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Anyone else feeling really fed up?

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wobblywibble · 14/07/2020 08:28

Before I start pleased don't reply with "but we've got to save lives" I get it but this isn't what this thread is about!

For the last week I've been feeling a deep sense of bleugh and couldn't put my finger on why. I've started running again in a bid to cheer myself up and healthy eating but nothing has helped. My husband and I have good jobs and touch wood, we're not at risk losing them thank goodness. DS is back at nursery and loving it. So all that combined I should be happy, but I'm really not.

I woke up today and really thought, what's the point? Whilst in a good job, it's pretty stressful and I'm at my desk from 8-5 with barely any breaks (I'm trying to stop that but hard when meetings are just shoved in the calendar). I'm used to travelling with work but won't be doing that again....great!

The weekends are a write off because everywhere you go there's a queue and even the joy of a trip to the supermarket has been taken away because of bloody face masks.

So what is the point? We're basically turning into some kind of socialist/communist society where we work but can do nothing else and are dictated to about what we can and can't do. This wasn't what I signed up for.

I thought the whole point of lockdown was to flatten a curve but now we seem obsessed with eradicating Covid, how bloody long will that take? Why can't we now just use common sense? If you want to shield and stay away because you're vulnerable then do so. But what about those of us that just want to get on with their life and take the risk?

Probably more a bit of a rant but feeling in a very dark place and can't see a way out of it.

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Legoandloldolls · 14/07/2020 11:57

Yes I'm fed up. A looming summer holiday where I cant easily take the kids out is depressing. A local soft play that has been going for 27 years has just closed because of covid.

I was looking for a nice travel bag but realised I'm going no where so I dont even need a bag. Ds was almost put on a close contact lockdown yesterday so that was a stark warning not to make plans as they can change in a day.

Not much to look forward to is there? My holiday for next week to Spain was cancelled but tui didn't refund in the five days - 7 days so far. So cant even spend that money on impromptu days out.

I'm selling the kids summer clothes on Ebay now. Just got to find joy where we can in little things I guess. Plus stop buying anything that isn't essential as clothes, bags, makeup etc has no use if your a hermit in a face mask 😂

DebLou47 · 14/07/2020 12:09

I was doing ok but been bad this week how much longer can this shit go on?
Suicides have doubled because if this and winter is going to be shocking
If we had an end date more people would cope bit we don't I can feel myself slipping into depression

kittensarecute · 14/07/2020 12:13

I've got nothing to look forward to for the rest of 2020 (at least). Absolutely nothing. I'm just existing at the moment. All the joy from my life has been taken away. I can't bear months more of this.

Pomegranatepompom · 14/07/2020 12:26

I’m really struggling today. House is a mess as we’re both working FT plus trying to home school 2 very reluctant DC. We’ve not had time to do any home improvement- we were nearing the end of some renovations.
Working in the NHS has been horrendous.
DS mood is very low - I know it’s self indulgent but I feel there’s little joy. I work in a very stressful job, come home try and home school, entertain DC, then try to do housework. To be fair DH does quite a bit of the home schooling etc The house is actually fine but I’m a perfectionist so it just doesn’t feel fine to me. Just had a mini meltdown - I’m on annual leave today.
I feel exhausted with no end in sight.
Sorry for rant.

TheClaws · 14/07/2020 12:28

I thought the whole point of lockdown was to flatten a curve but now we seem obsessed with eradicating Covid, how bloody long will that take? Why can't we now just use common sense? If you want to shield and stay away because you're vulnerable then do so. But what about those of us that just want to get on with their life and take the risk?

🙄 That's not how it works. And haven't you learned anything from the last month or so? Very few people can be trusted to use common sense.

OldQueen1969 · 14/07/2020 12:31

Another here agreeing with you OP....... more mixed messages than the sweet counter at Woolies.

Namechange82828373 · 14/07/2020 12:32

Thanks for the thread OP. I could have written it myself (plus some of the comments). It’s somewhat comforting to know others feel the same.

OverTheRainbow88 · 14/07/2020 12:33

Most things are open again, and although not back to normal are pretty normal. I went to the playground this morning with my kids, then ran around playing, by the playground was an open cafe with about 8 outdoor tables all occupied. Then I dropped the eldest at Pre Scholl. Today we’re going out for dinner.

