Anyone else feeling really fed up?

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Before I start pleased don't reply with "but we've got to save lives" I get it but this isn't what this thread is about!

For the last week I've been feeling a deep sense of bleugh and couldn't put my finger on why. I've started running again in a bid to cheer myself up and healthy eating but nothing has helped. My husband and I have good jobs and touch wood, we're not at risk losing them thank goodness. DS is back at nursery and loving it. So all that combined I should be happy, but I'm really not.

I woke up today and really thought, what's the point? Whilst in a good job, it's pretty stressful and I'm at my desk from 8-5 with barely any breaks (I'm trying to stop that but hard when meetings are just shoved in the calendar). I'm used to travelling with work but won't be doing that again....great!

The weekends are a write off because everywhere you go there's a queue and even the joy of a trip to the supermarket has been taken away because of bloody face masks.

So what is the point? We're basically turning into some kind of socialist/communist society where we work but can do nothing else and are dictated to about what we can and can't do. This wasn't what I signed up for.

I thought the whole point of lockdown was to flatten a curve but now we seem obsessed with eradicating Covid, how bloody long will that take? Why can't we now just use common sense? If you want to shield and stay away because you're vulnerable then do so. But what about those of us that just want to get on with their life and take the risk?

Probably more a bit of a rant but feeling in a very dark place and can't see a way out of it.

I think people need to be able to vent. It’s good for mental hearth to share how we are feeling. It is bloody depressing and stressful trying to work at home, homeschool kids , keep on top of the house. With nothing to look forward to. I’ve been going to bed at 9 as I’m so bored, then I can’t sleep and just lie there. It’s awful.

We all know that people have died and are continuing to die but that doesn’t change how people are feeling on a day to day basis and doesn’t mean they don’t care about that.

@Livpool

Not dead!

I would have cause for complaint if I was

Hey someone would be worse off even if you was dead. Imagine being dead and your coffin falling open at your funeral and a stray dog started to eat your corpse?

Or you was hit by a steam roller and survived only to be then immediately choke on a cheese sandwich? Theres always someone worse off.

It's a competition of rightouness where your feelings dont matter because some saint knows someone is worse off so never themselves feels anything but pure joy.

So on the positive side

TUI have 6k of my cash! At least I'm not dead yippie!
My son didn't sit his GCSEs! At least I'm not dead! Get the bubbly out!
My local soft play company folded and made 15 peoejobless! I bet when they heard that they all clapped and laughed in unison "at least were not dead!"
I'm off to sing and dance with jazz hands now as school shit two weeks early due to covid...

Shit? Shut

Freudian slip......

I also am going to bed really early as there is nothing to do! I also now sometimes just sit down and do nothing. Never would have done that before!

Yep going to bed early too - I am either in the kitchen working or in living room so I just go to bed.

At least I am alive though 🥳

We could just shut down the whole of AIBU with this argument.

Answer every thread with ‘At least you’re not dead, stop whining’.

Try that with depressed, suicidal people. I’m
sure it would work.

The months without meaningful contact with anyone outside the house had the effect of making me care even less about other people I think. Its really not an all in this together situation, the effects on different people have been really different

Someone up thread actually mentioned feeling suicidal about this all, you know if you need to vent, you can do it here.. let all the judgy knickers judge, normal people agree with how you are feeling x

@Livpool that made me lol

It is depressing but in reality we still have so much to be grateful for. Shelter, food, family. So many people all over the world don't have these and would love to be in our position. It's all about our perspective. I think alot of the problems are in our head how we are viewing things as the end of the world. We need to focus on what we do have and practise being more grateful. I get days too when I feel like things are pointless but I'd much rather be here living in this situation than seeing my children starving as many mothers are experiencing right now across the world. Instead of spending on more things we don't need it would be better if we spent on charity to others who need help. Maybe we could volunteer to help others in our society who we are able to. Taking the focus off ourselves and focussing on how we can be of service is the answer.

@Spinakker

It is depressing but in reality we still have so much to be grateful for. Shelter, food, family. So many people all over the world don't have these and would love to be in our position. It's all about our perspective. I think alot of the problems are in our head how we are viewing things as the end of the world. We need to focus on what we do have and practise being more grateful. I get days too when I feel like things are pointless but I'd much rather be here living in this situation than seeing my children starving as many mothers are experiencing right now across the world. Instead of spending on more things we don't need it would be better if we spent on charity to others who need help. Maybe we could volunteer to help others in our society who we are able to. Taking the focus off ourselves and focussing on how we can be of service is the answer.

In an ideal world we'd all be doing nice things like charity work.

I'm afraid in the current world, whilst I might be lucky enough to be working, my job is so stressful I'm parenting badly, prior to covid letting your kids go feral whilst you worked would see you strung up, now it's ok!!

I barely have time to prepare/eat decent food as I'm too busy trying to do it all. I'm sure I'm not alone.

