The rise in the hero complex

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There has been a certain rise in people claiming they are or thinking they are heroes. "We are saving lives".

That basically involves an avid desire to report anyone that dares to leave the house, police everyone else, dismiss the worries and concerns of others, ridiculing, attacking,bullying and emotionally blackmailing anyone who struggles, some kind of irrational fear/hate of children and gleeful virtue signaling about how much better they are at staying home. Abusing key workers that in their eyes are not doing their job,for doing their job, following guidelines(made up or official) ,not following guidelines,in the wrong clothes etc.

There are people who are seriously struggling right now, emotionally,financially,mentally,physically etc. People that are becoming more and more vulnerable as more restrictions and public policing come in. People that have killed themselves due to the situation we are in.

They are not heroes,they are not saving lives.

Plus my baby daughter’s teeth are coming in so randomly she looks like a tiny Shane MacGowan so that’s always cause for cheer

To everyone who is struggling, I get it. I have found this week so hard. Work is so crazy and I feel like I'm failing on all levels.

To all of those in this thread struggling

Glad we have this thread where we can laugh and voice our worries without being jumped on by people and therefore extenuating the worries and stress.

By the way, I did get steak and wine. I know it is not allowed but fuck, sooooo looking forward to it. I maintained all the government rules and don't plan on going out again soon. Thankfully my poor son is dealing so far ok with mum always working and stressed and being stuck in but I can see the writing on the wall the longer this goes on

Even if he is ignoring me at the moment as I have put Star Wars on

I agree OP.

And please don't hate me but I am finding alot of cheekiness from NHS workers on FB groups where someone will put something very obviously trying to get a freebie. An example I saw today:
'I'm a tired, stressed and over-run NHS worker. Is there anyone still open who can change a car tyre?'

Ahen then there is a suddenly flurry of posts offering a free one, calling her a hero etc etc. My BIL is an A&E doctor in our large local hospital and said they aren't over run at all (yet).

Yes I appreciate you for being an NHS worker but I appreciate the people working in Tesco, teachers, delivery drivers, etc etc as well. And I don't see them continuously wanting congratulations.

The altruism is driving me mad.

@HermanHermit
There’s a fantastic hero of the lockdown doing what presumably is an April fool in the Times / Mail / front of Grazia today. A backbench Labour MP who has done one shift in A&E is claiming to be on the frontline of the fight against the virus and posing in her scrubs. She does about 4 shifts per year in the Parliamentary recesses and then PR’s the living daylights out of them. Despicable behaviour.

I think that was totally deadly serious, I'm afraid! Hey, she could be deputy leader by this time tomorrow.

DD1 just asked if she can go for a little walk before bed. DH said, "but you've had a long walk to the park earlier". She said, "yes, but it's actually just the same walk, only we came home for a break in the middle" A three hour break...

Thank you for this thread - given me something to laugh about today. I want a Spanish soldier - I will even consider a returned one as not too fussy.
Today I was a hero and saved lives. I lounged on the sofa braless whilst reading a book and playing solitaire.

@Wetfloortiles I don't see anyone organising a clap for supermarket/delivery workers. Although I have to say organising clap for anyone is a bad message.

Who said steak and wine isn't allowed? (Looks confused). Bugger that, that's essential, if this family of four is to survive one another.

Especially the wine. . .

Thanks all. I am ok.

It's just a tough week.

My team are being furloughed. Except me. Which would be fine buy I am expected to do the work of all 4. By myself.

Parts of the company are being furloughed from friday, but no one is telling me which ones. Despite the fact that my job is coordination the reporting. So I resorted to calling 22 departments. Which has taken me a day and a half.

People who are being furloughed are unhappy. Those who are not being furloughed are unhappy they are only getting 20% more but having to work full time, while others sit at home and kicking off in the hope of being furloughed. The main reason being they have figured out they wont be that much worse off given they wont have to pay for petrol or public transport and cant actually go anywhere to spend money.

Everyone is asking me questions as though I am the CEO. I cant get hold of the CEO, my boss, to clarify things. Finance director just called me at 6.15pm (i started work at 6.00am) and he though every body was going, completely. How he thought that, I dont know.

