Anyone else feeling really fed up?

[wobblywibble]

Before I start pleased don't reply with "but we've got to save lives" I get it but this isn't what this thread is about!

For the last week I've been feeling a deep sense of bleugh and couldn't put my finger on why. I've started running again in a bid to cheer myself up and healthy eating but nothing has helped. My husband and I have good jobs and touch wood, we're not at risk losing them thank goodness. DS is back at nursery and loving it. So all that combined I should be happy, but I'm really not.

I woke up today and really thought, what's the point? Whilst in a good job, it's pretty stressful and I'm at my desk from 8-5 with barely any breaks (I'm trying to stop that but hard when meetings are just shoved in the calendar). I'm used to travelling with work but won't be doing that again....great!

The weekends are a write off because everywhere you go there's a queue and even the joy of a trip to the supermarket has been taken away because of bloody face masks.

So what is the point? We're basically turning into some kind of socialist/communist society where we work but can do nothing else and are dictated to about what we can and can't do. This wasn't what I signed up for.

I thought the whole point of lockdown was to flatten a curve but now we seem obsessed with eradicating Covid, how bloody long will that take? Why can't we now just use common sense? If you want to shield and stay away because you're vulnerable then do so. But what about those of us that just want to get on with their life and take the risk?

Probably more a bit of a rant but feeling in a very dark place and can't see a way out of it.

Feeling the same as everyone else. Fed up

I'm at my desk from 8-5 with barely any breaks

Don't want to be unsympathetic, but this really is not what being overworked looks like.

Last week I worked 9am-7pm Monday to Thursday. Then 10am-10pm Friday, Saturday and Sunday. Now I've got a normal 9-5 week ahead. I haven't had a day off since the 5th of July.

And I bet despite all the long hours and extremely hard work I've done, there's someone else who's done more and worked harder (NHS staff probably)

Not trying to be mean, but it's good to have some perspective when you're feeling down.

8-5 is not a bad hand to be dealt.

I feel same and I was absolutely loving lockdown to begin with.

Sick of looking at the same four walls and the thought of going for "another walk" is enough to send me over the edge. I miss office banter and seeing people that aren't my immediate family on a day to day basis!

I'm hoping when kids go back to school in September we start getting a bit more of normality back

@EmMac7

Stop looking for someone to blame.

It’s a pandemic, a nasty virus that might only kill 1% but leaves a significant portion long-term maimed. A virus we’re not sure anyone acquires lasting immunity to.

Everyone, everywhere (except NZ, who were astute enough to raise the drawbridge quickly and eliminated it) is going through this same hell. Be thankful you don’t live in the US or Brazil, where the leadership continues to minimise the risk and caused an even worse clusterfuck.

There are no easy answers to this, no quick fixes. A vaccine will take time. If we relax restrictions, give up on suppression, the thing will spike again and we’ll be back in lockdown.

I don't think people on here are looking for someone to blame. It's part of the problem, there isn't really anyone to blame.

Why can't someone feel down and fed up without another person always coming along to tell them how they should count their blessings, shouldn't complain.

I think most of us acknowledge that there will always be someone worse off. Even the very worst off in this country are probably better off than people in certain other countries, or people who lived in the past.

But you can't help how you feel.

I try hard to look after my well being by eating well, exercising, positive thinking. But it doesn't mean the whole thing doesn't still get me really down.

Why can't someone feel down and fed up without another person always coming along to tell them how they should count their blessings, shouldn't complain.

I think most of us acknowledge that there will always be someone worse off. Even the very worst off in this country are probably better off than people in certain other countries, or people who lived in the past.

But you can't help how you feel.

I try hard to look after my well being by eating well, exercising, positive thinking. But it doesn't mean the whole thing doesn't still get me really down.

@PJ6M

I'm at my desk from 8-5 with barely any breaks

Don't want to be unsympathetic, but this really is not what being overworked looks like.

Last week I worked 9am-7pm Monday to Thursday. Then 10am-10pm Friday, Saturday and Sunday. Now I've got a normal 9-5 week ahead. I haven't had a day off since the 5th of July.

And I bet despite all the long hours and extremely hard work I've done, there's someone else who's done more and worked harder (NHS staff probably)

Not trying to be mean, but it's good to have some perspective when you're feeling down.

8-5 is not a bad hand to be dealt.

Oh dear, someone moaning about 8-5, the thing is 8-5 with kids in tow is a long day, just because you're stupid enough to work 10-10 it doesn't make you a harder work. 8-5 could be more intense work than 10-10 work, perspective.

Honestly, some people are proper martyrs, people are entitled to moan and be peed off!!

Was chatting with friends about this at the weekend. We are all feeling totally miserable now and as though there is no hope. We put it down to everything being so "normal" yet so "not normal", all the questionning our own and everyone else's actions, boredom, etc...

