Anyone else feeling really fed up?

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Before I start pleased don't reply with "but we've got to save lives" I get it but this isn't what this thread is about!

For the last week I've been feeling a deep sense of bleugh and couldn't put my finger on why. I've started running again in a bid to cheer myself up and healthy eating but nothing has helped. My husband and I have good jobs and touch wood, we're not at risk losing them thank goodness. DS is back at nursery and loving it. So all that combined I should be happy, but I'm really not.

I woke up today and really thought, what's the point? Whilst in a good job, it's pretty stressful and I'm at my desk from 8-5 with barely any breaks (I'm trying to stop that but hard when meetings are just shoved in the calendar). I'm used to travelling with work but won't be doing that again....great!

The weekends are a write off because everywhere you go there's a queue and even the joy of a trip to the supermarket has been taken away because of bloody face masks.

So what is the point? We're basically turning into some kind of socialist/communist society where we work but can do nothing else and are dictated to about what we can and can't do. This wasn't what I signed up for.

I thought the whole point of lockdown was to flatten a curve but now we seem obsessed with eradicating Covid, how bloody long will that take? Why can't we now just use common sense? If you want to shield and stay away because you're vulnerable then do so. But what about those of us that just want to get on with their life and take the risk?

Probably more a bit of a rant but feeling in a very dark place and can't see a way out of it.

@IcedPurple

Various pharmas are claiming to have the cure or first vaccine so gullible people will snap up their shares.

There are over 150 vaccines being trialled.
There are many phases before being approved.
Phase 0 - pre-clinical accounts for 138 of the above vaccines
Phase 3 - Mass human testing. There are only 3 vaccines that are at this stage.

When phase 3 is finished they need to monitor side effects for a year before approval.

^ I should add they need to complete phase 1 and phase 2 successfully before moving to phase 3.

Various pharmas are claiming to have the cure or first vaccine so gullible people will snap up their shares.

The spokespeople for the Oxford vaccine research group aren't 'pharmas' and they have said that they are cautiously optimistic that their vaccine will be available by the end of the year.

@tobee

I'm wondering if we're all down or up at the same time? If there's a pattern to our moods.

A lot of it is weather related. Always seems worse when it's miserable out and better when it's nice.

Winter will be really tough.

Yes, constant low grade fed up here.

Months of anxiety, worry, uncertainty, anger at the way the pandemic has been managed by the govt, depression at the effect that it's having on many children and young people.

"You can't go under it, you can't go over it, you have to go through it," as a poet once said.

Winter will be really tough.

I think I'd cope better in winter to be honest, I'm a summer person and love to be out and about but even nipping to sodding Asda is hard work.

seb I am concerned that the vaccine situation is not being made public. It is beginning to now emerge that antibodies are disappearing after a short amount of time. It is becoming more obvious as front line medical staff that tested positive from covid a few months ago, now are tested for antibodies are now testing negative. This has huge implications for the success of any vaccine.

So whilst we were hearing about a vaccine being rolled out as early as the autumn one must now note that all reference now is firmly 'in the new year'. Which is why we are now seeing more focus on receptors.

I am not one to wallow in negativity, but I am concerned that we are a long way from a medical solution, I would love to be wrong.

my daughter turned a year beginning of June,i wanted to spend so much time with her.When my first daughter was a baby we never got to do anything fun really.Both my other half and i was unemployed.We barely made ends meet.Many years later we both work,have a good home and finally able to have a second child.For the first time we can really enjoy the time we have together.

I was really looking forward to making the most of this summer as we finally had the money to do so.I had asthma as a child so when i get chest infections i struggle.Meaning i have to stay in as much as possible. I feel robbed i was really looking forward to this summer

@DianaT1969 that's a totally wanky response and you know it. Most people don't have time to do a bit of yoga or chill out or pop out to a playground in the week as they are trying to hold down a job and childcare.
Lots of people don't have a car.
Lots of people are still shielding a vulnerable family member.
It's not us being stuck in our own rut it's following the guidelines we've been given and struggling with it mentally.
Your smug attitude lacks compassion and is extremely shortsighted. Glad you're having such a lovely time but really not everyone is and if you can't see that then you really need to have a look at yourself.

