The positive mental health thread:-pt 5

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Bad day today. Mum has a blocked nose and is achy. She's mid fifties. I'm terrified she has it.

Hold your breath and block your ears and keep your eyes on something closer to home and when you look back up we'll be through this.

@Noooblerooble that has just made me tear up in the nicest possible way! I thought this today, when I'm just focusing on looking after my DD and playing with her, doing ordinary things like changing the beds or cooking tea, life feels very ordinary and safe. It's only when I let my brain wander into the future, the bigger picture, the what ifs, the things and people we're missing, that I start to feel a little bit chokey, like I'm swimming underwater. I'm going to try very, very hard to take your advice because it's excellent. Keep swimming, keep focusing on what's happening in my happy little house and the rest of the world will right itself and we will indeed be looking back on this sooner than we will know.

Do you live alone? I'm sending you the hugest of un-mumsnetty cuddles.

Exactly how I feel too. I'm alright just doing my thing at home with my family, housework and baking and working from home. But the quiet evenings are horrible I suddenly feel very sort of homesick (despite being at home obviously) I really think it's because I miss seeing my mum and dad. I see them so often usually. We have been chatting lots of course but especially me and my mum we were always taking the kids out together or going to a cafe for a long chat. It isn't the same. And she has been a bit poorly with a bad throat so I'm worried about her too.

One day at a time and we can all do this. Hugs to all of you who need it, we are all here chatting it's a great comfort.

Poshposh I hope your mum is okay and feels better soon, I'm sure she will.

Hi, keep losing you all. Struggling today, but I’ll be back.

@Pishposhpashy Could it be Hayfever I didn't no Hayfever could cause a blocked nose and aches and pains but it does also causes itchy throats and stuff

@foxessocks I miss my mum too but trying to take comfort in the fact she is safe. Dropping her shopping off breaks my heart but I'm grateful I'm able to do it and she's only five minutes away.

Well, I'll give you a funny one..

Was just at the sink, looking out the window & yelled to DH to come & look ...................................... there was a jet trail in the sky!!

(We live close to the Gatwick flight path & haven't seen a con trail for days)

@Nooblerooble

I feel at an advantage right now in that i have experienced some pretty awful things in my life and they've given me a knowledge that very hard things largely pass (with some exceptions obviously) and you can be ok again. More than ok. Humans are an incredibly resilient species. I don't want to imply that others haven't been through bad things too but I know some won't have done and perhaps it does help to hear that.

Amen to that.

Are you my best friend?! She and I both lost a parent at a very young age and I think it's given us a resilience (and a bond) we might not otherwise have.

The human mind is an amazing thing.

I had a bit of a teary moment today while taking my daily Boris-Walk through our little town.

It’s full of independent shops, and seeing all the notices on the windows, mostly handwritten by people I know well, really touched me.

They all sounded so brave and hopeful, with messages like ‘Stay Safe!’ and ‘See You On The Other Side!’ Bless them.

I really hope they all stay well and that their businesses can survive. It’s not about the money. It’s about the life of the town.

Oh so much Pinkarsedfly. I live a few miles from a similar town. All independent shops apart from a few charity shops, a lovely small place. I do worry how they are going to survive but I think locals will be there, supporting, buying, in the future. More than ever

(We live close to the Gatwick flight path & haven't seen a con trail for days)

Us too. I was mesmerized by a plane yesterday. Like I'd never seen one before!

Hello!
I’ve been to work today (my one day on site a week, first one back after isolating)

So nice to see my work mates! We even took a socially distant walk together to the on site Costa and drank them together outside.

@Noooblerooble here is a belated virtual hug from me and some of these . It must be tough living alone to say the least!! Hope you’re ok. I know this probably sounds pathetic but if you are desperate for a cuddle maybe give a soft toy a try?! I have an old teddy bear from when I was very ill 15 years ago and if I feel very anxious at night I sometimes grab him for a hug if dh is asleep.

@AlandAnna your distancing coffee sounds lovely!