There aren't so many ways to make a difference to other people when we've got to social distance. We aren't supposed to hug or invite someone in for tea for example. We've just been left to stew alone for months.

We’re living in an impossible period, living through what hopefully will be a unique time in history. So strange to think how we everything we knew changed one day in March.
We can only do the next we can and look forward to a time when we can experience more joy.
It’s survival - with the help of dairy milk/ wine and dreaming of holidays.

I normally do voluntary work.but even that turned into a pita.

I'm a school governor and have had to stop until September due to the head saying we would have blood on out hands if we followed Gov guidelines to accodate key worker and vulnerable kids.

That's what stinks the most. The polarised views and always being smeared at and judged what ever you do

Yanbu.

I have little to complain about really. But it feels like all the joy has been sucked out of life.

Sure we can do more now, but there's always that black cloud of coronavirus hanging around.

I am guessing that the vaccine is not going to be available any time soon, and we are gearing up for years and years of covid waves.

I was initially optimistic about the vaccine, but everything is pointing towards a treatment based solution which is no solution at all if you are seriously ill.

I think you are right to feel depressed and sad, I can't see any part of my life I actually enjoy at the moment either. Even my hairdressing experience was horrible. Surrounded by visors and sanitiser. The joy of human contact has gone, and with it most of the things that make us happy. Sorry op.

was discussing this with my husband yesterday and saying how there's just so little joy in what you can do now as there's restraints all the way ! my DF has been in a hospital and a care home for last 12 weeks and the isolation of not being able to see family has really taken its toll on his health and increased our worry and stress for him. I don't get how carers can go home each day and mix then go back into a care home environment to work yet relatives who have isolated pretty much can't go and visit with socially distancing. its all very depressing and don't understand why we are now having get more hardcore by wearing masks when you would expect things to be lightening up ! rant over

Well lots of things have changed from the first few weeks. Herd immunity- remember that! Well now they discover we don't get long term immunity so that's out. It's not great. It's certainly not a laugh a minute but hey life is shit. Get used to it.

Lucky because we both have jobs but I'm feeling caged working from home with the same four walls and same people. I used to travel regularly with work and I miss that. Miss the interaction and different scenery.

I miss impulsive meet up with city friends. Living rurally was wonderful in deep lockdown but now I feel stuck, working from here for the foreseeable. My husband seems to think its fine and just the kids being home thats hard. So if I arrange social stuff I get guilted; feels like years of breaking down barriers and getting myself back have vanished and my lot now is wife, mother, domestic goddess, home administrator, cleaner, gardener, shopper, meal planner and with none of the fleeting freedoms with friends that made my life worth living. Another 6-9 months of this and I will go under.

I’ve utterly had it. The rage inside is giving my heartburn. We are like a massive herd of sheep with a small farming elite telling us ‘If you’re good sheep and let us shear you [of all life’s pleasures], we’ll let you out in the [sh*t-filled] pasture for a bit. But don’t forget we are masters of the gate.’

I'm feeling fed up! Ds is at school, dh back to work as normal and I'm just stuck in the house on my own all the time trying to work. I miss my colleagues, my office and nipping out for a quick latte. Our rebooked holiday (rearranged to next year from this) has just been cancelled and needs rearranging again. Can't start making long-term plans for anything because we don't know whether there will be a second wave, what the rules will be in future etc. I know I'm lucky, we're healthy, kept our jobs, ds got to go back to school but I just want my life back!

Completely agree OP. I’m ‘lucky’ in that I can work from home, but I’ve realised that I really hate home-working! I get over anxious and worry about things in a way that I don’t do in the office when surrounded by colleagues.

And while I can rationalise and understand some things like cancelled holidays, having to explain to two young kids that they’re now not going to Disneyland Paris for example is tough.

I don’t really get what the long term strategy can be. The curve is well and truly flattened, and so... now what? I don’t even understand what the long term strategy of ‘successful’ countries like New Zealand can be. Yes, they’ve eliminated the virus but at the cost of cutting themselves off from the rest of the world, not to mention completely destroying their tourism industry.

And don’t even get me started on the impossibility of home-schooling with two working parents...

No I'm not fed up at all and what's the point if you are unable to change anything. It's best to live as well as one can and enjoy what one can. Waking up every morning is a good start when so many have died. I'm happy to go from there.

Agree - had enough. Actually feel beaten down now and wake up every day with a sense of dread.

Stop looking for someone to blame.

It’s a pandemic, a nasty virus that might only kill 1% but leaves a significant portion long-term maimed. A virus we’re not sure anyone acquires lasting immunity to.

Everyone, everywhere (except NZ, who were astute enough to raise the drawbridge quickly and eliminated it) is going through this same hell. Be thankful you don’t live in the US or Brazil, where the leadership continues to minimise the risk and caused an even worse clusterfuck.

There are no easy answers to this, no quick fixes. A vaccine will take time. If we relax restrictions, give up on suppression, the thing will spike again and we’ll be back in lockdown.