I agree about the vaccine as well @madbirdlady22 I think we are slowly being eased into the mindset that there won't be a vaccine for a very long time and we are just going to have to live with this

I just look at my child and wonder what sort of childhood she has to look forward to with all these restrictions

Same here op. I just feel that the joy has been sucked out of life i was struggling before the pandemic and was diagnosed with pnd and put on antidepressants. Had been doing so much better and even in lock down I was fairly good but I must admit I feel so sick of it all and yes I know compared to people who have lost their lives, those of loved ones and jobs I'm lucky. I fully appreciate that but I'm allowed to be sick of it. I'm allowed to feel like there's no end in sight and to acknowledge how shit it all is and to wish it would be normal again. I can feel those things and still feel compassion for other people who have it worse. What annoys me is the people who constantly say well it could be worse, suck it up ect. Where are the people back in February who were saying be kind you don't know what other people are going through ect. Is that not true now then should we all just shut up and put up. I know of two people who have committed suicide in the past few weeks. Both came as complete shock to their loved ones. Maybe if they hadn't been made to feel like their feelings weren't valid it may not have ended like that. Some jPeople are so ignorant about mental health!urgh sorry didn't mean this to turn into a rant. Hope you are OK op. Vent here anytime you want to. It's OK to be fed up. Xx

Also with you. I was kind of alright until they’ve decided to bring in masks NOW, just seems so pointless. I’m more terrified for the impending recession, I was 20 when the last one hit and feels like all my memory of life has been this country trying to pull itself out of recession. Not to mention no deal Brexit looming at the end of the year. We’re truly fucked.

Found out I was pregnant with long awaited first baby at the start of March, my entire pregnancy has been this and worrying what world I’m bringing him into. My household is relatively cushioned from the worst horrors for the meantime, but I don’t think only of myself.

I also do feel like the response has been so drawn out and messy and has ruined far more lives than it needed to. This government might be piling on the sweeteners now (that we’ll all suffer to pay back) but they’ve ruined us by dithering, getting everyone to panic they’re going to die and now trying to hurry everyone out. It’s a mess. Less than 1% of deaths have been in under 45s, but we’re going to suffer longer and louder from this.

@JudyGemstone I feel the same and work in a similar team. Looking at option B jobwise already.

@christinarossetti19

Yes, constant low grade fed up here.

Months of anxiety, worry, uncertainty, anger at the way the pandemic has been managed by the govt, depression at the effect that it's having on many children and young people.

"You can't go under it, you can't go over it, you have to go through it," as a poet once said.

Isn’t that from the book we are going on a bear hunt

Another one here feelings similar. I've been working full time throughout lockdown running a small business, but not able to go anywhere or do anything at weekends. Too knackered after work to decorate and I couldn't get paint anyway! Now I've had two weekends away cancelled and whilst people keep saying 'Just take a holiday' there is no conceivable way I can have a complete break from work for the rest of this year. So yes, I'm envious of those on furlough and those in our factory who are on full pay working little more than half their normal hours. And there is no end in sight apparently - I know of no-one who has contracted the virus, know anyone who knows anyone who has either had it or died from/with it so it all feels very remote to me.

We are being 'managed' peter from my perspective, they are slowly easing the idea that we are going to be living a very different life from now on, and for potentially a very long time.

We had the initial crisis management, and then the lockdown that was only supposed to be three weeks to ease the NHS burden - that went on for months. Now we are in July and the lockdown feels to be continuing in a very similar way, abeit just adjusted slightly to allow the economy to restart, and that is all. For most people precious little has changed in a real sense. We were led to believe the easing of lockdown was imminent and we would rush out and enjoy life once more, this was false advertising and a mistake (Designed to encourage us to spend money I suspect) the reality is very far from liberation in any capacity.

We have since seen the failure of track and trace, I don't blame anyone for this, but it is not up and running. The antibody certificate to free us all is non starter as they seem to diminish in time, and indeed the vaccine is now going to be far from straight forward. We are running out of options as far as a I can see, for any return to normal. I expect the real investment now needs to be made with the treatment of covid, rather than the obliteration. We stand a better chance of getting somewhere fast with that solution at least, and although it won't work for everyone, I am thinking this is the way it will go now, as disappointing as it is. In the meantime, we are slowly sitting in the water, as the frog once did as the water gradually heats up.

