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Grandchildren are next-door!!!

299 replies

Redwoodmaz · 04/04/2020 13:30

I am fuming. I haven't seen my son [27] since before lockdown.
And our nextdoor neighbours have their adult children and grandchildren in their garden!!!
What don't they understand about 'Don't visit family or friends who don't live with you" ????

If the bloody football comes over the fence they're not having it back. Angry

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Carbosug · 04/04/2020 15:17

Behaving in a way that's endangering.....

Coyoacan · 04/04/2020 15:17

I agree that people shouldn't breaking the spirit of the advice, but be kind to them as they are taking such foolish risks with their lives, they may not around for long.

Nanny0gg · 04/04/2020 15:17

I don't care what others do tbh, their funeral.

Well, that's not the brightest comment I've seen on here.

MrsTerryPratchett · 04/04/2020 15:18

If you saw a driver getting into a car who was clearly so drunk they could barely stand up would you just go off and light a candle?

God no. I'd come and slag them off on MN. Safety first!

Carbosug · 04/04/2020 15:20

That's not really answering the question @MrsTerryPratchett

ViciousJackdaw · 04/04/2020 15:21

be kind to them as they are taking such foolish risks with their lives

It's not just their lives though is it? They'll be going to other non-essential places too and how many people will they encounter along the way. We are trying to minimise the spread, not just protect ourselves.

Jellycatfox · 04/04/2020 15:22

*Oh stop it, Redwood. For all you know they could have been self isolating for a couple of weeks and are now clear.

Is there nothing else about which you can be irate?*
Do people really not understand the guidelines? Because this is my second language and I do.
No mixing households.
Not visiting grandparents.

Xenia · 04/04/2020 15:22

We are probably all going to be exposed to it anyway so I am not sure it makes too much difference whether it is now or later although I am respecting the rules. I can tell when my over 80 neighbour has visitors as their car goes on my spare driveway (which I do allow him in normal times) and I saw one out there today so he must have someone round although I suppose it could be an emergency plumber's car - but it's nto a van but it's none of my business. The rules are very difficult and people's lives can be very difficult. Live and let live. He might have a child bringing needed food over I suppose.

Nanny0gg · 04/04/2020 15:22

@bluewafflewithmayo
So many posters who would have been jostling for a good view at Nuremberg in 30s.

Seriously?
I Can't even be flippant and invoke Godwin's law. That was a hideous thing to say.

Nixby3 · 04/04/2020 15:26

The amount of people on here talking about curtain-twitches insinuating that they're busybody telltales is worrying. What is it people don't understand? The rules could not be clearer - stay at home, only go out when its essential, don't mix with people from other households even if they're friends and family. We are fighting deadly virus ffs! Just stay at home! Some people are either incredibly stupid, incredibly selfish or a mixture of both.

Wehttam · 04/04/2020 15:28

Xenia Live and let live, Ha! Don’t expect your neighbour to be around much longer if he is ignoring the guidelines at over 80. I would educate myself if I were you, on the reasons why it’s best to get it later instead of sooner so that you may have a better chance of survival and why we are doing what we are doing.

If you are following the rules I would definitely try to understand why those rules are in place.

Mintychoc1 · 04/04/2020 15:29

This behaviour is everyone’s business, in much the same way as it would have been during WW2 if people didn’t bother with blackouts at night.
We’re all hating lockdown, we want it to be over as soon as possible, and we want to stop being afraid that our hospitals will be overwhelmed.
So when people ignore the rules it affects everyone.

What I find most depressing is the number of people on this thread who are finding excuses for OP’s neighbours behaviour, or telling OP to mind her own business. If this is representative of the population as a whole, then no wonder we’re in this mess. Thick and selfish.

Wehttam · 04/04/2020 15:29

Nixby definitely a mixture of both! It’s mindblowing. 🤯

Jenasaurus · 04/04/2020 15:37

I feel you OP, I am missing my 2 sons, one aged 27 and so close in his home with his fiance and puppy but yet so far, and the other son, 30, who again is just about 20 minutes drive from me with his girlfriend but I havent seen either. I am lucky though my DD lives with me and, both her and her BF are in lockdown with me, feel guilty as I am sure his mum misses him as it alone at this time.

