May wedding - caronavirus

[Dramalamaindeed]

Anyone else worried?

I have about 10 guests flying from various parts of the world - none of which are the high risk areas but who knows what 2 months will bring?

Then I’m worried we can’t have the wedding as no mass gatherings could be banned/ we could be sick.

I haven’t taken out insurance but thinking of doing it now but will they even cover it?

Whole thing is a joke. Basically my venue won’t cancel because they will loose our money, we still have to pay them if we want it to go ahead in June. I’m so fed up.

Support to everyone on this thread. I am just a wedding guest of a couple (May/June/July) and best friend of June bride who with dp is going through the nightmare of trying to work out what to do with three days of ceremonies, family who had planned to travel here, etc etc.
If I had magic wand (and forgetting environmental problems just for a second) I’m imagining when this is all over hiring say Ibiza or perhaps Sardinia (depending on numbers and rsvps if the fuckers reply,eh?) and having mass multi faith multi style multi everything cv-affected wedding event.
Ok waking up now.
Sending support to you all.

Mine are the same, @WhatNext277. They have no intention of cancelling... final payments are still due in a week or two and they maintain that if “vital staff” aren’t available; they have stand-ins ready.

They don’t seem at all concerned about the virus, guests, anything really.

What are you going to do? I’m unsure. My work have officially shut down today and we are all working from home now until god knows when

I've just moved ours to 30th October. The venue allowed changes up to 1 month before the event thankfully. to all of you especially those having trouble with their venues.

Hugs to all

My wedding is supposed to be in July. I’ve heard back from my venue and they’ve said they intend to go ahead with everything that’s been booked, but then admitted they were just hoping everything would blow over by then

They have said that we can postpone, so that’s something.
My concern is that if all pubs and restaurants and hotels have no business for the next few months, how are they actually going to survive and not go bust (taking our money with them???) We’ve paid about £6k so far, no insurance.

I refuse to pay any more money to the venue till everything is more clear. As I said, we are working from home now until June/July so god knows.

I was meant to get married on Friday and had everything paid and we have now managed to move the date to October. Please don't give up at this stage, our venue was so flexible. Big hugs to everyone.

Oh @Metagoth, that’s great news!

megagoth you think you and dp could somehow wangle this to mean you need two anniversaries some years ?

Due to get married end of May, caterers actually approached us and said we can reschedule up to 3 weeks before wedding and same for venue.

We might sneak off to the local registry office and get married just the two of us and then have a big reception when it's more appropriate or we might be ok to go ahead as planned, we're just seeing how it plays out and then making good decisions

My registrar and venues are still on for Saturday . We're waiting to see what Boris says this evening and will then start calling our guests to see who's still coming.

This is what I mean , if guests don’t want to attend and 70 year olds are told to stay inside then I don’t want to go ahead

We had an email from our band. They’re still going ahead for May but if we want to cancel we owe them £1500 if we want to change our date it’ll be £200 but that will come off the balance.

They’re saying consider Thursday and Sundays. I just want my original wedding date

I'm so glad I found this thread again, I'm utterly heartbroken. Wedding due to take place at the end of May, 150 guests coming from all over the world and staying in a huge variety of hotels, Airbnb and holiday cottages, so if we cancel they are all going to lose their money, as well as us losing our money (I don't realistically see us clawing much back from the insurance).

DHtb and I are happy to just sign the paperwork and be married at this stage, but I've waited almost 2 decades for this wedding, lost 5 stone and put so much in to it, and now it's a complete mess.

Hugs to you @Didntwanttochangemyname
That’s utterly shit.
The whole thing is surreal, isn’t it.
Mine isn’t until July, so although the venue has said we can postpone, I’ve no idea if they’ll still be in business in the future.
It’s a pub/large restaurant, and no idea if they’ll survive if they have no customers for the foreseeable future.

Our insurers have confirmed again today that they won't cover anything that is directly or indirectly caused by Government action, so we are essentially screwed. I guess I have to make peace with losing all our savings as well as not being able to get married

To the ones moving to October, how do you know it will be okay by then?
Our wedding is supposed to be in 3.5 weeks. Most of our wedding teams have said they'll let us reschedule but how do we know when to reschedule for?

Dramalamaindeed what fuckers! That is actually evil, basically trying to make more money out of shit situation that everyone is in.
What is their justification? I'm shocked. Can you give it a bit of time because they obvs don't realise they need the business especially realising that no one will be booking weddings!

If businesses aren't flexible they'll cut their nose off to spite their own face.

We haven't said or done anything yet regarding suppliers, until we have a meeting with our venue and spoken to our insurance company.

Out photographer has been lovely and we're working out how to reschedule and figuring it all - shes so professional. However
had a really cheeky message from my make up/hair girl who basically approached me saying hope you have insurance because i'm not giving your deposit back! She'd obvs decided we'd be cancelling so fuck it she'd let us know how unprofessional she really is.

So she would forego a customer and another £175

How do i respond to her?
She presumed (rightly) that we'll have to cancel and I've said we are rescheduling but she said if I wanted to rebook she wouldn't honour our deposit because other brides will need her.....wtf...

I cannot believe how these businesses are being! Our evening venue have said they will carry our payment over if we reschedule for next year.
@Yukaplantpot I would be thanking the hairdresser for her attitude ensuring that not only are you cancelling her services now, but there is absolutely no chance you would be returning to her for your new date.

Exactly! Also surely you'd want to keep customers on side because they're going to help you out in the long term

I think the writing was on the wall. Months back she was a bit obnoxious and snooty and I thought hang on.....I haven't let her know anything. She'll be the last of my suppliers to be told.

I don't understand it. If I were her I'd be sympathetic and understanding and be flexible.
She's gonna have to realise not many wedding are being planned right now and she won't have a business with her attitude.

My photographer has be incredible!

Hi all. I get married at the end of May and we're hoping to go ahead until the Government or venue tell us otherwise. I do have family that won't make it which is sad.

Are people rearranging now or waiting to see what happens? Our preference would be to do the legal bit if at all possible if the "normal" wedding we want can't go ahead and reschedule the party if necessary.

We've postponed our reception but the marriage, providing the Registrars are still working will be going ahead. We don't know when the reception will take place though.

I've just spoken to my parents and we've decided to bite the bullet and cancel. I'm absolutely gutted.
Currently crying in to my wine. I know I need to keep perspective and it could be so much worse, people are losing loved ones, but God I'm so sad right now. I feel terrible my friends and family are going to lose money because of me.

Hopefully we can still get married as just us, which is fine. But it's all just a bit of a shock.