Spoke to my assistant last night as I am getting him back on Monday! I would like to say he was really excited but he wasnt! He doesnt "do" change. He'll be fine once he gets back into the rhythm of things.
Thags great news. Its shame it had to get to that point but I am so happy for you. He will be fine, like you said, it just takes some time.
I am glad you had somewhere to rant. This thread has helped me so much. Not sure what state I am would be in without it.
To my shame I dont think I fully realised how hard dps hearing loss for him was. He missed so much of conversations. Having to ask people to repeat themselves, explain that he had hearing loss was inoacting his confidence. But I suppose, its not my experience, so I couldn't fully understand.
I think it made him feel on the outside. He often only joined in conversations on a superficial level, or made himself busy elsewhere. Becauee he couldnt follow it. I do know that in his last job one supervisor used to treat him as though he was stupid, rather than deaf.
Yesterday I realised how long its been since he has been genuiely, happy.
We are OK. We had decides he was staying off work until this was over, due to his health. But he is applying for jobs. I can handle the kids and working now my team are back. It will take pressure off me.
He said we need to stop just saying 'its ok, we will get through this' and start living a normal life again.
He isnt moving in, but spends alot of time with us. We will be OK. I can just see i am getting my lovely dp back. The person he was before he lost his hearing, before he lost his job and had the scans hanging over him. I have bloody missed him.
I finally feel like this bloody oandemic hasn't ruined my life. 