Breaking the lockdown rules

[Pleasenocorona2020]

Me and my boyfriend live separately. We miss each other and this not seeing each other is driving us crazy. We don’t want to move In Together just yet. He wants to carry on the relationship as normal by coming to stay at mine but I’m sceptical because he is still going out to work. I work from home so have minimal contact with the world but he’s a risk as he works. Are we being silly to visit each other as normal?

So why don't we all visit our friends and family if there is no risk?

Don’t be so stupid.

I agree, @Mascotte

I think there should be some common sense used.

I have been at home with my DC for over a fortnight. They haven't been outside, other than for walks with me in isolated places. DP and I both WFH and have been doing so for over a fortnight. Neither of us has seen anyone else. I've been to get some bits of shopping from local places - but that risk would be the same if DP and I lived together.

The blanket 'stay at home' message is to stop people from thinking that they can just carry on socialising as normal. The 'big' message has to be simple and clear enough to get through to everyone.

The OP's situation is slightly different, in that her partner is still going to work. I'm not sure what I'd do in that situation.

I'm disgusted that you think this is a question that needs to be asked

Both of you should be staying at home, celan and Mascotte and OP - and anybody else who's pondering this. We're ALL missing somebody.

It's very selfish to think that you can just do this and just do that. You can't, we can't. Not now. Follow the rules.

My DC are missing my parents like crazy. We previously lived with them and they're more like the second parent than grandparents, and certainly have more contact with them than they do with their father (ordinarily). They haven't seen each other for 3 weeks (as we were self isolating before lockdown). We all want nothing more than to see each other but even though the risk is tiny (we're all been at home aside from a few shopping trips). The rules apply to everyone, including me, my children, my parents and YOU.

So why don't we all visit our friends and family if there is no risk?

If you have weighed it all up, and there is genuinely more risk of being run over by a bus than there is of spreading CV to your family or catching it from them, I would go ahead and visit them, @ineedaholidaynow

FFS

The government are asking us to do the easiest thing possible - stay at home. Sit in your arse and watch TV. You're not being asked to go out to war, it'll be like going on holiday without him. Stop being pathetic and selfish - the sooner people start making small changes in their life the sooner things can get back to normal. That's how it works

@celan our situations sound very similar. I wonder the same. I am suffering terribly with some triggering stuff so it would be good for that. Like you it’s a long term relationship but don’t live together because of my kids. I’m not going out other than for walks and very rare shopping

Please get real.

And try to think of others rather than missing this idiot of a boyfriend.

Christ MN is an ugly horrible bunch of people at the moment. Give the OP advice and explain the rules but fgs, don't be so bloody mean and eager to beat someone when down.

The deputy chief medical officer addressed this - she said either move in together or don’t see each other. And as previous posters have suggested no this isn’t something in which ‘common sense’ can be applied to see if you can flout the rules. This is a serious pandemic and thousands will die. That could you (you is a collective you - so if you choose to ignore the rules you could potentially leave your child parent less). It’s an serious as that

@LyingWitchInTheWardrobe I’m far from selfish and I am at home.

The 'follow the rules' exhortation is made for people who can only behave themselves if there are absolute rules to follow. If we could all make sensible decisions, there wouldn't be any need for these rules, and there would be no lockdown (with all its hideous MH and economic consequences).

Anyone who was reasonably sensible would of their own accord have stayed away from large gatherings, parties, nightclubs, football matches, races etc once this started creeping up on us. Then we could all still be going about our business, but in a more cautious and restrained manner.

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Off topic, but I see this 'X in a box' a lot in pp posts. What does it mean? Are there emojis that don't translate across platforms.? (And what on earth was this string supposed to convey?!)

celan if you think you're right then there's nothing that anybody can say to you. You are wrong about your assessment and I don't believe that you're qualified to make it but regardless, there are prevailing rules in place - applying to everybody - and you're in default of them.

I won't berate you because it's pointless but know that you're actually causing distress to many posters and that's a bit trollish, in my opinion. If you won't do what's right, what government has instructed as all to do then at least have the decency to keep quiet.

OP, do you share your household with anyone else or live alone?

If it's just you on your own, then i'm going out on a limb here, to say that if you want to see your BF (and he is still going to work) then you are the one most at risk.

If you are Ok with that, then fine.

But if you live with anyone else, then YABVVU.

I havent seen 2 of my dc for 2 weeks because they were at their dads at the start of lockdown. I miss them so much I've been crying daily but I want to do what's best for them so we are keeping apart.
Not seeing a dp is completely different.

Yes stay at home my Nan is 96 in a care home she’s used to her family visiting all the time and now we can’t see her she has early stages of dementia so will no doubt think we have just abandoned her! One of us saw her every single day and now nothing! I have never once thought about putting her, myself or anyone else at risk by visiting her. It’s hard but we have to stay home.

It's tough I understand, but there's a reason even family aren't able to see each other. My dd7 can't see her dad and I can't see my dp as we don't live together at the moment, but you just have to look at the bigger picture here. If you or your dp get taken off ill in an ambulance and have to go to hospital, you won't be able to see each other to hen under much worse conditions. Do what is advised and stay home and safe.

Chandos it's a facepalm emoji.

@ChandosBucks it looks like this...

You've been told to stay at home. You should not be visiting each other.

Hilarious how some people think they are immune to a deadly virus. You absolutely cannot make that assessment when you’re still mixing with people and going shopping. Seriously. Selfish.

I would chance it but for the fact he’s a) still working and b) obviously isn’t that concerned about the rules.
That makes him a higher risk which is obviously what the rules are trying to minimise.You can’t change his behaviour but you can do the right thing and refuse.
It’s for a few weeks. Sure you can think of ways to amuse each other through the power of technology.Could even be fun.