I totally agree @wobblywibble. Just when you think things are getting better there's more crap.

I'm really really down. Struggling to see any positives and i feel conned as it was not sold to us as months and months of this.

Yes, 8-5 of intense work, sandwiched between childcare, cooking, cleaning and everything else, is hard work. There’s really no need for competitive martyring and a ‘race to the bottom’ approach.

@QueenofmyPrinces

I thought the whole point of lockdown was to flatten a curve but now we seem obsessed with eradicating Covid, how bloody long will that take?

I completely agree.

I also agree with this. I've been fed up with it for weeks.

I am fed up of the scaremongering and policy rules made up on the back of a fag packet. I was in favour of lockdown. It had a purpose. Now, it's random, inconsistent rules based on science (?) that is not shared with the public. I read that face coverings may be useful in controlling spread so they are now mandatory but I am yet to see a study or evidence to this effect and separates out clearly the role masks play rather than SD or hand washing, or compares the effectiveness of an incorrectly used mask against no mask.

@EmMac7 enough with the scaremongering - where do you get the idea that there is long-term maiming? And we don't have an accurate idea of death rate as we don't know how many people have had Covid yet

I know what you mean OP. It's hit me more as we start to be able to get out more. I felt ridiculously emotional today watching my son chat with his barber, both in masks, and realising that it's the most face to face conversation he's had with anyone outside the family for 4 months and wondering when it's going to end. Feel very despondent today.

@Chaosreigns123

Why can't someone feel down and fed up without another person always coming along to tell them how they should count their blessings, shouldn't complain.

I think most of us acknowledge that there will always be someone worse off. Even the very worst off in this country are probably better off than people in certain other countries, or people who lived in the past.

But you can't help how you feel.

I try hard to look after my well being by eating well, exercising, positive thinking. But it doesn't mean the whole thing doesn't still get me really down.

Agree!

There was a thread like this the other week where someone chastised us all because they'd been to Nepal, and despite poverty etc, apparently Nepalese people smile all the time, and we should be more like that.

Yep. I'm crying more as I realise we're probably stuck here until next spring. Can't visit family and maybe only a handful of outdoor days out.

@megletthesecond

Where are you? I thought travel was ok now!

Yes I'm fed up, it's reflected in my covid name change.

Yes. I could've written your post op.
I've very much just been getting on with it but these last 2 weeks have been so hard and I don't know why.

Honestly, I feel properly depressed and just getting out of bed in the morning leaves me exhausted.
I'm not sleeping well suddenly and I just have no motivation for anything.
I'm so incredibly bored it's almost painful.

@OverTheRainbow88 England. But we can't stay with family as they're vulnerable. I can't afford to pay for anywhere.

@megletthesecond
Could you stay with friends for a change of scenery ? Go on day trips to beaches, so
many amazing walks to do in England, not sure if you have kids but most zoos etc have opened, playgrounds, museums, pretty much everything has opened.

@RoryGilmoresEvilTwin

I wonder if the last few weeks are the hardest as everything is starting to open again, so avoiding it makes it harder as you know others are doing it. Whereas before I wasn’t getting FOMO as no one was doing fun stuff?

For me it's getting worse as the kids are breaking up for hols and yet I'm still working from home neglecting them whilst doing so, it's frying my brain with guilt, trying to be a worker and a cater in the same 4 walls, it's not a life, it's a sentence

[quote OverTheRainbow88]@RoryGilmoresEvilTwin

I wonder if the last few weeks are the hardest as everything is starting to open again, so avoiding it makes it harder as you know others are doing it. Whereas before I wasn’t getting FOMO as no one was doing fun stuff?[/quote]
We're shielding here and haven't been out to the shops, or doing any of the other things that have opened up, and in some ways it's easier because you don't get to see it.

Although hearing neighbours having parties in their gardens is a bit hard.

I joined mumsnet today because I'm 28 weeks pregnant and we've been through a lot to get here and today I'm really struggling with the lockdown. We haven't had the oohs and ahhs you get when your bump starts showing at work and no one has felt baby kick except me and my husband. He's not been allowed in any scans or midwife appointments and who knows if he'll be allowed in for the birth if the second wave starts in October. All the bump social groups in my area are closed and now the risks to women in the third trimester are clearer and the rate of infection is increasing, I have decided to stay away from my weekly craft group which only started up again a few weeks ago. Once our little one is born, grandparents and friends can't come and give him a cuddle, we can't pop along to social baby groups.

I'm sad today but it will pass tomorrow. What I do know is that this will possibly be my only post on mumsnet because this thread is so aggressive. In a truly unprecedented time when people should be pulling together, so many of you are pulling each other apart and I don't think I want to be a part of that.

Everyone is in a different situation and affected by different things in different ways and the opportunity to vent is important. I wish you all the best and I really hope you get the support for whatever challenges you're personally facing xx