Inkpaperstars · 04/04/2020 15:50

I'm disgusted and depressed by the fact people are behaving like this and mixing households. I feel anger and contempt for them.

I don't know what is wrong with them. Did they not hear the plea from the chief nurse yesterday mourning her colleagues ..please stay at home for them.

EverythingChanges321 · 04/04/2020 15:53

An older friend of mine is on a Covid-19 ward. I’ve no idea if she’ll make it as she’s 75 with some health issues including dodgy lungs.
She was initially looking after her primary aged grandchildren so her daughter could carry on working. (Not essential work)
We tried to gently warn her against having them over but she loves them and sees them regularly and assumed the risks had been exaggerated.
Her daughter is beside herself with worry and massive guilt but it’s in the lap of the gods now. Sad
No-one think it’s will happen to them.

Parker231 · 04/04/2020 15:55

Today’s reported deaths included 13 people at a care home, five London bus drivers and a five year old. What is it going to take for people to realise it could be your DH, your parents or your five year old? If your five year old dies and you have symptoms, you will not be able to be at their funeral.

Tistheseason17 · 04/04/2020 15:55

This is bonkers.

Some of the views on here will be why more people die. Selfish twunts.

If the other people are not supposed to be visiting simpoly report them to the police.

It won't be the highlight of your week as was commented earlier - but know that when the polcie explain to them the risk they present to the vulnerable you can feel that at least one more family has been educated.

If people do not change their attitudes we will be indoors for a LOT longer. Jeez. And don't moan cause you can't get a GP appointment in a few months - GPs are dying due to ignorant people like some on this post...

cuparfull · 04/04/2020 16:02

Bloody hell !! is Lynda07 Sat 04-Apr-20 13:38:26 winding us up or just THICK! NO interaction with anybody outside your own house.

NONE Get it!

Lovemusic33 · 04/04/2020 16:03

This thread just shows how thick some people really are. The rules are pretty clear, so clear that I understand them. Do no visit people’s houses (including family and friends), do not mix households, do not go anywhere unless really necessary.

Going to visit relatives is putting people at risk and giving the virus the ability to spread.

If people do not listen, do not stick to the rules then this is going to go in for much longer than it has too.

We all miss our families, we miss friends but the sooner we do as we are told the sooner we can spend quality time with our loved ones.

Hopeisnotastrategy · 04/04/2020 16:05

I’m in Spain and I’d have no compunction whatsoever about calling the police ( non- emergency number). People like this endanger everyone else, not just themselves, and undo all of the good work being done by others. They will prolong the lockdown and make a bad situation far worse.

We have had the army and the police out patrolling and on roadblocks for weeks and they aren’t messing about. Virtually everyone here supports it, because the alternative is far worse. Mankind is currently engaged in a life and death struggle with a lethal virus, not a popularity competition.

The level of ignorance among many people about how the virus spreads is shocking. They should educate themselves quickly.

LolaSmiles · 04/04/2020 16:07

I Can't even be flippant and invoke Godwin's law. That was a hideous thing to say.
That sort of sentiment is all over here at the moment.
On another thread when people were objecting to people going out and about some posters were saying that it's no wonder it was easy to recruit to the Stasi. Other threads have accused those promoting staying home, not making unnecessary journeys and challenging trips for chocolate, to visit non-cohabiting partners etc of wanting to live in a police state.

I can't help but wonder if some people are feeling rather sensitive about selfish behaviours being rightly called out.

GabsAlot · 04/04/2020 16:13

A 5 year old has died today/yesterday-everyone still think op is a busy body

lynda you clealry dont understand the rules go look them up

TheWordmeister · 04/04/2020 16:13

People clearly still don't get it.

We have friends that have come back from a holiday in Australia. They are posting on FB about how much they're looking forward to seeing their 23-year-old daughter this weekend. She doesn't live with them.

At least 10 people have put them right in the comments, but they have still gone off in the car for a 1.5 hour journey to see her in her shared flat. Confused

BlueGheko · 04/04/2020 16:17

I'm just back from parents, we sat in the garden chatting for 10 minutes several meters apart, if I didn't go round with their shopping they wouldn't have any food. I don't enter their house, disinfect their shopping and my hands so what exactly is the problem with that when social distancing is being adhered to?

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