Namechange82828373 · 14/07/2020 12:35

Oh and FWIW, my DH has lost his job and is yet to find another. But I don’t find posts from others who haven’t lost their jobs hard to read. I’m really sick of “well I’ve got it worse that you” or “you don’t have a reason to moan” attitude. No one should have to apologise for struggling.

justinhawkinsnavalfluff · 14/07/2020 12:39

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BrieAndChilli · 14/07/2020 12:45

I am starting to feel very depressed now. I’ve realised that there’s not actually many things that I’m waiting to open up!!! We didn’t go out to restaurants or pubs before lockdown. Kids are too old for soft play and most parks now.
Before lockdown we would spend the weekends cleaning, going for a walk, shopping - food/house stuff/kids clothes etc as needed and watching films etc. We don’t live near family so lockdown was pretty much just our normal life but because we weren’t rushing around all week with school/work/kids activities it makes what was the ‘chill’ part of our week seem never ending and depressing because that’s all we are doing!!

tobee · 14/07/2020 12:45

And there it is!

Vampyhooch · 14/07/2020 12:47

@justinhawkinsnavalfluff

whine whine whine how selfish are you - Go and look at the pictures of dead Doctors and nurses and then remember why we need to keep the numbers downAngry
Don’t you think that comment is a bit below the belt?
tobee · 14/07/2020 12:47

@justinhawkinsnavalfluff

whine whine whine how selfish are you - Go and look at the pictures of dead Doctors and nurses and then remember why we need to keep the numbers downAngry
My reply was to this post!
Pomegranatepompom · 14/07/2020 12:50

@justinhawkinsnavalfluff I work in the nhs. My colleague died of covid, several colleagues have been in itu. Its shit, depressing, people are struggling and fine to let off steam on a thread imo

Livpool · 14/07/2020 13:00

Same - I feel completely fed up. I am grateful
To be able to work from home but I feel isolated and rarely go out during the week at
all. If the weather was nicer I could out for walks but my asthma is severely affected when it is humid.

But you're classed as a pariah if you moan about it "at least you are alive"

iamusuallybeingunreasonable · 14/07/2020 13:05

Livpool - you are so right, we mustn't moan, how dare we.

It might seem idyllic to be stuck indoors working but it's not. It's driving me up the wall trying to manage parenting and work, I've just made the kids their lunch, served it up, now off back to my desk to scoff mine whilst working. It'll be the same tonight, ad infinitum

The way we are living is killing us slowly

Legoandloldolls · 14/07/2020 13:06

@Namechange82828373

Oh and FWIW, my DH has lost his job and is yet to find another. But I don’t find posts from others who haven’t lost their jobs hard to read. I’m really sick of “well I’ve got it worse that you” or “you don’t have a reason to moan” attitude. No one should have to apologise for struggling.
Every single issue on MN can be dismissed at this level

Dh shagging my sister? At least your not dead!
Bill arrested for child abuse? At least your not dead!
Dog ate my premium bonds? At least your not dead!
DC can never sit their GCSEs? At least your not dead!

It's a pretty low bar to set your level at which you can be happy. Btw we are all slowly dieing so we all be dead soon enough so dont worry. Death comes to us all

This isn't a barevment forum.

Legoandloldolls · 14/07/2020 13:07

Oops wrong quote

Legoandloldolls · 14/07/2020 13:08

@justinhawkinsnavalfluff

whine whine whine how selfish are you - Go and look at the pictures of dead Doctors and nurses and then remember why we need to keep the numbers downAngry
I meant this one.

I will only complain from now on when I am worthy and dead 😂

Livpool · 14/07/2020 13:10

Agreed @Legoandloldolls - I was 40 last month and we planned to go to Paris with DH to celebrate.

I said to a friend I was disappointed and her response was of course "at least you're dead"

Livpool · 14/07/2020 13:10

Not dead!

I would have cause for complaint if I was Confused

labyrinthloafer · 14/07/2020 13:16

I am feeling pretty gloomy because too many people are so foolish that they are 'bored' and so want us to pretend the virus will just go away.

Pretty Hmm at all the people talking about common sense. They depress me.

Worried about winter, vulnerable people, people with MH problems, health workers, schools.

Personally, think summer will be dull but will cope.

Sallycinnamum · 14/07/2020 13:16

Same here and the poster who said 'drab', it absolutely is. Boring, monotonous and never ending.

I can't wait to get back to the bloody office as it seems like a novelty at the moment.

Lindy2 · 14/07/2020 13:19

I think it's the current endlessness of it all that gets to me the most.

There was no point flattening the curve just to let it shoot back up again though. In order to keep cases steady and try to prevent a second wave we need to behave differently than we did before March. That means social distancing, masks etc. I don't like it but it needs to be done otherwise we're back in chaos and death again.

I get by, by repeatedly telling myself that this will pass. It may take a while but life will be better again at some time in the future.

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