Anyone else feeling really fed up?

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Before I start pleased don't reply with "but we've got to save lives" I get it but this isn't what this thread is about!

For the last week I've been feeling a deep sense of bleugh and couldn't put my finger on why. I've started running again in a bid to cheer myself up and healthy eating but nothing has helped. My husband and I have good jobs and touch wood, we're not at risk losing them thank goodness. DS is back at nursery and loving it. So all that combined I should be happy, but I'm really not.

I woke up today and really thought, what's the point? Whilst in a good job, it's pretty stressful and I'm at my desk from 8-5 with barely any breaks (I'm trying to stop that but hard when meetings are just shoved in the calendar). I'm used to travelling with work but won't be doing that again....great!

The weekends are a write off because everywhere you go there's a queue and even the joy of a trip to the supermarket has been taken away because of bloody face masks.

So what is the point? We're basically turning into some kind of socialist/communist society where we work but can do nothing else and are dictated to about what we can and can't do. This wasn't what I signed up for.

I thought the whole point of lockdown was to flatten a curve but now we seem obsessed with eradicating Covid, how bloody long will that take? Why can't we now just use common sense? If you want to shield and stay away because you're vulnerable then do so. But what about those of us that just want to get on with their life and take the risk?

Probably more a bit of a rant but feeling in a very dark place and can't see a way out of it.

Hey @Alana1984. Just wanted to wish you and your bump well. There are still some supportive threads but they do seem few and far between at the moment. Personally speaking the absence of any baby groups may be a positive thing - you can just enjoy being at home with your little 'un and lots of cuddles

@deblou47 feel free to use it whenever you are upset 😃

For what it's worth and from me Alana. It's not a fun time for first time mums and I don't think your feelings are at all trivial.

@OverTheRainbow88
Yes that could be it.
Mine and ds lives haven't particularly changed from the beginning of lockdown but I know many people going on holidays/planning holidays/having days out etc.

It all just feels very hard right now but we're taking it one crappy day at a time.

The worst is when you see the light dim in your child. The day she skipped back into school was when I realised quite how much she had been affected.

Yes when DS went back to school for a week he was so full of life and happy. I thought we’d been muddling along ok. But seeing him like that for just a week made me realise what he’d missed.

I can cope day to day, but the struggle is not knowing when it's going to end and having nothing to look forward to.

I've already written off this year and this winter, I just hope i'm not dragged back into the office, risking a debilitating illness, so Pret can sell more sandwiches. But i'm hoping for some kind of back to normal summer next year.

loved getting up each morning, doing my hair and make-up, putting some nice clothes on and going out.
Now, I wake up and can barely drag myself out of bed for another day looking at 4 walls.

I feel exactly the same. I don’t know if I’m depressed or not but at first, when it seemed like it was going to be temporary, I was pretty good at motivating myself to go for a run or a walk but I’m struggling now. I think it’s because there doesn’t seem to be an end point in sight.

Very very very. The classes and swimming I usually do to keep my back healthy i haven't been able to. So I now have a slipped disc and it's fucking excruciating. And it means I won't be able to go on our one little holiday.

Alana, just use Mumsnet for the good bits and try not to get put off by the squabbling. It has been so useful as a resource for me, but I hardly ever actually post. Good luck with the new baby.

I’m sorry for everyone feeling down. I feel quite positive, life is starting to get back to normal. i’m going back to work full time in the office next week, pubs and shops are open (I know mask on next week, I don’t mind as long as I can go out) holiday booked in August to look forward to. friends coming for a bbq, also visiting a couple of friends in the garden next week, hair appointment booked. Life is looking positive. I am a bit worried about winter as flu season and Covid is not a good combination so going to make the most of summer and enjoy every minute before we lock ourselves away for winter.

*I thought the whole point of lockdown was to flatten a curve but now we seem obsessed with eradicating Covid
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I knew this was bullshit when they made countries with no proper national health service lockdown.

None of it makes any sense and there has been no genuine transparency this whole time.

@TazSyd

*loved getting up each morning, doing my hair and make-up, putting some nice clothes on and going out. Now, I wake up and can barely drag myself out of bed for another day looking at 4 walls.*

I feel exactly the same. I don’t know if I’m depressed or not but at first, when it seemed like it was going to be temporary, I was pretty good at motivating myself to go for a run or a walk but I’m struggling now. I think it’s because there doesn’t seem to be an end point in sight.

Same.

Been up and down like a yo-yo - or as others have said, riding the Coronacoaster - these past 4 months. Was feeling OK last week, but now am down in the dumps again.

I used to love little things like picking out my outfit for the day, deciding which perfume suited my mood that day, and the banter with colleagues at the office. Now sat in front of my computer at home all day every day ... what really is the point? There's nothing to look forward to, none of the buzz and rhythm of normal life. You're just the same person all day every day. I hate that.

I'm wondering if we're all down or up at the same time? If there's a pattern to our moods.