Ds has HFA, which give us up and down days, has gone to his dads. Whilst it means I can concentrate on work, I miss him. Want him with me. Even though I know he is safe.

Dp isnt well, but wont get his preventative treatment just yet. He was made redundant at the beginning of this and they wont take any of them back and furlough.

I miss my mum and dad. Dad is a key worker. Mum need shielding. They are doing their best.

My best friend, I miss her and her kids. If it wasnt for her I wouldnt have survived my divorce. It's her husbands birthday next week, plans are obviously cancelled. I miss my mil.

And so many people want to scream at people for adding a packet of hot cross buns to a food shop or telling people they would only send their kids to the other parent because they cant cope. Just generally being horrible.

It's just getting on top of me. A few days ago, I was thinking of all the positives. Ds is happier having me working from home all the time. He is homeschooled, so the working from home and schooling was easy for us. We did it on his days with me. Me and dp are getting proper quality time, cooking together, waking up together. The benefits to the environment. The puppy is loving sitting with me while I work. The way my small community has mainly, pulled together and helping eachother.

I need to concentrate on the good. Laugh at this thread. Dye my hair and eat chocolate to pick me up.

I will be ok tomorrow.

Oh and just to tip the over zealous shopping police....I also have a rib eye in the fridge.

Will definitely feel better later.

It’s also just gone Year End too @shitsgettingcrazy so that’s just another dollop of shit to deal with too.

Echoing a PP above re altruism, it’s doing my fucking head in. The work I do puts DH and me in demand atm and I need to pay attention to LinkedIn multiple times a day, it’s worse than FB on there, I’m starting to hallucinate and thinking everyone wants me to get clap for the NHS

You nearly had me feeling bad for you there shits.. until you got to the puppy
FLUFFFYYYY!
Seriously though, I would much rather be furloughed than trying to work from home so I feel for you.
My positives are:
Teen is actually willing to be seen with me in public and we have had loads of long walks (yes, we are murderers) and explored the woods and had great chats.
No cars, no pollution
I can get dc to eat all their food because WHO KNOWS when there will be more food
I have read lots. And organised my nail polish collection.
Hugs to all. Yes, I am slightly pissed and it's not even sundown.

@Shitsgettingcrazy that's really shit.

It's a lot to deal with and the work situation sounds highly frustrating.

I've been doing online courses to keep busy/requirement for being at home.

Can't help with your situation besides listening, and swearing in sympathy at your boss but maybe the fact that this course exists might cheer you up.

Drink all the wine, eat all the steak!

I'll contribute memes, mindless ramblings and the antihero badge.

Oh and we obviously need puppy pics!!!

Anyone got a spare Spanish soldier, not the herpes one though.... thought we could club together and send one to @Shitsgettingcrazy

I've sent a few care packages this week, I was going to send Spanish soldiers but all the ffing panic buyers got there first...so I broke mn law and sent Gin and chocolate 🤣😇

You nearly had me feeling bad for you there shits.. until you got to the puppy
She definitely helps cheer me up.

She is about 20 weeks. I work with a rescue. Her and her sisters were abandoned. We took them in as an emergency foster then adopted her.

Oh and please donate a Spanish soldier. Already threatened to replace dp with one. He got a bit of quarantine martyr syndrome. He was told to pack it in.

Cuteness overload

Another better photo

So insanely jealous of people with dogs right now

I feel bad now. I do have 2. The older is a working cocker. The younger some sort of cocker cross.

The younger one seems happy enough at home. The older one took a few days to settle into 1 walk a day. But both ok.

I do feel lucky I have them

Aww she's adorable.

Sorry my sympathy dried out. You have THAT to cuddle with.

Yeah. To be fair I have a cheek feeling shit about anything.

I love this thread....always cheers me up!

But posted on here wonky

Since things are so desperate I Had a really ,really good look in the stock room,rang all suppliers and this is all the Spanish I could find.

No one is that desperate...

However they would fit as thread mascot given how we started.

Haaaaaaaa hahaha