Competitive staying home

[Thepigeonsarecoming]

Have you stayed at home for 5 million years? Have you only left the house to shop for an elderly ladies milk but posted it all over social media? Did you shame your neighbour because their daughter visited them despite being their carer? Did you post abuse because one of your neighbours didn’t clap/stand silent/launch fireworks at the appointed time?

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You sound angry OP.

Maybe best for your stress levels to calm down just a nad and stop lecturing....puts me off reading your posts.

I get you OP too. Fortunately where I live apart from a bit of clapping on Thursday there is no Performance Isolating. People just nod and smile at each other if they meet in the street then get on with whatever they are doing.

Definitely come off social media, it is full of all the shit you're talking about, but why keep going back to it if it's having this effect. So much wingeing on MN is about .Fakebook and how it pisses people off but does it stop people continuing to digest all that garbage?....

Was it Einstein who said something about the definition of stupid is doing the same thing over and over, and expecting a different result....

I get you @Thepigeonsarecoming

My aunts all live on the same street. One of them spied my mother (her sister) going into another sisters house. Messaged me and threatened to report her.

The aunt she visited had fallen over. Her husband had pneumonia at the beginning of the year and is still too weak to help get her up. Nosey aunt, who works for the NHS, thinks that wasn't a good reason to go. Apparently, she should have remained on the floor until an ambulance turned up. Which could have been hours.

I explained this to nosey aunt. Turns out, she reported them anyway. The aunt that fell over had a visit and a 'friendly warning' from a police officer. Its really upset my mum and my aunt.

I have complained to the police, since it was entirely within guidelines. All 3 people present are sheilded and haven't left their houses for weeks. Mum drove there, from 2 streets away. Got her up and left. Her husband called 111.

But its OK. Because Nosey Aunt, feels she follows the guidelines better than anyone else. She is morally supwrior because she thought an elderly lady should be left in the floor.

Its ridiculous. Compassion has gone out of the window for some and as long as they can say they follow the rules better than everyone else

I totally get you and agree with you. Competitive staying at home and all that.
Get off social media, it's a load of crap. And you are right about the fireworks...clapping the NHS is one thing, but saucepans, fireworks and bagpipes, not necessary. Fortunately round here no-one claps anyway.
And everyone should have a choice, it is dreadful that people are being "shamed" just because they didn't clap, they will have all sorts of valid reasons....

Just stay off SM. You automatically remove a lot of dickheads from your life by doing that.

If you loiter around the MN forums, unfortunately you will encounter even more of that. It did irritate me, but the people who wear a mask in their own home when they live alone make me laugh now - they are bonkers!

Gawd, miserable bunch round your way @Wanderingmilly, what's not to like about saucepans and bagpipes

one of the most shocking things about this whole situation is how some people have been behaving. Such a total lack of compassion or empathy or even humanity. and yet at the same time, these same people posting bloody rainbows all over fb and virtue signalling over all social media.
Its actually really really sad watching this and the effect it then has on other people's mental health.

Lynda07
No you're biggest achievement is pedantry

@PhoebeBear I hope you managed to get some sleep. It's really hard having a new baby, particularly in the current situation. No one minds you talking about your family, I'm sure. Of course you are worried about them.

OP was saying that there are people who rant at others either on here or on social media if they feel someone isn't following their interpretation of the rules.

I think along with many others, that it's best for everyone to look after their own, do their bit and ignore what others are doing. The current witch hunt on social media/ MN is unpleasant, unnecessary and quite often, unfounded. It's causing strangers, neighbours and friends to turn on each other.

Enjoy spending time with your beautiful new baby.

Definitely come off social media, it is full of all the shit you're talking about, but why keep going back to it

But social media is a tool, why should people come off it.
Just for the record I've snoozed about 300 people on Facebook but still see competitive isolation memes and how people clapped for me in the supermarket when they realised I'm a paramedic and look at the rainbow little Johnny made for my window.
If I snooze the other 400 friends it will make Facebook pointless but quiet I guess.

Who's doing this to you though? I haven't left my house since end of March. I tell people but not because I'm proud because it's so utterly dull it's the only thing I've got left to say!
If someone's out and about for good reason I can't see the problem. I definitely think some people are 'making up any old excuse' to get out though because they're not capable of staying home for that long.
My neighbours one of these. Was an absolute arse before this. Now magically concerned for any old person he sets his eyes on lest they need him to 'pop out' for them. Even for me. I'm 33 and perfectly healthy so it's pretty obvious.

I completely get you op, our local community Facebook page is full of ranty posts shaming people who are actually following the guidance. Often with photos.

And posts about how they themselves have done something really basic like given a pint of milk to an elderly neighbor - designed to elicit the maximum 'well done hun ur amazing' type of responses.

Tuesdays they post about which streets did/ didn't have a good enough (in their view) number of folk standing outside clapping for carers. With video.

Lockdown seems to have bought out the absolute worst in some people.

Milk ...exactly what you said....!

thepigeonsarecoming

The only social media i do to any great extent is mumsnet but ive absolutely seen what you are talking about on here

Ive also sent a generic ‘how are you’ text to some friends and was quite surprised at their replies

I spoke to a friend yesterday who were complaining (nicely, they weren’t being mean) about the cars on the road being evidence of mass flouting which I don’t think it is completely. But people want evidence of rule breakers cos then its their ‘fault’ this is happening and continuing

I think there is less shaming as the weeks have gone on to be honest. Those that were shaming people are starting to see the error of ther ways.

I don't think its a our social media.

Though social media is where it plays out.

Its about the fact that so many people, see this as an excuse to have a go at people.

They find their judging is now acceptable and intact makes them morally superior.

Whats worse, is that its often supported.

These people were always like that, but just hid it. Now they think they are a better person for it.

Haven't had any direct experience of what you are talking about OP fortunately. There are some people it seems though that are loving the chance to be officious and bossy about other people's behaviour. I do worry that some of the neighbours are judging us about stuff but we are sticking to the letter of the law - they don't know the full picture of our situation.

Oh come on @PhoebeBear it's clearly a bit of fun. 🙄

No one in history has ever calmed down by being told to "calm down".

Just sayin'

@PrincessConsueIaBananaHammock Calm down

Pinkginhelps You calm down!🤣

thepigeonsarecoming
You are right. Some of the posts on here have been vile. People in desperate need of support being told they are "one of those people who use any excuse to break the rules and are responible for murdering people". People falling over themselves to tell others that everyones circunstances are the same, there is no reason for anyone to be out thier house more than once a fortnight yadda yadda same old shit. Suicidal? Suck it up thats no excuse to need help.

People reporting neighbours for going out when they have no idea that they are volunteering, looking after vulnerable relatives, home carers, nurses etc. Compassion and empathy has left the building in the race to win the 'i am so much better at this than you and i want the world to know' award.

One of the scariest things about this is the realisation that people are frothing at the mouth to have a chance to try and control others who have nothing to do with them nor are affecting them in any way and thier enthusiasm for 'reporting' anyone who doesnt conforn to thier totally made up rules. Thats an echo from the past and a bloody dangerous trait in any society.

CoronaZillas the lot of them.