OP, I could have written your post. I am entering a deep depression and I never had issues before, I could always pick myself up through exercise or something else. This mandatory mask has put me over the edge. I sit at my computer working from 7-5 and just hate it all.
I am becoming resentful of people that wear masks, that keep saying " save lives". Fuck off, if you are scared stay the fuck home, you wear a mask! I don't need to put a mask on my 4 year old for you.
I think it's only going to get worse and theres only dark days ahead. I don't know how to stop the sense of doom, depression and anxiety.

Could have written this.

Had four years of pregnancy loss only to have my DS at Christmas and now I feel immeasurably sad when I look at him as I think wtf have I brought you into.

Everything seems flat, even the things we are allowed to do are now stressful.and anxiety inducing rather than enjoyable and relaxing.

I trust other people even less now having seen how some have behaved and judged, and life feels like a weird endless bleak monotony.

I too think the outlook for a vaccine is now less optimistic, and think we are slowly being eased into the idea that there might never be one and this is life now.

I feel like we are basically being shepherded into behaving a certain way to save this or that -nhs or economy etc - while our freedoms are gradually completely eroded. And when none of this works and we have a terrible second, third or fourth wave (Patrick Vallance has preecuted up.to 120k deaths over winter if we don't get prepared, but in the meantime we are being encouraged to eat out and mingle again) then the government will shrug and say well.we tried, because their advice had been so ridiculously.ambiguous and contradictory they can claim success whichever way it goes.

I don't know what's happened to me this week but instead of feeling like 'this too shall pass' I can't see how it will. If this is life now for a good long while, what's the point? There's nothing to look forward to.other than the vague hope of 'when this is all over' which considering how little has actually changed since March seems highly unlikely now.

Thanks OP, I needed to get all.that out.

I've been ok about this until July. When I say ok, I've been up and down but the reality is I don't have an exciting life and knowing others weren't leading exciting lives either,made me feel the same as everyone else. Then July arrived and I have hit a wall. I have missed concerts, holidays, family members, but my children have missed school, their friends and their hobbies. My DH was made redundant a couple of months ago and we have tried to stay optimistic. He thought he'd have no problem finding another job, but despite spending seven hours a day applying for roles, he isn't having any luck at all. We had hoped to move house within the next year or so and that is now looking even more unlikely. My children get excited when they go to a shop to choose sweets - mundane, everyday things have now become major events in their lives. I'm sick of it all, the stress, the boredom, the anxiety, the constant discussion about schools opening or not, the restricted activities, wearing masks, just everything. Looking back to March when life was normal seems both like yesterday and years ago. The past few months have passed in a daze of existing instead of living. I hate this virus and the impact this virus has had on the world.

Hang in there. We all have our moments of despair, but this too shall pass.

Apparently there are over a hundred vaccines in the pipeline and three that are successfully in the last stage of tests.

We've all got to find ways of looking after our mental health and the mental health of our children meanwhile.

Why don't you do more at the weekend? Get in the car, drive to a quiet beach. Have a picnic, playgrounds are open again. Family cycle ride and meet friends and family for a socially distanced walk. Family BBQ with whoever is in your bubble. Read a good book, do yoga, take up tennis or golf, get riding lessons... Travel abroad if you want. Eurostar and Paris this weekend? The list is endless. You are stuck in your own rut.

Yep. The ridiculous way the government has handled this has not helped either.
What exactly is the point of months down the line now bro g told you must wear a face mask on shops but can do as you please in pubs?
There are huge restrictions on weddings leading to massive job losses yet when I passed on pub there must have been 30 cars in the car park. So that's 30 households plus all those who had walked there, say 15. So 45 households not wearing masks all together yet a bride and groom cannot have a proper wedding reception.
There was fighting in a local pub yet that is still allowed to stay open.
It's a total shambles.
I have said before how long can we all suffer to protect everyone from covid?
I think the time has to come where it's down to personal choice.
We each make a decision.
If you suffer from sunburn you don't expect everyone else to stay out of the sun.
I know it's a skewed analogy but we cannot continue like this.
The economy cannot support this situation.
Schools can't stay closed. Businesses can't stay closed.

The impact on mental health down the line will be huge.
Also why is it ok for a man to go to the barber's and have his eyebrows dine, yet female criticisms can't open? Men can have the same procedure which a woman cant. Totally shambolic.
Where is Borris Johnson?I
Why is he not addressing the nation?
Who is going to pay the huge government debt?
Will it be yet another thing piled on the average Joe to foot the bill?
No wonder people are fed up.
Who exactly are we protecting here?

Beauticians.

@DianaT1969

Why don't you do more at the weekend? Get in the car, drive to a quiet beach. Have a picnic, playgrounds are open again. Family cycle ride and meet friends and family for a socially distanced walk. Family BBQ with whoever is in your bubble. Read a good book, do yoga, take up tennis or golf, get riding lessons... Travel abroad if you want. Eurostar and Paris this weekend? The list is endless. You are stuck in your own rut.

This is rather judgemental and not helpful.

I think you may want to work on your emotional intelligence @DianaT1969! I think those who don't understand why others feel rather differently have a lot to learn about people.

@emilybrontescorsett

The problem is the sunburn analogy isn't just skewed it is completely inapplicable.

Sunburn isn't contagious is it!

I know but how long do you think this situation should go on for?