Isn’t it funny how we have all started to value the tiny things again, being around people, fresh air, the sound of birds singing, our freedom, all those things we usually take for granted? I really hope our value of those things remains when this is all over. And people’s value for dumb things like the Kardashians ends....

Anyway. Here’s a few pics of Henry in case it brightens anyone’s day. He has two times a day when he goes mad and runs around the carpet at full speed, jumping up doing binkys and wiggling his head around. I tried to grab stills of it- he is mostly a blur!

Ps in case anyone wonders why we had to put a sheet and his nibble sticks around the edge of the wall, he is going through a temporary annoying phase of trying to rip the wallpaper off.

@Bunnyflop
@Millie2013
Thank you
Was wobbling yesterday! Just going to focus on today and forget about school reopening. It is what it is!

Morning all!
Sorry haven’t checked in for a while, had a bit of a crap low day yesterday too. I think for a lot of us the novelty of being at home, no stressful commute etc has worn off and we’re left with missing people and the whole bloody uncertainty. As DH said to me yesterday, we’ve never lived with circumstances like these before and it’s ok to feel pissed off or low at times.

I’m feeling physically better now - also finally got test results back and negative for Coronavirus (great news, a little part of me was hoping positive as I was feeling better and it would have meant kick ass immunity going back to work!)

Hang in there, one day at a time. Hope you’re ok today @Noooblerooble and @Bunnyflop, and anyone else having a rubbish day yesterday/ today

Hi, @SchadenfreudePersonified - really good to see you here.

I know this probably sounds pathetic but if you are desperate for a cuddle maybe give a soft toy a try?! I have an old teddy bear from when I was very ill 15 years ago and if I feel very anxious at night I sometimes grab him for a hug if dh is asleep

Thank you for that. That's a brilliant idea. One of my DCs lives alone in a flat in London. She's fine but I worry a lot.Wish she was here but she can't be. She has a longterm boyfriend but can't see him, so she sees absolutely nobody. Not much fun when you're in your 20s. She's always been a teddy girl, and I know she has a couple up there in her flat. Will suggest this.

Morning all
Another day. Going to try and sort my wardrobe today. My slippers are falling apart and I have a new pair but can only find one of the pair! Hoping the other one will be unearthed in the back of the wardrobe- I will be thrilled if it is - small things..
Today my mum is getting a butchers delivery and will drive over (they literally live round the corner) and drop half at the bottom of our drive - exciting. My lovely cousin is going to Aldi for us as we are still self isolating.

Dh who has been poorly with symptoms is on 8 days today and wants to come out of the lounge he has been shut in. I’m stressed about this as yesterday he still had a slightly raised temperature ( for him 37.4) and is still coughing a bit. I want him to stay until Sunday/ Monday and review. Is it worth seeking advice from 111? Just hyper about it. Have googled and in Europe they go with 14 days. Anxiety not good atm. Trying really hard to keep it in check.

Anyhow gardening otherwise I think and maybe a walk - I’ve not been out for a week. My ds’s both go for a run late each night. I do feel for them - 19 and 24 with much loved girlfriends, happy social lives and life’s on hold for them.

Mum has a blocked nose and is achy

Same here. I don’t think it’s “it”. I think it’s a spring cold. Thank you all for the toastie conversation the other day. After craving one with pregnancy level yearning, I finally had a cheese and tomato one last night. It was ambrosial.

Thank you for the welcome Zoidberg

I'm very prone to depression so am trying to keep off the scary threads (which do nothing but whip people up into a state of hysteria) and just enjoy the positive ones.

Bunnyflop - pity you don't have two rabbits, then I could have sounded all sleazy and said "Nice buns!'

Had lovely dog walk this morning - where there was once only a roar of traffic we are surrounded by birdsong! It's glorious!

Hope it works somewhat @Roussette it must be rough for her being alone.

@SchadenfreudePersonified how about these buns?

Bunnyflop

Whoooo-hoooo!

Henry brightens up my day ❤️