Because the government knows, as many of us do, that the real punchline of this horrible virus is yet to come. The mother of all winters means we should all be preparing for what will happen with the second wave, and get our lives and plans in order in the meantime.

@Calmandsteady

was discussing this with my husband yesterday and saying how there's just so little joy in what you can do now as there's restraints all the way ! my DF has been in a hospital and a care home for last 12 weeks and the isolation of not being able to see family has really taken its toll on his health and increased our worry and stress for him. I don't get how carers can go home each day and mix then go back into a care home environment to work yet relatives who have isolated pretty much can't go and visit with socially distancing. its all very depressing and don't understand why we are now having get more hardcore by wearing masks when you would expect things to be lightening up ! rant over

The thing with care homes is just about reducing all contact that isn't a necessity so overall reduces risk . There may be one family who is pretty much isolating but another family who include supermarket and NHS workers so lots of contact. The home has to have one rule for all families.

The care assistants are providing necessary care so no choice .

I've been having video contact with my mum who has dementia. The home opened to visitors a couple of weeks ago and I planned to visit next week. Unfortunately they now have a Covid case and they are all back isolating .

me too. Now depressed. I've absolutely no faith in this government to make the right decisions. I've found lockdown hard in the summer, I am absolutely dreading the winter tbh

I'm SO fed up. DH was been made redundant due to Covid last week. We have a very nearly 2 year old and a baby due in January. One of my favourite local soft play businesses has had to close permanently as they got no support. I'm tired, demotivated and not going out enough as I can't must up the energy to do outdoors stuff all the time. I'm sick of Zoom. I miss my choir, I miss taking DD to classes and I miss doing my job properly (teacher. Even in September it won't be normal as we'll be in bubbles etc). I miss having the option to have several people in the house at once. I hate that we all have to wear a mask (I'm very pro masks, it just makes me so sad that it's normal now). Thoroughly fed up.

I have about one off day a week. Today is it, I think due to the fact I work at a school and I'm not really comfortable with the return plans in September. I have a second job with known redundancies announced which probably doesn't help. Missed our time slot for a holiday.

Very lucky in that DH's job is secure whatever even though it's been redefined and not what he spent three years getting a qualification for. Took a trip down to Next earlier and bought some summer trousers that fit - DH might have to take me out for lunch so I can wear them, ah but our local is only serving drinks with the option of taking your own food!!

Here's a (crappy) virtual hug for anyone who needs, however big or small your problem is. Even if it's opposite to someone elses problem.

The vast majority are finding life unbalanced for a prolonged and indefinite period. Of course that's having an effect. Insipid or bad weather does end up grinding people under the weather.

I hit my lowest in June. Life still hadn't substantially changed since March. July has been better as I've been able to get the kids out doing something different for a couple of days a week. This week, a second week of dull weather, plus having my reasons for not being pro-masks has been a bit of a dip again. Plus end-of-termitis when there's the guilt of two weeks homeschool to go and no energy left. I want to run, but I need to see my osteopath first. I crave time alone.

And I know my life is good compared to many. But the things that keep me busy and purposeful are still not avaliable to me and I'm not good with an abyss of time.

Whatever is going on in our heads and lives, it's so important to recognise and acknowledge it and no one should be belittled for their emotions.

I was saying to a friend earlier that although the initial stages of lockdown were hard, I've found the last month harder.

DS left primary school this week and although we made the best of it coronavirus has ruined a proper send off, DH's 'secure" job is now under threat and god knows whether I will have the job I love this time next year.

At the beginning the focus was getting the pandemic over and done with and it's the looming recession that is frightening the fuck out of me now.

Luckily we both work in London where you could argue jobs are more plentiful but fuck knows how this is all going to pan out.

I'm trying to make the most of the summer before the cold weather inevitably leads to another lockdown in the autumn. Outdoor holiday club booked for a week for the DCs. Local zoo is open although you do have to book ahead. I had a refund on a short break so rebooked for early September. Friends coming round this weekend for a bbq, got a nice box of meat from the butcher to cook.

Little things to look forward to make all the difference.

Personally I had a low point about a month ago when I realised we're in this for the long haul. It's undeniably shit.