerable people?

I think I'm more depressed, now, than when we were in full "lockdown".
At least I knew where I stood, then.
Now, I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing.
Yesterday, I was angsting over whether I was allowed to offer the person working in our garden a cup of coffee, and if I should be wearing a mask to deal with him.
I was also reading the guidelines for resuming teaching exercise classes, which may be allowed again, soon, and they are so restrictive and joyless that I don't think I'll bother.

Meanwhile, the Covid-19 virus is still out there, and there is no vaccine.

You are not alone.

Again, I have very little to whinge about. Both maintained our decent paying jobs all throughout without any risk of losing them. Kids are in school (key worker bubble). Everyone I know and love is healthy.

But I also feel absolutely trapped in my dining room, chained to the table so I can get through my mountain of work that is ever increasing. The same four walls are driving me insane. No decompression time between work ending and housework/dinner/parenting.

Kids activities have stopped, swimming, birthday parties. Everything outside of the house has to be meticulously planned. Queues constantly. Holiday cancelled (one break once a year to get away from the monotony taken away from me.)

No spontaneity. No zest. No future plans. Just seems so endless and drab.

To the point where I wake up and feel like if I have to stare at my laptop screen for 8 hours without any other human interaction I'll stick spoons in my eyes. As the weekend is equally boring with "walks" and "picnics".